When judging others

[StarStruck]

When you are judging others you are judging yourself. Wtf. 

I read and heard this many times but first time my paradigm just collapsed in front of my eyes:

I was looking at these fat ladies on YouTube who want to lose 10 kg in 1 month time. I said "these bitches are really dumb. It is not about short term success, it is about life style change". Then I struck me: I'm no different when it comes to productivity. 

This doesn't mean one shouldn't judge. Expressing is always better than suppressing. Only when you express you can really get to know yourself. 

Do you guys know any good books on judgement?

[blackchair]

when i "judge" others i want to help them, improve them, hence i want to improve myself to be better version of myself.

[StarStruck]

2 minutes ago, blackchair said:

when i "judge" others i want to help them, improve them, hence i want to improve myself to be better version of myself.

True. There is a difference between constructive judgement and destructive judgement. 

[blackchair]

oh god how badly i want to go to transpersonal college, i need to earn it tho.....thank you.

[Osaid]

Yeah holy shit. I see this insight talked about all the time but I never really understood it fully till now. Your judging of others is the exact same criteria you judge yourself for. 

It's also the case that the more you love others the more you will love yourself, and vice versa. There seems to be this pattern of reciprocation in reality.

[Setzer901]

The metric by which you judge others, you judge yourself. And vice versa.

If you judge someone who has a fat tummy, then you will judge yourself if you get a fat tummy one day.

If you find laziness a bad trait in your friend, then you will judge yourself if you are lazy one day.

Here's the key insight: Your judgement is trying to help you. So try to understand your judgement.

By judging your laziness, your judgemental side wants you to be productive so you can have a better life.

By judging your fat tummy, your judgemental side wants you to help you lose weight and look sexy, so you will look presentable to people.

By judging your attractiveness, your judgemental side wants you to be attractive, so you get better mates.

So just understand how your judgemental side is trying to help you. Understanding is the first step to solving the problem.

[Moksha]

Judgment is always egoic. It is a way of making yourself feel superior to someone else, which is how the ego thrives. The opposite of judgment isn't apathy. It is unconditional love, and the recognition that we are all souls on the same dream journey home.

[universe]

It's an advanced technique

 

[StarStruck]

10 hours ago, Moksha said:

Judgment is always egoic. It is a way of making yourself feel superior to someone else, which is how the ego thrives. The opposite of judgment isn't apathy. It is unconditional love, and the recognition that we are all souls on the same dream journey home.

We also have to be careful that we are not judging judgement. There is a thing called good judgement. I would call that egocentric rather than egoistic.

[Kuba Powiertowski]

I do not consider myself to be someone whose judgment of anything or anyone has any basis whatsoever. Not any more. Though surely, I will come to it more than once. So strongly judging and comparing is built into my ego ...

[Moksha]

5 hours ago, StarStruck said:

We also have to be careful that we are not judging judgement. There is a thing called good judgement. I would call that egocentric rather than egoistic.

If it makes "you" feel superior to "another", for any reason, it is the ego at the helm. We are all the same, but the ego doesn't want to hear that.

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[Vibroverse]

Whenever I judge someone, it comes from me myself feeling being judged. 

[Preety_India]

Be careful. These judgments can often pass from parents to children. That's the worst part. 

Would you like to  judge your kids the same you judge others? There lies the answer. 

 

[Heaven]

Judgment creates suffering for the one who judges. If you’re connected to your body It just doesn’t feel good.
It comes from the mind’s misunderstanding of reality that we are all acting according to our genes and up to date conditioning(Includes where you born etc..)

Instead of judging be grateful with life to have better understanding.

[Seeker531]

@universe thank you very much. that's what I was looking for. ?