My Penis didn't work... Or did it?

[JonasVE12]

Hey man, you have made multiple topics and are asking others for input, but I think what you need to do is turn inwards and inspect your desires with honesty. What is your body telling you? What is your mind telling you? I think your body and mind are in clash with each other. You mentioned that you resist gay stuff which means that your body actually desires it, but you resist it in your mind. You need to realise that no one needs to accept anything. It's not when your body is telling you something, that it is per definition the most authentic thing to follow and surrender your life to it. You don't have to be gay, if you don't want to. You can change your physical attractions.

You wouldn't make all these threads about girls if you didn't authentically desire to connect and have intimacy with them. It is what you emotionally desire and that desire is as authentic as it can be. But here, be honest. When you are masturbating, what image do you hold in your mind? Sometimes, in the developmental phase, experiences prevent us to develop this normal attraction to females. But in the end, you can change this by evolving your personality and integrate certain aspects. But first you gotta shed some light on your own attractions. 

[How to be wise]

On 21/02/2021 at 5:28 PM, Preety_India said:

 . Sorry couldn't stop laughing about that. 

 

I wonder why you wrote this down on the post.

[How to be wise]

On 21/02/2021 at 5:28 PM, Preety_India said:

 . Sorry couldn't stop laughing about that. 

 

This would make sense in real life, were someone bursts out laughing, and then apologises. But you purposefully put the laughing emoji, and then apologised when you didn’t have to. 

This forum isn’t the same as real life. Please don’t forget that.

[Preety_India]

1 hour ago, How to be wise said:

This would make sense in real life, were someone bursts out laughing, and then apologises. But you purposefully put the laughing emoji, and then apologised when you didn’t have to. 

This forum isn’t the same as real life. Please don’t forget that.

You over analyze online stuff. 

[Origins]

@Strangeloop great stuff you'll shag eventually don't sweat it just remember your awareness is primary (to sex too). 

[bejapuskas]

Yeh I think OP could definitely be straight and just shy/insecure/embarrassed or maybe bisexual with preferrence for something else, or anything really. I suggest being honest with the girl, because if you are not honest, it might increase the shame if that is the problem.

[Strangeloop]

@bejapuskas It's really hard to open up to her. I don't really know, if I'm just like, "hey you know why my dick doesn't work? Because I'm gay." I don't know how she would react.

[Michael569]

On 21/02/2021 at 1:23 AM, Strangeloop said:

So as we play around I finger her but in one moment after a while she stopped me because it started to hurt. It's probably because she wasn't wet enough because comparing on how she was wet after I did Oral to her she was way more wet after oral. 

hmm could be that or you were "poking" too randomly  Don't you touch her vagina before she is ready. Also no shame in googling proper technique. This stuff is not taught anywhere so make sure you know what you are doing down there. Too quick may indeed cause pain. Also, make sure your nails are trimmed and there are no sharp stubs. 

On 21/02/2021 at 1:23 AM, Strangeloop said:

So technically I lost my virginity. Yay! ??? LOL I expected something more but this is it

Buuut again. I didn't cum. But still enjoyed myself. So it's okay..

Nah that's not it, give it time and as the connection between you guys strengthens the sex will get more intimate, more enjoyable and moe passionate. Sometimes the challenge is to cum and sometimes not to too quickly. That's just how it is. 

 

[bejapuskas]

@Strangeloop  Do you actually think you're gay or do you still feel like being attracted to women?

[mmKay]

let me post this for all men struggling with homosexual OCD to get some relief with a possible diagnosis: 

https://manhattancbt.com/hocd/

[Someone here]

@Strangeloop why do you expect your dick to work 24 /7..?  For How long  have you been a male?  

Edited February 25, 2021 by Someone here

[MuadDib]

@Strangeloop You could be demisexual. Took me a while to figure out that's what I am. I'm positive I'm straight, but 99% of girls don't really interest me and physical attractiveness doesn't have that much to do with it. I've never had any of the issues with self-control that a lot of guys seem to struggle with either.

You could also be a giant gay-lord though. Just let it out if that's the case.

[Preety_India]

I don't think this guy @Strangeloop is gay as others are saying. Because if he was, he probably would have said it. I think he is straight but there are other issues causing problems with sex related stuff.

 

[JonasVE12]

6 hours ago, Preety_India said:

I don't think this guy @Strangeloop is gay as others are saying. Because if he was, he probably would have said it. I think he is straight but there are other issues causing problems with sex related stuff.

 

I think he just holds heterosexual standards which is okay and perfectly authentic, but struggles to allign his actual physical attractions with his emotional desires. 

[Javfly33]

6 hours ago, MuadDib said:

@Strangeloop You could be demisexual. Took me a while to figure out that's what I am. I'm positive I'm straight, but 99% of girls don't really interest me and physical attractiveness doesn't have that much to do with it. I've never had any of the issues with self-control that a lot of guys seem to struggle with either.

You could also be a giant gay-lord though. Just let it out if that's the case.

Enjoy that .

You don't imagine the amount of suffering you have avoided by being demisexual.