Tried to have sex, my penis didn't work

[Cireeric]

Leos advice sounds a bit toxic for me in this thread. There are many young guys who have erection problems especially because of watching too much porn. When the first years of sexual experiences are only porn it can get unhealthy and thats the case for most people today. Also it can cause more anxiety which you described due to unrealistic expectations. It can be the case that you have a few more experiences, getting slowly more comfortable with the other person and then start enjoying sex and get up easier in real sexual experiences.

[Evil Raccoon]

11 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Use porn to discover what genuinely turns you on and what doesn't.

His sexual problems probably come from porn in the first place...

11 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

You don't need viagra to fuck a girl at your age.

No one at ANY age should need to take fucking pills just to get a boner.

[flowboy]

2 hours ago, Evil Raccoon said:

His sexual problems probably come from porn in the first place...

No one at ANY age should need to take fucking pills just to get a boner.

I took them though, to get over the condom anxiety. No regrets there. Led to funny situations however, when my gf suddenly would decide she preferred an evening walk instead, and I sat there with a raging boner.

I also used it one time to help me in a threesome. No regrets there either. I probably could have done without it, but I don't see the harm.

Edited February 14, 2021 by flowboy

[Evil Raccoon]

@flowboy If as a straight dude there's a naked hot chick in front of you and you don't naturally have an erection, there's a fucking problem.

 

 

[flowboy]

33 minutes ago, Evil Raccoon said:

@flowboy If as a straight dude there's a naked hot chick in front of you and you don't naturally have an erection, there's a fucking problem.

 

 

Obviously there's a 'fucking' problem ?

If you had even read the topic carefully, you'd have known that OP did get naturally an erection. It just went away when it was go-time due to nervousness and overthinking.

[Evil Raccoon]

26 minutes ago, flowboy said:

If you had even read the topic carefully, you'd have known that OP did get naturally an erection.

Was talking about you Mr.Viagra.

[flowboy]

@Evil Raccoon I definitely don't have a fucking-problem, but thank you for your concern sir

[Aaron p]

On 13/02/2021 at 4:28 PM, Strangeloop said:

it's time to go in there and get my dick wet.

 

@Strangeloop

"Hickory Dickory Dock" - Aaron p Edition

~

Hickory Dickory Dock,

Get her to suck your cock,

If that doesent work,

Get her to twerk,

Hickory Dickory Dock. 

~

Your dick wasnt hard,

but it's certainly ok,

It doesent make you automatically gay,

She might need to be cuter,

To ensure that you suit her.

...

Hickory Dickory Dock 

Edited February 14, 2021 by Aaron p

[Evil Raccoon]

10 minutes ago, flowboy said:

@Evil Raccoon I definitely don't have a fucking-problem

Then why did you take those pills for? 

[Abdelghafar]

I'm getting Paul Woodrugh vibes, from True Detective S02, in this thread.

Edited February 14, 2021 by Abdelghafar

[eggopm3]

If you want a drug to get you horny i'd suggest a bit of LSD instead of viagra. I've noticed that I can get extremely horny with no external stimulation whatsoever when I'm on LSD even on microdoses. and on higher doses the most kinky shit I would never otherwise imagine floats into my brain and turns me on, so I could easily see how someone could use LSD to go against their normal sexuality if that's something they wanted to try.

I've suffered from mild ED as a result of porn addiction, and that's helped wonders with helping to reconnect with my sexuality. Seems to be specific to LSD though, mushrooms doesn't seem to have this effect on sexuality (or at least not to the same extent anyway).

[bejapuskas]

5 hours ago, eggopm3 said:

If you want a drug to get you horny i'd suggest a bit of LSD instead of viagra. I've noticed that I can get extremely horny with no external stimulation whatsoever when I'm on LSD even on microdoses. and on higher doses the most kinky shit I would never otherwise imagine floats into my brain and turns me on, so I could easily see how someone could use LSD to go against their normal sexuality if that's something they wanted to try.

I've suffered from mild ED as a result of porn addiction, and that's helped wonders with helping to reconnect with my sexuality. Seems to be specific to LSD though, mushrooms doesn't seem to have this effect on sexuality (or at least not to the same extent anyway).

Does anyone here maybe have experience with this that they could share?

[Aaron p]

@bejapuskas try 2cb sex;)

[bejapuskas]

@Aaron p  Do you have any more tips or safety measures perhaps for those who are not familiar with psychedelics? Because it can often happen that somebody takes a psychedelic and they become horny and confused because nobody told them they can become so horny on a psychedelic... 

[Aaron p]

My advice is, let your own intuition rule out or verify any advice anyone gives u including me

[eggopm3]

Getting horny and confused is definitely a risk, which is why you shouldn't leap straight to doses that could cause that, or else you could do something regretful. Micro or mini doses still have an effect. don't take higher doses until you're comfortable with lower ones. Or don't do the high doses at all if your purpose is sexual behavior, you probably wouldn't be functional if you start ego-deathing all over the place anyway, that would defeat the purpose. You could probably get away with micro/mini doses without telling people you're around, but def don't take higher doses around people who don't know you're on a higher dose.

[JonasVE12]

@Strangeloop You are right, sexuality is dynamic. Realise that your sexual preference is entirely dependant on your personality and your brain's chemistry. Your initial sexual identity forms when you are young. The way you feel then, will determine what sexuality you grow into. You start to masturbate, watch porn, orgasm and start to develop your neural pathways in association with your initial sexual preference. one reason that you may have gay or trans attractions is because you may not have claimed your own sense of masculinity.unhealthy attachment and experiences may have prevented that. Let's say you start to work on your personality and start to develop a sense of masculinity, you start to change and gay attractions will lessen. It won't make you instantly attracted to women. I don't know how old you are, but let's say you have been expressing your sexuality for 15 years. That's 15 years of conditioning to your brain. You have learned to associate the strongest sexual arrousal with the types of porn/acitivites/thoughts that you are attracted to in these 15 years. Start to become a man. Notice areas in your life where you avoid tension and get into the tension hands on. No more running away from what you fear. Courage is what will get you on top of this. The reason that you can't get your dick hard may be a bit of nervousness, but most likely because you haven't really developed attraction to the feminine (because it does not polarize your internal energy)

Edited February 19, 2021 by JonasVE12

[Manusia]

I got you dude.. I have problem like this too.. Its really embarassing for a guy. In my case thats happen because I always jerking off really hard in my entire life and I already in love with 'in control sexual input'. But by the time I stopped watching porn, jerking off ... and try to start loving sexual input from my girlfriend, gradually I became turn on dangly hard just like watching the porn in my screen.

[Strangeloop]

Thank you all for your understanding and empathy.

I believe I can do it. I'm merting the same girl tomorrow at my house hopefully, that's the plan atleast. So I will try to have sex again and will take your words in account.

[bejapuskas]

@Strangeloop  Just do what feels natural and good and what you both want. Perhaps this time you might feel less shame or you might realize different things, let us know!