Could you help me transcend redpill thinking?

[Origins]

@Leo Gura I agree with Evil Racoon in a way, I don't buy it (even if I wouldn't phrase it like that). I mean, you can't deny it doesn't affect your perceptions of women and people in general, etc, all our behaviours do (not a porn watcher myself). We've gotta look at this stuff honestly. We shouldn't try to defend behaviours that may negatively impact our relationships, especially if we at all have any weaknesses in the areas in which said behaviours may impact those related weak (at the very least weaker) areas.

Edited February 9, 2021 by Origins

[Origins]

@Leo Gura Maybe run an experiment for yourself, test how not watching porn or imagining women as they're portrayed there in a similar way affects your perception of them over say a month, especially in potentially more intimate relationships. Of course, you'd also need to cut out potentially other activities that may indirectly still reinforce any underlying undesirable outcomes that may be created from porn, i.e. things like Tinder, etc, not that I'd have any idea if you'd use a platform like that, I don't. Just an idea.

[Leo Gura]

@Origins You guys who complain about porn are more obsessed with porn than I am. Sounds like you've made a shadow of it.

Reminds me of the old Zen story of the two monks and the lady.

[Origins]

@Leo Gura Leo. C'mon man. Haha. No. 

I love you though Leo. Hope you're having a good one wherever you are.

[Evil Raccoon]

7 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

The higher your standards the more jerking off you'll be doing

Lol.

[Nahm]

On 2/8/2021 at 6:10 AM, assx95 said:

Could you help me transcend redpill thinking?

One can not transcend what one is focusing on. 

Focus is effortless, not something one could need help with. 

Point it toward what you want, what feels good to you. 

Easy. 

Use the emotional scale to express, release and raise your vibration. 

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So, I was in a long-distance relationship with a woman who treated me like shit. I let her treat me like that, cause I was too blind in love with her. Call it fantasy, love whatever. When i told her about how I felt bad because of her. She was in denial and told me to stay away from her.  I deleted her number and unfollowed her on Insta. I've never been taken seriously by women. It always ends up in a mess when I tell them how I feel. 

Stop talking about & focusing on what is lame to you. ☺️ This is keeping your experience, lame. 

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I started liking this another girl, i was simply texting, and she calls me rude. She pulled away. I was like- Tf just happened? It's been three days, I haven't texted her, nor seen her stories or liked her post. After this many years, I have learnt, that if a woman pulls away, let her go. It will always be worse when i try to convince her or tell her I am sorry. It has never worked. I know from experience. 

Doesn’t matter. Why still focusing on it? Because you’re not expressing and processing the lowest two emotional vibrations on the scale. It works. You will see. It works instantly, literally as you do it you feel the relief, and the goodness. 

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So, the fairy tale idea of the one girl who will truly love me, is kinda dead.

You love. Unveil yourself, use the scale. 

Read this. You’ll feel Goodness instantly. 

Thoght stories, and narrative about yourself and others is ridiculous when you can go straight to feeling goodness. 

Notice what you’re thinking, and notice that’s how you feel. 

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I hate to play these mind games. I am growing more detached, which is far better than super needy like i was. I'll never look at women like angels anymore. I won't make generalizations cause I don't want to demean anyone here. The games we play while being in survival mode. I feel like romantic attraction is kinda shallow. I can see through my own attraction as well- I don't see beyond looks: The visuals. 

Help me understand, how can there be a true relationship, when both sexes will always be attracted to attractive people of the opposite gender, and sometimes, even cheat?  

Using the emotional scale, you transcend samsara via emotional intelligence, and are no longer led around by seeking sex to feel better because you’re already feeling amazing! This enables you to know true mature discernment. You can know & experience the beauty and depth of an authentic relationship, if that’s what you find you want when you are not seeking outside yourself to feel better. 

It’s all love, all Goodness...and remaining ignorant of emotions you’re experiencing, attributing the goodness of feeling to anyone or anything outside ourself...we are like flies in vaseline. You’ll keep getting ‘stuck there all the time’.  ‘Burn your wicked garden (samsara) to the ground’, and you’ll be ‘punch drunk and without bail’, in love, in goodness, and you’ll never go back. Relationships completely change and become experience, icing on the cake of the joy of simply being you. ☺️ You can be single, have a relationship, have an open relationship, whatever you want. In not looking to relationships for the goodness of feeling, you attract exactly what you want, whatever that is.