Is It Possible To Die Without Regrets?

[YoungSeeker]

Is it possible? It seems to me like it isn't. You can avoid the most common regrets people have on their deathbed if you put a lot of effort into it. These are things: not spending enough time with your family, giving a fuck about opinions of others, not accomplishing your dreams, not being yourself. You can avoid these most common regrets if you focus on those but you can't avoid everything. You won't die at peace until you operate from your current way of looking at the world. There's always more we want. That's the reason we aren't happy now. Because we tell ourselves that we need more. After accomplishing one goal there's another one that instantly appears. So how can you die without regrets then?

[123456789]

Who dies, who regrets? You? Who are you? 

Inquire.

[Prabhaker]

1 hour ago, YoungSeeker said:

So how can you die without regrets then?

Death is beautiful only for those who have lived their life beautifully, who have not been afraid to live, who have been courageous to live – who loved, who danced, who celebrated. 

A miserly person will die with clenched fists—still holding and clinging, still trying not to die, still trying not to relax. A loving person will die with open fists—sharing…even sharing his death as he shared his life. You can see everything written on the face—whether this man has lived his life fully alert, aware. If he has, then on his face there will be a light shining; You come close to him and you will feel silent—not sad, but silent. How you die reflects your whole life, how you lived. In that one moment your whole life becomes condensed. 

Meditation provides a natural and a simple way to consciously ‘die before you die’ – to rehearse dying. 

[Xpansion]

Stop telling yourself you need more. Stop focusing on outcomes and enjoy the process. The horizon is continuously moving so stop trying to get somewhere because you never can. Happiness is not in the imagined future, it's here now and always has been.  Give up personal development self help bollocks and Read "The subtle art of not giving a fuck" by Mark Manson

Learn how to enjoy being nobody going nowhere doing nothing

Edited October 19, 2016 by Xpansion

[ajasatya]

be present and truly sincere in every instant of your life.

there's no other teaching.

do you have the courage to live?

[Self-Mastery]

Yes. It is possible for those who fully grasped the meaning of "Die before you die" and applied it during their life.

PS. This quote is attributed to several people. I'm not sure about the origin.

Edited October 19, 2016 by Seyed

[Jared Gregory]

Couldn't put it better than @iago iriarte arhatha Live in the now! be completely present.

in the words of Eckhart Tolle " accept what is"

[rush]

@iago iriarte arhatha @Seyed @Jared Gregory If you cant fulfill needs, then how can you accept the present moment ? What you guys say makes sense but very hard to implement in reality ! 

[Self-Mastery]

45 minutes ago, rush said:

@iago iriarte arhatha @Seyed @Jared Gregory If you cant fulfill needs, then how can you accept the present moment ? What you guys say makes sense but very hard to implement in reality ! 

I do not think anyone here is advocating that we should not fulfill our needs. I am personally a big fan of fulfilling needs . We should not suppress anything in our life. If you look at Maslow hierarchy of needs, it says you need to handle the basics things first. Having said that, It is still possible to not fulfill needs and reach to a peace in a way that you would not regret in your deathbed, but it is really hard to accomplish in my opinion. I personally prefer to fulfill my needs. However, what matter here is the mind set. If we get stuck in the mindset that we always have some needs and we always have to fulfill them, we never get rid of needs and we will never be satisfied. We somehow should realize at some point in our life that fulfilling our needs does not give us the ultimate peace. At that point, we realize that we have whatever we need. I'm personally far from this point. Thus, you can safely assume that I am just preaching here . Think about mindset. 

Have we ever been fully satisfied in our life? We have always been chasing something, this is a never ending journey.  We will be regretful in our deathbed with no doubt if we stuck in this mindset.

Edited October 19, 2016 by Seyed

[ajasatya]

@rush if you're present, your needs will start to fade out.

"letting go of desire", "resignation"... the sages talk a lot about this attitude.

zen + yoga did the job for me. i can very solidly imagine myself saying "thank you, life" on my deathbed. this is the most sincere and profound gratitude i can imagine.

[YoungSeeker]

On 10/19/2016 at 7:55 PM, iago iriarte arhatha said:

do you have the courage to live?

I don't. But also I don't have the courage to die.

[YoungSeeker]

On 10/19/2016 at 0:07 AM, Seyed said:

Have we ever been fully satisfied in our life? We have always been chasing something, this is a never ending journey.  We will be regretful in our deathbed with no doubt if we stuck in this mindset.

That's what I mean. The question is: will we ever realize that this mindset doesn't work? not logically but really. I hope we will. I believe in us. I hope it won't be too late.

[ajasatya]

1 hour ago, YoungSeeker said:

I don't. But also I don't have the courage to die.

i see.

well, deep deep deep inside, the courage to live and the courage to die are the same. time will tell you. hopefully not very late.

[Shin]

3 hours ago, YoungSeeker said:

That's what I mean. The question is: will we ever realize that this mindset doesn't work? not logically but really. I hope we will. I believe in us. I hope it won't be too late.

You can already understand it and feel that it doesn't work right now.

Doesn't mean your subconcious is ok with it though, that's why your ego needs to do stupid things from time to time,

Like tryharding Hearthstone's ladder fully knowing you don't give a shit about being a good hearthstone player ...

Edited October 22, 2016 by Shin