10 Secret Things Girls deeply CRAVE in the Bedroom but Will NEVER Tell you

[nahtanoj]

She has good points and I know many women that like all of that. But others that don't. You have to know beforehand what is her type of energy. If a woman is very feminist (ideology) + more masculine energy, all of these 10 things would be a turn-off to her because she wants to dominate, if you have this type of woman in a longer relationship you can over time start to talk about what you like and try one or two things, she may even start to understand that surrendering is part of the feminine energy and start to like it. If the woman is feminist + feminine energy, you can do some of this but you have to build up to it. If you have a woman that is not in the feminist mindset and her energy is very feminine all of these suggestions would make her fall in love with you. So it isn't that easy, you have to talk and be very present when having sex to notice the moods of the woman you are having sex with. If you are doing pick-up and one-night stands it is probably that that woman is feminist + feminine energy and because it is a one-night stand you can try more of these tips.

Other tips (waring explicit content):

• Eat pussy, I don't care, this is mandatory, and learn how to stimulate the clitoris with your tongue, but only do it after she is very horny, tease her first don't go to the clitoris right away the more you wait and tease her the more she is going to enjoy it. Wait until the clitoris is erected, yes it gets erected.
• Don't do the same thing each time you have sex. Try to change the location and know what she likes. If she is into books do it next to the bookshelf.
• Have sex by surprise, lets say you two are kissing in the car after going to the movies, just have sex there or maybe you are kissing with her in the kitchen have sex there but don't over do it, she don't want to have sex in the table all the time. lol
• Talk to her while having sex, women are more auditive than men, we men are more visual, it doesn't have to be dirty talk, you can say things you like about her like: "I like you how your pussy/tits/thighs feel", "Your body makes me crazy" etc if she is into dirty talk say things very dirty lol like: "fuck me like a whore" if she is on top of you or "That pussy is mine" and fuck her hard....  The point is to talk the most you can.
• Dont do more than 3 positions, we men are used to porn and because we are very visual we love to do many positions to see all her body, changing positions isn't fun for woman. Unless you have a woman that is a nymph then you are lucky.
• Make her cum first, woman usually cum after clitoral stimulation not so much penetration. After teasing her and doing lots of fore play fuck her for a while and then eat her clitoris, you can cum later... The only caviat of this is if you have a very masculine energy woman she would behave like a man and she after finishing would want to sleep lol so in that case finish first and then make her finish. Usually masculine energy woman don't like you lasting long hours into the night.

Pretty much this list is gold.

[knakoo]

7 hours ago, Etherial Cat said:

Being objectified for me would be the moment when I'd lose what I need to feel comfortable. It is really what happens when you're not considered anymore as a person but just as body without any care for who you are and how you are feeling. There is a loss of connection and view of how you are doing. In my case, I find this type of sex and behavior repulsive. Not only on my end, but also on the guy's end. To me, it shows what I'd perceive as a loss of control of his impulse and a break of my trust.

But close to that, there is the feeling to surrender to a man's lust and passion for your body while being subjectified. I might be a bit twisted, but I really like it when I see a man battle up to stay in control of himself while being overwhelmed by lust. There is something powerful which emanate from seeing a man fly close to the threshold between his pleasure and being excessive on me.

Yes, I have already watched this video. I just believe that these part are ego and the authentic self always wants to be seen. 

Hum I see what you mean about objectification. Thank you for the clarification. I had this idea that anytime an man focus on the girl's body and his own pleasure that is objectification, but you can do that and still care about what the girl is feeling. 

How do you define the authentic self ? Maybe that is the vulnerable part of people that wants to be seen and loved. That would still be ego.

[knakoo]

@nahtanoj Insightful post and good list

 

[Etherial Cat]

15 minutes ago, knakoo said:

How do you define the authentic self ? Maybe that is the vulnerable part of people that wants to be seen and loved. That would still be ego.

No, it wouldn't be ego. Our true nature is openness and vulnerability. But this is most of the time obsfuscated by layers and layers of ego to protect our nakedness when we aren't able to trust others.

Have a look at how enlightened masters are for illustration. Also, without being enlightened some people do not have tons of traumas over their authentic self and are more wired toward this openness than others.

[knakoo]

21 minutes ago, Etherial Cat said:

No, it wouldn't be ego. Our true nature is openness and vulnerability. But this is most of the time obsfuscated by layers and layers of ego to protect our nakedness when we aren't able to trust others.

Have a look at how enlightened masters are for illustration. Also, without being enlightened some people do not have tons of traumas over their authentic self and are more wired toward this openness than others.

Hum can you have no ego but still feel vulnerability ? Another question is can you feel vulnerable if you have no fear anymore ?

I had moments in my life when I felt an unshakable peace and love, being very open but not feeling any vulnerability or fear at all. Enlightened masters don't seem to feel vulnerability either.

Maybe what you are calling the authentic self is just a deeper layer of our ego. Or it could be who we are at the soul level. 

[Etherial Cat]

1 hour ago, knakoo said:

Hum can you have no ego but still feel vulnerability ? Another question is can you feel vulnerable if you have no fear anymore ?

I had moments in my life when I felt an unshakable peace and love, being very open but not feeling any vulnerability or fear at all. Enlightened masters don't seem to feel vulnerability either.

Maybe what you are calling the authentic self is just a deeper layer of our ego. Or it could be who we are at the soul level. 

It depends what type of vulnerability we are talking about, I guess.

If you take for instance Eckhart Tolle as he's offering us his authentic self without passing by a persona he's being vulnerable from a certain perspective. But at the same time he can do it because he's so well grounded in his true nature that he has become unshakable.

I think the authentic self is what we are on the soul level. Or if not directly, perhaps it is the natural expression of our personality when all traumas are removed. At least this is what I meant by it.