Confession time - I like Bad Boys

[Preety_India]

I've a serious confession to make. 

And that is - I need to start liking bad boys. Start appreciating them. 

 

After a lot of contemplation I decided that I need to follow my heart and not my head. 

I had met a few bad boy types but I tended to reject them because how could I show them to my mom. 

I didn't want to let down anyone. 

I'm not attracted to nice guys. Because they are fakest fakest fake. 

I  find them phoney, flakey, fakey and pretentious. Liars. 

They always try to act like they really care but actually they don't. 

I had a bad boy as a friend, he had all this punk style, tattoos and he wasn't very educated but once when I was at my lowest point in my life, he was the one who gave me the greatest amount of support and care. He was the one who never left my side. 

My family called me depressed and didn't care about me, but he did. He did everything to make me feel supported and he would always be honest and truthful about everything in life.. I admired him. He genuinely cared.

But I always went for the nice guys because conventional society raised me to like good nice men.. However every time I got cheated, manipulated, it was always the nice guy. The nice guy who acted nice, only to find out later that he got lot of skeletons in his closet and when confronted about his skeletons, the same lies, manipulation and trickery. 

And whenever I was in trouble, the nice guy left me first. That's not love. He is a fair weather friend. Who wants that? 

True love sticks through thick and thin. In sickness and in health. Through good times and the bad times. 

You cannot give true love if you say one thing and mean another. So what's the point of this fake nice guy who acts good but actually doesn't love. 

Love is only love when it stands the test of time. Anyone can be nice during happy times.. The ones who truly care about you are the ones who stick by your side even when times are rough. That's true friends and true lovers. 

Not someone who abandons me immediately when he got better opportunities. That's a fake person. 

This takes me back to the bad guy who was my loyal friend and was always honest although society judged him for being a bad boy. 

I'm like - defy society. Defy norms. Defy parents. Don't care. Defy convention. Defy nice guys. 

I want to be authentic with my desires and instincts. Why should I repress what my heart really wants? I want a truthful person and not a sleazy piece of... vomit emoji. 

The nice guys were always highly educated, nice houses, big houses , the first guy I dated had the biggest house like a mansion , not that I'm attracted to big homes, just describing what he had. I even dated a homeless guy. 

But hey no thanks. I don't want his big house. Because I feel suffocated in his golden palace. It's a golden cage. He won't even give me a hug. I am only supposed to be his trophy girl or his girlfriend who takes his manipulative ways behind closed doors. The way Princess Diana was always expected to stay silent on Prince Charles's transgressions. That way??? 

Nope. I want to start liking bad boys. 

Because  home is where love is. 

Home is where the heart is.

As long as the heart is true, everything else will fall in place even those bad behaviors and bad habits. There is a cure for mental illness but no cure for a bad heart. 

Call me whatever. Call me stupid. 

 

Edited March 9, 2021 by Preety_India

[Peter Miklis]

Wow, what a shocker.

[Preety_India]

7 minutes ago, Peter Miklis said:

Wow, what a shocker.

Everyone likes real tits. Nobody likes a fake pair or tits unless they are phony themselves 

Wow, what a shocker. 

 

[Hulia]

15 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

once when I was at my lowest point in my life, he was the one who gave me the greatest amount of support and care. He was the one who never left my side. 

My family called me depressed and didn't care about me, but he did. He did everything to make me feel supported and he would always be honest and truthful about everything in life.. I admired him. He genuinely cared.

Are you sure, he was a Bas Boy?  

[Preety_India]

Just now, Hulia said:

Are you sure, he was a Bas Boy?  

He looked like one. Acted like one. Had been to jail for little things.. He was into drugs and his friends were from local gangs and hooligans. 

 

[Preety_India]

@Hulia my parents didn't like my friendship with him. So I had to cut it 

He always reminded me of this song by Chris Brown. 

I mean Chris Brown has the reputation of a troublemaker because he constantly went to jail and beat up his gf. 

He wasn't the beater type though. I mean there are bad boys who are seemingly nice and won't cross lines. And they can be respectful. It's only a few habits that make them look bad..

A bad boy who is honest, confident and truthful and genuine/sincere has a higher place in developing high consciousness along the way because he is started out authentically.. 

A nice guy will always hide behind a lie, put on a show like Donald Trump, never face his inner demons, his spiritual growth will be fake and a show off, will be a great cult leader material but he is not Authentic in his growth, so he will never actually grow, just fake it, fake fake fake fake.. 

 

 

Edited March 9, 2021 by Preety_India

[Hulia]

@Preety_India You just like honesty and authentity like me and, I guess, other people. I think, this is one of the reasons, why so many people prefered Trump over Clinton. For them he was a bad boy, but honest and authentis, and she was a nice guy, hypocritical and cheating. 

Be careful. Bad boy is not always a good boy  but very often a bad boy. Every person and situation requires new perspective, generalizations are dangerous. 

[Preety_India]

Just now, Hulia said:

why so many people prefered Trump over Clinton. For them he was a bad boy, but honest and authentis, and she was a nice guy, hypocritical and cheating. 

Lmao what??? 

Trump = bad boy??  Since when. He is a stereotypical nice guy with a ton of skeletons in his closet. 

How is he honest and authentic? 

I can't believe you think that he is authentic. 

He is the last person on my list of authentic people. And Clinton too.. 

Trump is the good kid, the golden child  who didn't rebel but exactly what his parents wanted, made money, grew his business, made his Daddy proud, like typical nice guys, bought popularity to his family. 

He did exactly what nice guys always do. Ditto. He married a nice woman, she raised his children, he maintained the persona of a nice man in the media, cheated behind his wife's back when she had three kids with him, gave her a large alimony and then bickered about it later, cheated on his second wife who he had gotten by cheating on the first one, was an emotional abuser throughout the relationship (read about Marla Maples) and then immediately dumped her (she cheated on him but he would always justify his own cheating) and later married Melania and cheated on her while she was pregnant with Baron, their first child, cheated throughout the year with playboy bunny (watch her interview on CNN) and made that woman feel special by manipulating her (she even thought he will make her wife but he discarded her like trash after all the manipulation was done and all the pleasure had) and then continued to maintain this facade that he loves Melania truly, also cheated on her with Stormy Daniels and a host of other women. 

Trump is the slickest smartest nice guy and probably the best ever example of the manipulative fake fake nice guy. 

He is a textbook nice guy that's why he won over America because Americans are too gullible to buy into his nice guy image. 

He doesn't wear tattoos or gang signs. He holds the Bible. Nice guy right??? He holds the Bible meanwhile saying "grab them by the pussy".... Typical nice guy who says one thing but means another. 

Trump is a total con artist hypocrite and his whole life was based on the golden boy nice guy image that he milked to get what he wanted, wealth and fame and success and women, many women heartbroken by his mind games and lies, many investors cheated and defrauded by his egregious claims and fancy generous nice guy persona. 

He is very sweet in relationships. He doesn't say hurtful things, like typical nice guys. But he hurts them behind their backs by his actions that don't match his words. 

Trump is the nice guy with the success, with the mansion with the status, the huge family, the opulence and no love or trust. The Golden Cage I was talking about in my post, big house but no heart. 

Trump did not come from a gangland or hood. He came from wealth, silver spoon in his mouth, rotten golden child of the family who perfected the craft of fooling millions. 

He cannot handle truth because he is fake as hell. 

He takes a few half truths and then he uses them to look honest in front of people. That's a nice guy act that you fell for. Clinton is also dishonest but she is openly dishonest, everyone can see that she is lying, but Trump is good at masking his lies. 

He has a cult leader personality. Cult leaders are your stereotypical nice guys. In fact they are your golden guys, because nobody thinks they can go wrong. 

Watch episodes by Mary Trump on YouTube and read her book. She exposes the real Trump. That's what I meant by skeletons. Nice guys always have skeletons in their closet that only few people know who are close to them. 

Trump is the kind of guy who will whisper to you "you're the most beautiful girl, the best girl, nobody like you, I love so much and I will never hurt you" and next night he is saying the same thing to another girl in the bed and you come to know about it when you see him at a party with her and you get the shock of your life. That's typical nice guy behavior. 

You want that? You want a man who is sweet, nice and polite to you and then stabs you in the back on the way out?? Because that's what nice guys do 

 

Bad boys come from trauma environments and poverty. They struggle to survive because they don't know how to fool people. They don't have fake degrees like Trump or rich parents. They do wrong things like robbing and stealing to survive. But they don't lie about it. They tell the truth about whatever wrong things they do. They are just desperate for survival because the world is designed to help the rich become richer and the poor people become poorer  

So Bad boys do whatever they can to survive like selling drugs. They become part of gangs because that is their only protection in poverty. Law enforcement favor the rich over the poor. They will not put Donald Trump in jail because he is mega rich but they Will beat up and throw a poor man for selling 10 grams of Marijuana. 

You don't realize the depth of my post. 

It focuses on being an honest man and why honesty needs to be rewarded by women 

If you place Trump alongside a bad boy hooligan, most women will choose to marry Trump instead of the bad boy because they prefer the wealth and status of Trump over his heart. 

That's why Melania Trump never divorced Trump even if he cheated on her million times. Because she can't afford to lose the power that comes with it.

Same goes for Hilary Clinton. She didn't divorce Bill even if he publicly cheated on her because well - he was the President haha, she can't divorce what she ultimately wanted - dirty power 

These are all fake people. That's why they are politicians. 

Don't regard them highly. 

Lots of bad boys stuck in desperation who have the potential to lead Better lives by leaving bad habits and if they are given opportunities. 

 

 

[Hulia]

4 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

How is he honest and authentic? 

I can't believe you think that he is authentic. 

No, no! ? I don´t think, he is authentic. I am just saying that the people who supported him told something like "at least he is honest!" Not me!

[Preety_India]

Just now, Hulia said:

No, no! ? I don´t think, he is authentic. I am just saying that the people who supported him told something like "at least he is honest!" Not me!

Ahh Gotcha.. Trumpists lol.. 

[Karmadhi]

You are not attracted to bad boys for what it seem. A bad boy would not be so kind to you at your lowest point, he would not give a single shit about you if he would not fuck you. You confuse the motorcycle smoking tattoo guy with the bad boy. Bad boy is the charming confident charismatic guy that does not give a single shit about you and uses you as a sex toy. The person you mentioned does not seem like this.

Also those kind of nice guys you talk about are pieces of shit and you should not get attracted to them for your own good.  Aim to get  kind confident honest man, not nice guys. Nice guys can fuck you up badly too.

The issue is that a lot of girls (not saying you) are not attracted to real. They are attracted to fun and charming. If you are attracted to real then you will never have issues with the opposite sex again because you know from the start what you are getting into.

 

[Preety_India]

4 minutes ago, Karmadhi said:

Bad boy is the charming confident charismatic guy that does not give a single shit about you and uses you as a sex toy.

Hey not all bad boys are like that. Some can be pretty cool and decent. 

 

[Karmadhi]

@Preety_India Okay i was referring like bad boy=asshole. If you are attracted to a guy that treats you with care, respect and honesty then why would you make a thread here apologizing for it and feeling bad about it? Why should you feel bad for liking to be treated like a decent human being. I would get it if you were attracted to people that treated you like shit just because they were fun and charming but you do not need to apologize to being attracted to someone that has tattoos, rides bikes and smokes weed.

Edited March 9, 2021 by Karmadhi

[Preety_India]

5 minutes ago, Karmadhi said:

@Preety_India Okay i was referring like bad boy=asshole. If you are attracted to a guy that treats you with care, respect and honesty then why would you make a thread here apologizing for it and feeling bad about it? Why should you feel bad for liking to be treated like a decent human being. I would get it if you were attracted to people that treated you like shit just because they were fun and charming but you do not need to apologize to being attracted to someone that has tattoos, rides bikes and smokes weed.

Because I've been repressed and raised to accept and like men who appear prim and proper and "nice." 

It's all already written in the post. 

 

[Byun Sean]

screw society man.

You date who you wawnt. 

 

[zeroISinfinity]

@Preety_India 

So you want bad guy and game B, emotional connection and all that jazz? 

If I understand whole thing correctly. 

True Alpha male that will provide you 'masculine containment'?

So you want very best all for yourself? 

Edited March 10, 2021 by zeroISinfinity

[Preety_India]

@zeroISinfinity  no. I never said I'm looking for Game B. I was simply discussing the concept of it. 

You make a ton of assumptions in your mind out of wherever I say. 

 

[zeroISinfinity]

So you are just exploring. It's ok. 

But I will add this just for myself. 

That guy will pick the very best woman for himself. 

[Preety_India]

@zeroISinfinity 

 

I was describing my experience with bad boys. 

Don't take me constantly out of context. 

You want to constantly state what a guy wants. Then go start your own thread about it. I'm not interested in learning your opinions of me. Can you just quit doing this please?? 

 

Edited March 10, 2021 by Preety_India

[zeroISinfinity]

Not really demonizing you. 

It's just nothing new under the sun. 

It actually has nothing to do with you personally. Nothing is wrong with you at all. 

That's what all women want. 

But ya'll women know that guy will not settle with just one women because he is chased by every other women. 

Remember highschool you are all still under that mentality.

All girls will fall in love with just handful of top boys. 

Trying to push and make dream come true in adult life where you are forced to compromise.