Why do women get turned on slower than men do?

[zeroISinfinity]

Ok no nonsense. 

Leo teach 'em please no nonsense and how women use sex actually. Once again value thing. 

Turned on/off lol. 

Intimacy lol. 

25 years old lady with kids behind and her willimgness to have sex with you. 

25 years her' s twin with no kids and her willingess to have sex with you. 

Lets compare. 

[zeroISinfinity]

 More value as man you have  she will easier and more faster spread her legs. 

Edited March 22, 2021 by zeroISinfinity

[zeroISinfinity]

She is not "turned on". Work on yourself guys you are lacking something that you need to actually be a man indentify it,fix it and correct it, and don't bother with this stuff. 

[Preety_India]

Whether the man is high value or not, intimacy is needed during sex. 

Women feel dry without intimacy and stimulation 

 

This takes time and that's why women get turned on slower than men. 

The subject is not about the willingness for sex but about getting turned on. She might be willing for sex but she is waiting for the guy to pack on the intimacy. 

If the guy doesn't do that, she might get upset or not enjoy sex or simply not want the same guy again. 

 

[zeroISinfinity]

Real intimacy/connection comes much later in relationship. 

First build foundation. You ain't no gonna do it if you are not a man nor you will reach that point anyway. 

Proper stuff. 

 

[Hardkill]

16 hours ago, Preety_India said:

Whether the man is high value or not, intimacy is needed during sex. 

Women feel dry without intimacy and stimulation 

 

This takes time and that's why women get turned on slower than men. 

The subject is not about the willingness for sex but about getting turned on. She might be willing for sex but she is waiting for the guy to pack on the intimacy. 

If the guy doesn't do that, she might get upset or not enjoy sex or simply not want the same guy again. 

 

what about women who just want casual sex?

[Preety_India]

18 minutes ago, Hardkill said:

what about women who just want casual sex?

Most women don't. Or else men wouldn't be complaining about not getting sex. 

Most women want the whole package. 

All or nothing. 

Women have survival agenda (I don't mean basic survival, I'm talking about biological survival). Survival Agenda means they want comfort, security, sex, family and a dream life 

 

The question is what will a woman do with getting only sex. Getting only sex does not fulfill her survival Agenda.

Look at it this way. If I gave you only sex versus if I gave you  sex + House + car + chocolates + regular free food, which one would you choose - you will obviously choose the second option because you get not only sex but also other benefits along with sex.. 

 

If a woman only wants sex, it's the easiest thing in the world, just pick up any guy off tinder. Right? She can simply walk on the street and smile at her dude and take him to her bed. 

But if a woman wanted sex along with romance, and all the goodies that a man can offer, well yeah, that would be so great. Then why would she settle for cheap sex? She would want the whole package. After all she can get it if she wants it. 

Her life becomes beautiful with all the perks of being with a man. Only sex won't give her that. 

Most women actually use their sexual power to get better and better men. They keep going for something more 

There is no loss for a woman. Because sex is sex. With a man who also gives affection and intimacy, the quality of sex is not reducing, in fact the quality of sex is improving because emotional stimulation in women is a huge source of sexual excitement. That's why women don't visit male escorts but resort to erotica novels and books 

Because women fundamentally crave emotional stimulation. That's their biological pathway to their clitoris. 

When a woman is emotionally excited, she gets hormonal and is ready for great sex. 

If a woman has mechanical sex without intimacy, it will be good for that time but most women get bored of it later 

They can't hold aggressive energy necessary for casual sex. Soon they get bored and start craving emotional attachment or other forms of stimulation. 

That's why men get horny very fast whereas for women, they don't have a dick that would stand up, they need constant stimulation to feel excited. 

 

Edited March 23, 2021 by Preety_India

[Hardkill]

1 hour ago, Preety_India said:

Most women don't. Or else men wouldn't be complaining about not getting sex. 

Most women want the whole package. 

All or nothing. 

Women have survival agenda (I don't mean basic survival, I'm talking about biological survival). Survival Agenda means they want comfort, security, sex, family and a dream life 

 

The question is what will a woman do with getting only sex. Getting only sex does not fulfill her survival Agenda.

Look at it this way. If I gave you only sex versus if I gave you  sex + House + car + chocolates + regular free food, which one would you choose - you will obviously choose the second option because you get not only sex but also other benefits along with sex.. 

 

If a woman only wants sex, it's the easiest thing in the world, just pick up any guy off tinder. Right? She can simply walk on the street and smile at her dude and take him to her bed. 

But if a woman wanted sex along with romance, and all the goodies that a man can offer, well yeah, that would be so great. Then why would she settle for cheap sex? She would want the whole package. After all she can get it if she wants it. 

Her life becomes beautiful with all the perks of being with a man. Only sex won't give her that. 

Most women actually use their sexual power to get better and better men. They keep going for something more 

There is no loss for a woman. Because sex is sex. With a man who also gives affection and intimacy, the quality of sex is not reducing, in fact the quality of sex is improving because emotional stimulation in women is a huge source of sexual excitement. That's why women don't visit male escorts but resort to erotica novels and books 

Because women fundamentally crave emotional stimulation. That's their biological pathway to their clitoris. 

When a woman is emotionally excited, she gets hormonal and is ready for great sex. 

If a woman has mechanical sex without intimacy, it will be good for that time but most women get bored of it later 

They can't hold aggressive energy necessary for casual sex. Soon they get bored and start craving emotional attachment or other forms of stimulation. 

That's why men get horny very fast whereas for women, they don't have a dick that would stand up, they need constant stimulation to feel excited. 

 

Wait, but how do you explain the fact that tons of "club sluts" out there who enjoy getting a one night stand or having fuck buddies? How come I've have at least 4 women just use me for sex and never contacted me again even though I wanted to see them again?

Edited March 23, 2021 by Hardkill

[Preety_India]

Just now, Hardkill said:

Wait, but how do you explain the fact that tons of "club sluts" out there who enjoy getting a one night stand or having fuck buddies? How come I've have at least 4 women just use me for sex and never contacted me again even though I wanted to see them again?

But that's not most women. 

 

[Hardkill]

32 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

But that's not most women. 

 

Oh, but this one dating coach, named Mr. Locario, told me that women want casual sex just as much as men do and most women have had casual sex before. Also, why does the media seem to portray most women, at least in 1st and 2nd world countries, as being into casual dating?

 

Edited March 23, 2021 by Hardkill

[Preety_India]

@Hardkill that's not true. That's why the word club is used. If regular women wanted it that way, then the whole concept of relationship would cease to exist 

 

 

[Preety_India]

@Hardkill even in friends with benefits relationship, intimacy is needed. 

 

[Hardkill]

15 hours ago, Preety_India said:

@Hardkill that's not true. That's why the word club is used. If regular women wanted it that way, then the whole concept of relationship would cease to exist 

 

 

So, you think that those people in those vids I just showed are lying or don't know what they are talking about?

15 hours ago, Preety_India said:

@Hardkill even in friends with benefits relationship, intimacy is needed. 

 

I thought that friends with benefits doesn't involve much emotional connection.

[Preety_India]

Just now, Hardkill said:

So, you think that those people in those vids I just showed are lying or don't know what they are talking about?

I thought that friends with benefits doesn't involve much emotional connection.

No, emotional connection might not be present. However emotional connection is quite different from intimacy. 

You're confusing and mistaking the long term emotional attachment of LTRs with intimacy. 

If I want intimacy from a guy, it's not necessary that I've to be in a long term emotional commitment with him or any sort of emotional attachment. 

I might not have any emotional attachment with him and yet he can give me a lot of intimacy. Which means he can make me feel stimulated sexually, he can have happy conversations with me, he can build sexual tension with me to the point that I begin to feel safe with him. This is  intimacy. He is building intimacy with me to the point where I feel comfortable enough to have sex with him. 

Intimacy involves creating a comfort space and can take any amount of time ranging from a few moments to hours to days. 

Maybe I met him 3 days ago and we got intimate? I mean it's super easy once there is a click. Once him and I click together it's easy to have that sexual tension. It makes sex more romantic and pleasurable since there is a story around it, there is a certain meaning to it. 

He might leave me the next day, which is like a one night stand but even then there was intimacy involved. 

So intimacy does not always mean some deep emotional connection or even commitment. It means development of romantic feelings and an area or space of comfort where sex becomes desirable. 

 

[Preety_India]

@Hardkill I'll give you an example and maybe you'll understand better. I'm not talking about deep intimacy here, just surface level intimacy, deep intimacy is something that is found in much deeper romantic/love relationships. 

Lets say I'm sitting in a club with my friends. Mr A approaches me and Mr B approaches me as well. Mr A buys me a drink and directly asks me for sex. I look strangely at him because I don't even know who he is. He hardly had a conversation with me and is directly wanting to proceed to sex. 

Now Mr B approaches me. He introduces himself and we get to know each other better. I share a couple of things with him and he shares a couple of things with me. I feel good in his company. He is being funny and is constantly flirting me. Now I'm developing an attraction for him because his style is cool and safe and makes me feel good. Gives me a sense of comfort. I like spending time with him, in fact I'm also developing romantic feelings. A certain magnetic attraction to him. The next thing he tells me is that he wants to have sex with me and I'm initially hesitant but I can't resist the chemistry he is creating with me. 

Whats the difference between Mr A and Mr B? 

Mr A was abrasive and failed at creating intimacy. I developed no interest to have sex because zero intimacy. 

Mr B was comfortable and created intimacy with me. Thus getting me interested in having sex with him. 

 

 

[Preety_India]

@Hardkill another form of intimacy is sexual intimacy. It happens right before sex and is often called foreplay. 

A woman can be in a situation where the guy simply tells her to undress and get ready for sex. This can seem pretty boring and direct for the woman. Because there was no foreplay 

Maybe the woman expects the man to touch her face, play with her, talk to her sexually, and stimulate her to sexual feelings and interest 

He is attracted to her body. But what is she attracted to? Women don't keep looking at men. They need something to get attracted to. (women don't browse the internet for dick pics haha, in fact if you talked to most women about porn or dick pics they would actually block you). So the woman needs something to feel romantic about. Maybe she wants him to say romantic things, or play with her body for some time, show interest in her. It's like foreplay. So she is getting warmed up for sex. This is sexual intimacy. His touching, fondling, caressing and talking is creating mental stimulation for her whereas her body is creating mental stimulation for him. This mutual intimacy then leads to sex. 

If a guy doesn't do this, she could end up feeling deprived or not satisfied enough mentally. It might also affect the sex 

 

 

[Hardkill]

10 hours ago, Preety_India said:

@Hardkill I'll give you an example and maybe you'll understand better. I'm not talking about deep intimacy here, just surface level intimacy, deep intimacy is something that is found in much deeper romantic/love relationships. 

Lets say I'm sitting in a club with my friends. Mr A approaches me and Mr B approaches me as well. Mr A buys me a drink and directly asks me for sex. I look strangely at him because I don't even know who he is. He hardly had a conversation with me and is directly wanting to proceed to sex. 

Now Mr B approaches me. He introduces himself and we get to know each other better. I share a couple of things with him and he shares a couple of things with me. I feel good in his company. He is being funny and is constantly flirting me. Now I'm developing an attraction for him because his style is cool and safe and makes me feel good. Gives me a sense of comfort. I like spending time with him, in fact I'm also developing romantic feelings. A certain magnetic attraction to him. The next thing he tells me is that he wants to have sex with me and I'm initially hesitant but I can't resist the chemistry he is creating with me. 

Whats the difference between Mr A and Mr B? 

Mr A was abrasive and failed at creating intimacy. I developed no interest to have sex because zero intimacy. 

Mr B was comfortable and created intimacy with me. Thus getting me interested in having sex with him. 

 

 

 

10 hours ago, Preety_India said:

@Hardkill another form of intimacy is sexual intimacy. It happens right before sex and is often called foreplay. 

A woman can be in a situation where the guy simply tells her to undress and get ready for sex. This can seem pretty boring and direct for the woman. Because there was no foreplay 

Maybe the woman expects the man to touch her face, play with her, talk to her sexually, and stimulate her to sexual feelings and interest 

He is attracted to her body. But what is she attracted to? Women don't keep looking at men. They need something to get attracted to. (women don't browse the internet for dick pics haha, in fact if you talked to most women about porn or dick pics they would actually block you). So the woman needs something to feel romantic about. Maybe she wants him to say romantic things, or play with her body for some time, show interest in her. It's like foreplay. So she is getting warmed up for sex. This is sexual intimacy. His touching, fondling, caressing and talking is creating mental stimulation for her whereas her body is creating mental stimulation for him. This mutual intimacy then leads to sex. 

If a guy doesn't do this, she could end up feeling deprived or not satisfied enough mentally. It might also affect the sex 

 

 

Ah okay. Yeah, those are very much the same things that legit dating coaches/experts say. 

Maybe, you should be a dating coach