Making new friends

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Just be a hermit and don't talk to anyone. Finish. 

 

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Don't cry. It will be okay. 

Everything will be okay eventually. 

 

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Love this song 

 

 

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Love this song 

 

 

This even  better. 

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Just be yourself.

To the very end. 

Just don't think about anything. 

 

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This girl omg. She is so elegant. 

 

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This guy knows so much 

 

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When did this happen? 

Wasn't he an atheist? 

 

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Dr Grande... Lol.... Haha. I know right.. Those super emotional hippies. 

Allegations of harassment from multiple people. 

People aren't connected. 

Tony Robbins was never intentionally naked. Accidentally being naked? 

It's not major evidence.. 

The recording. 

Talking to a woman.. Quote - physical abuse can be perpetrated by the victim. Allegedly he made threats against buzzfeed. His statement that they are lying. 

Look at the math. Very few people came forward. 

No physical evidence 

C'mon buzzfeed is reporting this. 

This points towards innocence.. 

The recording is also taken out of context. 

The truth is not known. But Tony made good points. 

Wealthy people are targets. 

Mental health advice portion. 

Tony is charismatic, 

Endless followers. 

Counselling and mental health. 

Coping with abuse 

Self harm 

Touching strangers 

Feelings leading to better decisions. 

Take the weight off your shoulders 

Connect with your confidence 

Unlock your inner power 

So if you rename something does it change. 

Personality talk 

He became psychology at age 8

First hand experience 

Everyone's interpretation of abuse and stress is different. 

He cured suicidal ideation

Pressured a woman to break up with her boyfriend. 

Feeling good now but feeling good later. 

 

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Stalkers as usual on my profile. No surprises there. 

Some old stalkers visited my profile today.. Can you imagine some guy  that I blocked like in 2018 still visiting my profile today??? 

Oh God. 

What is the joy in stalking a lonely girl on a forum who you have never met and never going to meet!!!! 

Whats so exciting about me really? 

I'm just a frumpy joker kind of a girl who doesn't really care about guys and is not interested in being some hot material 

What is it? 

I've seen countless men approach me whenever I'm out. Many men asking me my number.. 

It's frustrating because.... Every time I have to tell them that I've a boyfriend. 

Truly it sucks. 

 

I'm just some ordinary girl with no great ambitions. 

I can't even be myself. 

I'm like...guy why do you even like me? 

I'm not some hot girl 

 

I'm just ordinary.. 

I'm not your fantasy

And please. I am not that good at pleasing men either way. 

I usually repel everyone with my introverted closed up behavior. 

And stalkers are a daily headache 

 

 

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And I have social anxiety. 

 

 

 

 

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Trying to stay calm

 

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I just don't want to be with someone who fucks with my emotions in the name of friendship. 

 

Don't fuck with my head 

 

Don't fuck with my heart 

 

You can fuck with my body though haha (joking) 

 

 

 

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So what happens when you meet a fake person. 

This is what happens. 

This is how I used to feel around my ex. It's like I'm trying to have a conversation and he isn't there.. I used to feel odd like I'm talking to a wall or as though he has checked out of the conversation.

That's because he didn't give a damn about what I wanted to say. 

 

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I don't know why I had all these weird dreams. 

It was like if you want to be with a healthy person you should first know what healthy means. 

 

 

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I'm gathering a lot of resources on how to detect fake people especially fake nice people as well as toxic people. 

And the resources are endless. Lots of stuff on this topic. 

It means people had many experiences in this department. 

I found a very useful video on this topic. 

This video was created 11 months ago. 

Who judges your character 

They are destroying your temple within yourself  or your sanctuary. 

Make sure you disconnect from that person. 

Get away from their negativity 

1. Judgemental 

The first type of person who kills your energy is a judgemental person. 

Don't give your energy to judgemental people.

2. Doubter

Someone who is a naysayer. They tell you bad things about you. They doubt your abilities.. 

3. Boring 

These people have nothing to contribute to your life. They can still help. But if you give them too much time, then they can bore you to death. 

 

4. Over expressive. 

These people keep randomly spewing out too much information. They continue to think that they are right. For example - conspiracy theorists. 

5. Extremists 

These are very zealous. They might evangelize certain brands or ideas. They might want to push a certain agenda. They can radicalize you. They play the victim card. They love to pretend that there is an outside source ready to get them. 

6. Haters. 

Haters come in many forms. Watch them. Listen to the words they use. Many indicators. 

 

7. Cocky people 

There narcissists. There are domineering people. They want to control everything and everyone. They are all about me people. They are not trying to be a leader, they are trying to be a dictator. Give them minimal energy. 

Do not allow them to control you. 

 

8. Seducers.

They might make you feel guilty or not guilty for something. They want to manipulate you to get what they want 

 

 

9.  Over sensitive people 

They are always depressed. They are always crying. They are always They are pitiful. They are always whining. They are usually complaining about themselves. 

 

10. Deceivers 

They lie. They cheat. They steal. They manipulate. 

They take all your energy. They exploit you. 

 

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I need to learn better interpersonal skills and not depend too much on light heartedness and reward tendencies 

 

I need to upgrade my people skills. 

 

To bring out my inner beauty, be with those who consider me an asset rather than a liability. 

Also be around people who actually make me feel better and not worse. 

Don't be with people who I need to ask constant validation from. Because they are trying to take away some. 

Instead be with people who already validate me, which cuts down all the fuss. 

Have few friends but really loyal ones. Or else don't bother. 

Don't miss out on people who could be potentially good people by being overly judgemental/dismissive /or defensive around them. It's an ego battle. Realize this. The ego needs to be shusshed. 

Be with people who actually show a certain liking for you. 

If you sense dislike, then it's already on a bad track. It's not going to mend. Because there are biases there no matter what you do, those biases will keep erupting disrupting the whole situation. So be careful about people who are dismissive or show general dislike. 

 

What else do I need to take care of? 

♟ Be careful with boundaries. Don't set too strict boundaries. Also don't have zero boundaries. Set proper boundaries. This can be a tricky area. Sure work on your inter personal skills. 

♟ A lot of stuff with making friends can be a very tricky ground. So beat yourself up if things don't work out. It's not always your fault. 

 

♟ Test the other person's level of respect for you. 

♟ Also learn to respect and understand other's humanness. Because they will obviously show normal regular human nature flaws. Give them the room to be as human as possible. 

♟ Don't act too needy. It always causes repulsion. 

? Don't try too hard to impress because remember even if it worked, it's still unnecessary to do that. You just don't have to. If someone admires you, they will always be with you. Impressing others leaves more room for them to misuse you and take you for granted and treat you badly. They need to feel a certain level of formidability around you or it won't work. You will end up a doormat. 

? Try to understand how that person is perceiving you. Don't rely on your own imaginations of what that person is doing to you. Maybe they aren't perceiving you the way you are actually imagining it. This can create a huge number of clashes. 

 

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? Don't hide your feelings too much this can again create a base for cognitive biases and misunderstandings. Resolve it right there. 

? Learn to detect users. 

? Don't be with people who have bad reputation when it comes to interpersonal relationships because they will lead you astray. It's like you want to give up smoking but hanging out with smokers. Will be much harder to be disciplined and wiser if you choose such people as company. Avoid people with the D star rating. 

? Be around strong people who are ready to give you room for improvement and understand your flaws instead of snubbing you for your flaws. Because obviously they don't have time for you. 

? Keep succinct communication 

? Don't act entitled to others feelings. If they feel a certain way don't blame them for it. It's ok how they feel. They are entitled to it.. Don't get too defensive in this area 

 

?Always communicate good intent 

? Be with "mentor" type personalities rather than the "critical judge" type personalities. They are generous, open, ready to listen. 

? Weak people can't become my friends. Only strong people can become my friends. 

 

What kind of people I should avoid 

? Weak people - People who are too weak to handle my sporadic eccentric chaotic energy. I will become too overbearing for them to handle. 

? Disrespectful /unkind - people who are toxic, who don't speak respectfully. People who don't value you or don't consider you important enough. Who use you. Who treat you like crap despite you being respectful to them. You see that you are being nice, gentle, respectful to them and they still are quite harsh, cold, cocky, preachy, ridiculing, breaking boundaries, guilting, gaslighting, harmful, not trying to understand at all, increasing your sense of unworthiness, ungenerous, "don't give a shit about you" type of people. Show "uncalled for" behavior. These are the kind of people who are going to contradict you even if you are right. They will make you feel bad for nothing. 

Edited March 28, 2021 by Preety_India

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The path towards creating understanding between two people is 

?Look for "willingness and the effort to understand the other" both parties should be ready for this. 

? Blocks in the mind towards communication. These blocks are misinterpretation, cognitive biases, prejudice, preconditioned judgement/notion, ego defenses, need to impose your perspective so badly, a narcissistic tendency. Party A gives version A of the story to party B. Party B is so narcissistic that they constantly change the version A of the story and misinterpret it and make it version B. 

The person should show the willingness to remove these blocks. Or else it's futile having a conversation with them. 

? Showing understanding towards the story presented by party A. Are they being kind and supportive and non judgemental of your story. After knowing your story, they don't give a nod, they don't give a sense of support. Rather they are acting unkind as though it just doesn't matter whatever you said. Are they being nonchalant to the point of being insensitive? 

 They don't wish to give a seal of approval. They are not showing any form of understanding, support, agreement, sensitivity, acknowledgement etc. No acceptance. 

When they are not accepting, they are being incredibly cruel.. 

 

?  Accommodation stage - here they should or are ready to accommodate your side of the story and make room for who you are as a person and your needs. Now they have respect for your way of things and they act in a way suited to your needs. They accommodate you. 

 

 

Edited March 28, 2021 by Preety_India