Fear Of Real Life

[Mark96]

I'm scared to start living a real life because of the fear that i am not capable enough to live up to the standards i set myself to achieve. How to proceed step by step to achieve my goals? 

Eng is not my native 

[Capethaz]

Just do it. Don't trust your fears.

[Xpansion]

2 hours ago, Mark96 said:

I'm scared to start living a real life because of the fear that i am not capable enough to live up to the standards i set myself to achieve. How to proceed step by step to achieve my goals? 

Eng is not my native 

Sounds like perfectionism. Maybe you are setting your standards too high and looking too far ahead.  Set the goal then Just do the next step and forget it. Enjoy the process because you never get there. There is nowhere to get. The goal posts move all the time.   The most successful people in life are often effected by the impostor syndrome. They have limiting beliefs that they are hacks or phoneys. The truth is nobody has a fucking clue what they are doing. We are all just muddling through this thing called life. Ride lightly in the saddle and enjoy it.  If your perfectionism is crippling seek some help.

Edited October 15, 2016 by Xpansion

[Mark96]

@Xpansion You are right I try do the next step tomorrow.

[Allinthemind]

The "real" life you lead is based on your beliefs. Your beliefs create your reality. Change your beliefs/standards and you create a different reality. You can already appreciate that the fear is weighing down your reality. Set realisitic goals that focus on enjoying the process; the achievements will come from this.

 

[Nathalie]

@Mark96 What kind of life are you living?

Edited October 18, 2016 by MartineF