Teal swan - what a woman needs from a man in a relationship

[Origins]

@Peter Miklis true true. who do you think we should be watching out for here in terms of addiction if not yourself?

what was ur method of handling addiction? addictions an interesting topic all round

[zeroISinfinity]

22 minutes ago, lmfao said:

@modmyth No clue, sure as hell hope I don't. Too much paranoia and theatre, not that theatre isn't fine in small doses 

Me too. Add hysteria and so many other things. Borderline psychotic oh yes baby I so need that in my life. 

 

[Leo Gura]

I've made my points. I'm done here.

My only real point is this: notice your self-biases. This applies to men and women. That is all. That's all these threads boil down to.

If you ladies wish to start threads about how to build intimacy and a conscious relationship, go for it! I'm sure guys will benefit from it too.

But be mindful of this important difference: you taking responsibility for building inimitacy vs putting that responsibility on guys. If you are the one doing personal development the responsibility falls on you. This is true for girls and guys alike.

I would much rather see threads in this sub-forum about how to proactively do stuff rather than these pointless gender wars.

Start a mega-thread on how to build intimacy and start loading it up with actual content rather than debating in circles about who's farts stick more.

Honestly, I'm sick of these gender wars. They are not constructive.

[Peter Miklis]

4 minutes ago, Origins said:

@Peter Miklis true true. who do you think we should be watching out for here in terms of addiction if not yourself?

what was ur method of handling addiction? addictions an interesting topic all round

It took some years of trial and error. What worked ultimately is observing the urge and letting it go away, being busy thinking about higher conciousness stuff, and (very counterintuitive) accepting porn and not seeing it as something bad.

BUT, there is still that itch deep inside. I don't think you can ever get rid of it.

[Origins]

@Peter Miklis interesting, where do you think the itch comes from? what is it that make you believe you can't get rid of it?

that's good advice

[Peter Miklis]

2 minutes ago, Origins said:

@Peter Miklis interesting, where do you think the itch comes from? what is it that make you believe you can't get rid of it?

that's good advice

Probably just mind wanting to mantain itself and it's older habits, justifying it with certain thoughts (like, for example, "You've been consistent all this time, why not take a little break?" or "You basically cured yourself already, why not just do it once for fun?" sneaky stuff like that).

But, let's not talk about that here, this is a dead thread already lol

[Origins]

@Peter Miklis yeah it is haha, up to you. I get it

 

[zeroISinfinity]

@Peter Miklis Well i don't watch porns for years. 

But if I have need to (mostly joked on this forum about that) I do one of those tantric meditations. 

All this practises made me monster in bed. 

[Origins]

@zeroISinfinity have heard a lot of qualification from you in this thread zero, interesting. Tell me about that, what part makes you a monster in bed compared to other things you could do?

[Leo Gura]

@Origins

Dude, enough derailing this thread with nonsense.

[zeroISinfinity]

3 minutes ago, Origins said:

@zeroISinfinity have heard a lot of qualification from you in this thread zero, interesting. Tell me about that, what part makes you a monster in bed compared to other things you could do?

Well comparing myself before my whole spiritual path and now. Who says spirituality doesn't pay off in practical every day living. 

[Origins]

@Leo Gura wait a minute.... you're claiming by the same token that you propped it up with the opposite of nonsense?

furthermore, you're making the claim that asking questions about what people say as nonsense as opposed to having a conversation?

conversations are give and take, its why this thread has gone no where 

[Origins]

@zeroISinfinity okay. 

[knakoo]

8 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

There is no reason whatsoever that intimacy is more important than big tits. If you think there is, that's because it's more important TO YOU.

One major reason is that there can not be a deeply fulfilling relationship without intimacy for both man and woman, whereas big tits are not essential to a deeply fulfilling relationship. Like if the girl is a supermodel with relatively small tits that is not going to be a deal breaker for any man !

Or am I wrong here ? Can a man really have a deeply fulfilling relationship with no intimacy ? 

[SamC]

 

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Imagine a bit if girls would get crazy about a transitory good looking part of yourself and assign your value depending on that. Forget about your ability to think, feel, your humour, your baby actualized.org, and we'd all be like talking about how your dick is your primarily value. You'd see very fast the limitation of it.

@Etherial CatLike the guy's height?

Short guys are seen as less attractive than tall guys just becuase they have bigger bones.

Omg, how ShALOw. What are we? a piece of MeAt? 

 

Edited March 9, 2021 by SamC

[integral]

@mmKay ya know your going to get old... what ever you believe right now will change when the selection space diminishes. 

When your old you will have sex with old women... 

Edited March 9, 2021 by integral

[knakoo]

7 hours ago, Gesundheit said:

@Emerald 

Trust me when I tell you that the only reason a man will not have a side relationship is lack of opportunity. There's no such a thing as a monoamorous man. He will either cheat, or become a lesser man. A man with options will never settle down for one woman, it's just male nature. That's just how mother nature designed us.

Man are you serious ?? You have never been in love, have you ?

You heard of Russell Brand for instance? Now married and monogamous. Probably for lack of options right...

[SamC]

 

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And the shallowness you are making fun about, is exactly what I'm addressing. 

Are you also addressing the shallowness of guys who get rejected by girls because they are needy and not confident enough? 

That's the exact same thing, but the opposite side of it. Men are ruthless with looks and woman are ruthless with personality.

Both men and woman are shallow af and will forever be.

@Etherial Cat

Edited March 9, 2021 by SamC

[Gesundheit]

8 minutes ago, knakoo said:

Man are you serious ??

Abso-fucking-lutely!

What I'm saying is absolute truth. You either accept it, or you don't. And it will be true nevertheless.

You simply can't defy mother nature. I challenge you to be happy while sleeping with only one woman for the rest of your life.

Please don't use such silly examples. We don't need to state the obvious. We all know that celebrities fuck on the side all the time. It's just common sense. Or else, they would be called saints, not celebrities.

Edited March 9, 2021 by Gesundheit

[Gesundheit]

6 hours ago, intotheblack said:

@Gesundheit what you’re saying is true for many men yes, and of course men are stereotypically known to cheat at the first opportunity.  And if someone is that quick to cheat at the first opportunity they get then that just says something about their lack of self control.
having fantasies and acting out on them are 2 different things.  Both men and women fantasise and look at other people.  Doesn’t mean they will automatically cheat if given the chance. 

many men are committed to their loved ones and are family men at heart.  It all comes down to being content and appreciating what you have.  Cheating and sleeping with lots of people is just constantly chasing something. 

Call me gross, superficial, or whatever you want, but I honestly can't be satisfied with only one woman.

I'm not the biggest player, so I certainly don't claim a versatile sexual experience. But from what I've noticed from consciously watching porn, I am absolutely certain that I can't be monogomous. At least, I can't be happy in that kind of relationship.

To be more specific, my sexual appetite shifts every few days to a week. I might find blondes incredibly sexy today, but then after a few days, they're just normal and they don't spice or entice me up anymore. Suddenly, I become attracted to brunettes. When I'm in a certain sexual mood, all other moods get closed off. No matter how beautiful the woman is and no matter how beautiful I thought she was a few days ago, if she's not compatible with the current mood, I won't be turned on by her. And in fact, an average-looking girl that is compatible with the mood will turn me on like crazy.

I've been very watchful over my sexual mood over the past few years, and there's no particular pattern that I've found. It's an irregular circle at my best estimate. Sometimes, I get turned on by curvy girls, sometimes by skinny, sometimes white, sometimes black, sometimes a mixture of different things, etc... There's absolutely no logic for why I have these shifting moods. Eventually, I will find the same blondes sexy again. It just might take me a week, a month, or more.

Edited March 9, 2021 by Gesundheit