how to Get over someone you never dated?

Vido · March 18, 2021

Hey guys, I would love your input on this.

There is this girl I really liked and tried my best to get over the feeling of lust and be friends but couldn't. Decided in the end to go our own ways. However, she's kinda is in the same friend group as me so it's hard to get over it. I now took a 3 month break from the friends group as well.

I was wondering if you could given me some tips to over come this from a spiritual perspective of love and acceptance.

SamC · March 18, 2021

Stop being with her and move on. The end.

Eternity · March 18, 2021

Good one SamC. It's humorous, but on a more serious note Vido, learn to accept yourself even if you regret your breakup with this girl. Ego is keeping you in this cycle of drama because ego wishes to stay alive. And so the ego will feed on the drama and empower itself. Every drama you encounter is just a story that you co-create with God, like a stage play. You get to play the lead while God provides the creative force for it. It really is fairly unimportant in the grand scheme of things. All stories pass away once you have seen through them. No one wins or loses. It's all just made up. So stop regretting. It only puts the rest of your life on hold. There is another and another and another woman for you just waiting in the wings for you to notice her. Let go of this little drama and another story will appear.

Vido · March 18, 2021

@Eternity @SamC Thanks guys. It keeps life on hold, I definitely agree. I think what happened to me was I think i equated that to Oh, I am not good enough or what could I have done to change that? and regrets of had I did this in the past then this wouldn't have happened. I have to process and resolve that.

Thanks for the input!

intotheblack · March 18, 2021

find new friends and go do your own thing. I walked away from my girls&boys friend group when i was younger because i broke up with my boyfriend. which was hard because we all hung out and even all took holidays together. I was the one who did the breaking up and felt that things changed between me and them after that anyway.

Edited March 18, 2021 by intotheblack

SamC · March 18, 2021

55 minutes ago, Vido said:

@Eternity @SamC Thanks guys. It keeps life on hold, I definitely agree. I think what happened to me was I think i equated that to Oh, I am not good enough or what could I have done to change that? and regrets of had I did this in the past then this wouldn't have happened. I have to process and resolve that.

Thanks for the input!

@Vido Been there done that bro. You might wanna look into the term enmeshment trauma. I think it might help you gain some clarity about your self worth issues.