Being Able To Stop Thinking

[Dodo]

Lately i've started experiencing a calmer mind. In my particular case, ive been struggling with stopping smoking, as whenever the thought pops up i feel like i want to get some - and usually go for it if i identify with the thought. But i am beginning to reep some benefits from meditation, and i am finding myself being able to actually not think about anything if it is not in my immediate perception. So i can close my eyes and my mind settles into nothing slowly but surely. 

This helps me with annoying "should have" thoughts and anything really that bothers my inner peace.

Now the problem is that my peace is still conditional, because i require to tune out everything to get it. I realise that an enlightened being doesnt have a problem with mind, but is just not attached to the thoughts that arise and is unconditionally at peace.

I have most trouble when i am around my girlfriend (yes, we got back together, for those who have seen other posts where i call her my ex). Our relationship seems create big waves, while i am constantly trying to calm the seas. I am taking it as a lesson from the Universe. So i cant obviously tune oit while i am with her, so i start feeling the actual problems of my ego.

But still. I think that this is a very useful superpower to have - even if its conditional, the condition is easy to achieve - at least in my circumstances.

Next stop - enlightenment city. There might be some traffic tho.

Ps: the most useful methods to stop thinking i have, come from ekhart tolle and rupert spira, i simply love those guys.

So what do you guys think - this has to be like at least 1/4 enlightenment, right?

Edited October 18, 2016 by Dodoster

[Prabhaker]

1 hour ago, Dodoster said:

(yes, we got back together, for those who have seen other posts where i call her my ex). Our relationship seems create big waves, while i am constantly trying to calm the seas.

Only things can be possessed; beings cannot be possessed. You can have a communion with a being. You can share your love, your body, your mind. You can share but you cannot do business. You cannot bargain. The more you try to possess a person, the more that person tries to become independent of you, because every person has a birthright to be free, to be himself or herself.

There is a great misunderstanding about love. Basically people are afraid of their loneliness, and because they cannot be alone they cling to the other person like a lifeline. This very clinging makes the other wriggle out of the bondage. 

Another misunderstanding about love is that it should be everlasting. On the contrary love is very fragile, it’s like a breeze, it drifts at will. No love can be permanent and that’s why it is so precious. 

 

[Telepresent]

It is a useful power to have, but it's a short-term strategy.  Good for dealing with moment-by-moment issues, not life as a whole.

It feels to me like you're making thought into an enemy - which is actually adding another layer of thought (i.e. thoughts = bad).  Probably not surprising - I'd be surprised to find anyone working this stuff out who hasn't done that - but ultimately you need to make peace with what thoughts are, and then decide whether or not you are going to take the hard road to dis-identify from them.

You're doing good.  Keep going.