Radical dating advice

[Surfingthewave]

The more awakenings I experience the more I realise there really is no duality between men and women. 

Disclaimer: this advice isn't for those looking for casual sex.

- Drop the dating

- Drop the pick up paradigm (effort = results, numbers = better chances) think counterintuitive 

- Work on what do you really and truly want in a relationship? 

- Work on your true, core values

- Consider what values you want from another 

- Give yourself the love you seek from another 

- Examine what went wrong in a previous relationship. What/ how did you contribute to that ending?

- Read and research dating material and be critical 

- Work on your self improvement goals, but also know that you are enough. 

- Ultimately be yourself. If the other person doesn't want you, that's their problem. 

- If you're looking for love, work on loving yourself.

- Women can smell a pick up attempt a mile off. Drop it. 

- Focus on connection. Connect with as many women as you can without an end result in mind. 

- When a relationship doesn't work  learn from it and move on. Let go of bringing all the attachments and baggage to the new relationship. 

- If you really and truly want love, ask the universe/ the self/god/vibration/ insert reference here. Believe you will get it. If you don't believe, work on it. This is most powerful. Love is in abundance. You just need to ask. 

- If anyone is in a successful long term loving relationship please feel free to post further advice here so we can spread the love. 

Edited February 26, 2021 by Surfingthewave

[RendHeaven]

9 hours ago, Surfingthewave said:

- Give yourself the love you seek from another 

9 hours ago, Surfingthewave said:

- If you're looking for love, work on loving yourself.

Cannot stress this enough!

[Surfingthewave]

@RendHeaven

Yes do you think we look for, in potential partners, what is perhaps fulfilling a need or lacking in ourselves? 

A loving relationship should enhance your life and maybe not fulfill a purpose. You shouldn't "need" that person, essentially you are two souls in the universe meeting and travelling this path we call life together.