Good leadership in parenting?

[aklacor727]

I've been back and forth for a while on whether I want children. Being a 33 year old female, I feel I should get more clear on this! I am not in a relationship, content with that, but if I decide I do want children, finding a relationship would become higher on my priority list.

 I realized recently that a big part of my indecision because I am not a natural leader, which makes me insecure about whether I would be an ideal parent. I am very compassionate, loving, and caring, which is important for having children. But I want to feel confident that I can be a good leader in raising them to where they can grow up to be independent, self sufficient, responsible, all that good stuff. I wouldn't want to half ass parenting if I decided I wanted to go that route. I would want them to have happy fulfilling lives, and show them how they can do that. 

My mom was SUCH a kind caring sweet woman. But I dont feel I got an example of what strong leadership looks like. So not having experienced it first hand it is harder for me to envision myself being the parent I would want to be. 

I really cannot wait for @Leo Gura to release a leadership video! In the meantime, can anyone help me with this? I need a vision on what it would look like to be a great leader to my possible future children! I know this may not be the easiest question to answer in a forum but it is worth a shot to ask.

 

Edited March 16, 2021 by aklacor727

[Moksha]

As a dad, it is one of the most challenging, yet spiritually catalyzing things you can do. Kids will make you grow. They will teach you patience, selflessness, and unconditional love. Caveat: They will drive you crazy in the process ?. 

[aklacor727]

@Moksha I think another main reason why I am questioning having children is because one of my top values is peace of mind.. Its nice having a life without stress and worry. But I think alot of the reason that has been a high value is because I had many tough years where things were chaotic and I was unable to have peace of mind. But it has been a few years now I've been able to enjoy it and being past that chaotic time.  So I think I am ok now with having more on my plate to challenge me emotionally, like what having children would do. The tradeoffs could be worth it ..and I love the idea of unconditional love ?

[Moksha]

@aklacor727 Only you can leverage peace of mind vs. love. Children are the closest I have come to unconditional love. Yes, they will stress you, and they will grow you. Growth cannot happen without stress. But how many people can you honestly say, you would give your life for? Children will create stress and worry. Guaranteed. And yet, who would you give your life for?