Teal Swan: Why Women Like Assholes + Why Women Aren't Attracted to Nice Guys

[Chives99]

5 minutes ago, RendHeaven said:

How many long term relationships have you been in?

I wouldn't say any of mine have been long term , but I know when to quit when things are not flowing. The great Tao does not struggle

[RendHeaven]

1 minute ago, Chives99 said:

I wouldn't say any of mine have been long term , but I know when to quit when things are not flowing. The great Tao does not struggle

Alright.

I just had the impression that you were judging as an outsider.

Relationships can yield unbelieve beauty. It's not all hell.

Balance in everything

[Chives99]

@Axiomatic wow these social games are mad, Buddha probably got sick of all this at the palace 

[Axiomatic]

5 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

And you clearly want so badly to control how I act and feel that you won't stop going around attacking me. Shows who is really insecure here. 

 

I just say whats on my mind. you can do whatever you want. And you responded to me first so...

[Preety_India]

Just now, Axiomatic said:

I just say whats on my mind. you can do whatever you want. And you responded to me first so...

But you did it first as you said. You start it. 

 

[RendHeaven]

10 minutes ago, Axiomatic said:

We ended up getting a guy roommate, and within a month she fucked him...and knowing her it was her way of making sure she wouldnt feel alone or left out with two guys in the house. Now that shes fucking him, she will always be on the inside. Its kind of pathetic to me, but it actually works in my favor because now shes not so damn needy all the time. 

She will always be __ on the inside?

But hey, good for them.

[Axiomatic]

1 minute ago, Chives99 said:

@Axiomatic wow these social games are mad, Buddha probably got sick of all this at the palace 

knowing her personally, shes got some real issues. And she also doesnt have many friends. So she fills that emptiness with sex and tries to makeshift bonds wherever she can.

The point of that story is to give an example of people who use sex and romance in an unhealthy manner.

[Preety_India]

3 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

@Axiomatic wow these social games are mad, Buddha probably got sick of all this at the palace 

I know right. I'm sick of social games too.. They are a creation of a lazy mind. 

 

Edited February 16, 2021 by Preety_India

[Axiomatic]

@RendHeaven meaning she wont ever be left out. Shes in control of the living situation.  Idk why she needs that control so badly, but its clearly her own issues 

6 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

But you did it first as you said. You start it. 

 

I saw my name in your quote. something about projecting. am I allowed to respond or are you gonna cry to Leo? 

 

and sick of social games? quit making thread about how guys dont act how you want them to act. that will solve most of your issues 

Edited February 16, 2021 by Axiomatic

[Preety_India]

5 minutes ago, Axiomatic said:

@RendHeaven meaning she wont ever be left out. Shes in control of the living situation.  Idk why she needs that control so badly, but its clearly her own issues 

I saw my name in your quote. something about projecting. am I allowed to respond or are you gonna cry to Leo? 

 

and sick of social games? quit making thread about how guys dont act how you want them to act. that will solve most of your issues 

Maybe quit attacking me because you were the one to start. If you have a problem with my threads, don't read them, nobody forces you. And don't give unsolicited advice because it doesn't work. Your rude condescending tone is not welcome. 

Remember you wrote the comment about insecurity comment directed at me. So fix yourself first before pointing fingers at others. I never like engaging with you but you don't stop with your digs. The world doesn't resolve around you. I'm not controlling shit. People will have different opinions than yours, deal with it. 

 

Edited February 16, 2021 by Preety_India

[Chives99]

Relationships to an enlightened person would be weird, you'd be thinking why is it arguing with itself

[Axiomatic]

23 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

Maybe quit attacking me because you were the one to start. If you have a problem with my threads, don't read them, nobody forces you. And don't give unsolicited advice because it doesn't work. Your rude condescending tone is not welcome. 

Remember you wrote the comment about insecurity comment directed at me. So fix yourself first before pointing fingers at others. I never like engaging with you but you don't stop with your digs. The world doesn't resolve around you. I'm not controlling shit. People will have different opinions than yours, deal with it. 

 

I saw my name in your quote. So you technically responded to me first lol. I didn't technically say anything to you. you chose to engage. 

[Leo Gura]

To be alpha is not to desperately triangulate how to be alpha. It's simply to not give a fuck and do what you want to do without even thinking that you are alpha.

If you are worried about whether you are alpha enough, you're actually beta.

There's a difference between acting secure and actually being secure.

The point of doing lots of approaches is not to hone your act, but to make you experienced enough to not give a fuck. Those approaches help you discover your authentic masculinity -- if you do it right. Or you can just turn into a used dick salesmen.

[Hardkill]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

To be alpha is not to desperately triangulate how to be alpha. It's simply to not give a fuck and do what you want to do without even thinking that you are alpha.

If you are worried about whether you are alpha enough, you're actually beta.

There's a difference between acting secure and actually being secure.

The point of doing lots of approaches is not to hone your act, but to make you experienced enough to not give a fuck. Those approaches help you discover your authentic masculinity -- if you do it right. Or you can just turn into a used dick salesmen.

Here's an example of a guy who really doesn't give a fuck with women:

Even though this guy approached countless women without caring at all what people think, he obviously came off as the city creep. It's very sad. 

Edited February 16, 2021 by Hardkill

[Jodistrict]

That guy has no social sense at all.  He is just scaring women.  Don’t do this.  Learn to connect with people in appropriate social situations.  Talk to everyone – men and women, young and old.  Talk to people you aren’t even interested in.  Have a conversation with the checkout person at the supermarket.  That is appropriate.  Don’t approach.  Connect.

[Hardkill]

1 hour ago, Jodistrict said:

That guy has no social sense at all.  He is just scaring women.  Don’t do this.  Learn to connect with people in appropriate social situations.  Talk to everyone – men and women, young and old.  Talk to people you aren’t even interested in.  Have a conversation with the checkout person at the supermarket.  That is appropriate.  Don’t approach.  Connect.

Yeah sadly, he has no social awareness. However, I feel bad for guys like him because at least he was really trying his hardest and it took a lot of confidence to do all of that.

Edited February 16, 2021 by Hardkill

[Chives99]

I think day game is ridiculous socialisation happens when you dont try to make it happen, you could meet someone anywhere but the conversation has to happen naturally 

[knakoo]

2 hours ago, Chives99 said:

I think day game is ridiculous socialisation happens when you dont try to make it happen, you could meet someone anywhere but the conversation has to happen naturally 

Day game feels very natural to me now, even with the girls having masks on. If I see a beautiful girl and feel a desire to approach and start up a conversation, what's more natural ? If you are deeply peaceful, joyful and confident, the girl will appreciate you approaching her and be grateful. I often have girls in relationships tell me "thank you for this moment" "thank you for approaching me" "you made my day"... 

But yeah I made hundreds of women uncomfortable to get to that point. It is up to you to decide if that's ok and worth it.

I will add that it is a good spiritual practice ! It can help you let go of your attachement to be attractive and loved by women.

 

Edited February 16, 2021 by knakoo

[Chives99]

@knakoo I dont think i would like it if strangers were bothering me in public if I wasn't in a situation where a natural conversation would arise. If a woman was pestering me for phone numbers etc I would think she was trying  to tag team pickpocket/ rob me with a friend. Once someone was standing to close to me at a atm machine and later on down the street someone bumped into me, I hadn't realised they swiped my debit card , the person at the machine had organised this, with her friend to read my pin then get the other one to bump into me. Luckily though the atm machine wouldn't let them use it and swallowed the card up as they tried to withdraw £200.

[Leo Gura]

@Chives99 Stop making excuses and approach.

Too much bullshittery on this topic. All problems are resolved in the approaching.