Half-Sex??

[longusername12345]

I'm 15. Every weekend my cousin and I sneak out and do whatever the fuck. It's a good outlet and gives us a little mental freedom to know that our lives aren't entirely confined to what our parents let us do and dont do. 

Anyways, for the last three nights we went out, a really nice girl went with us. For the sake of anonymity, we'll name her Anne. She's a sweet, expressive, tender-hearted individual who has a shitty family life and poor mental health according to her (depression i think). But she is super sweet and loving to everybody so I always called her The Female Jesus.

So for the last 3 nights, we hungout, danced, drank, drove around, had a good time with her. Then last night I made out with her then on the ride taking her home, I she crawled into the back seat with me, we made out, foreplay (kissing, touching, caressing, body, fingering, I ate her out, and then we took off our pants and when I went to stick it in, I couldn't fucking find it. It was a shitty position (me on top of her on the backseat like a sandwich), I had no condoms on me, no lube, and we were both drunk. It's like her pussy completely disapeared. I found it with my fingers and my mouth but I just could not find it with my dick. Then by the time I did (I think), I was soft as a pillow. I looked up horrified but she had her eyes closed like she was in a blisssful or at least calm state so I went back to work. Still failed. So I was fumbling around trying to figure out what the fuck I do now and then she said "we're at my house" and we were so she left and hugged us goodbye and looked rlly sad.

I texted her the next morning ("Morningg how are you feeling?") and she left me on opened. Haven't heard from her since.

Maybe I'll see her next weekend and there'll be closure? Maybe we'll try again with  a condom haha and on a bed instead of the back seat of a car? Hopefully but the way she's been ignoring me, I'm starting to doubt it.

So what happened? What did I do wrong? What did I do right? And what is the right thing to do next? And what can I learn from this?

 This was a new experience for me and it fucking confused me. I've never had these problems I had before. I asked a few friends about it (that I sortof trust) and one said "sex before marriage is a sin, just don't do it. this will fuck her up mentally" and ignored my questions completely. Another one said "well no shit she was sad, you tried to fuck her condomless in the back of a car". And my cousin was just proud I got pussy. Although they all had semi-good points, I don't feel completely satisfied with either of those answers. What should my next course of action be?

[Preety_India]

Sorry I just couldn't. 

 

[Leo Gura]

Here's what you did wrong:

A) You did not isolate her properly to a private location for sex. Do not escalate too heavily in a location where sex is impossible.

B) You didn't have a condom. Always carry 2 in your wallet.

Also, were you doing this while someone else was in the car driving you??? If so, you made her feel like a slut and that's why she's not calling you back. Don't make girls feel like sluts if you want to see them again. You need privacy.

[longusername12345]

1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

Here's what you did wrong:

A) You did not isolate her properly to a private location for sex. Do not escalate too heavily in an improper location.

B) You didn't have a condom. Always carry 2 in your wallet.

Ima fucking remeber these next time

a) what's the proper location?

c) why was she sad?

[Preety_India]

You weren't sufficiently aroused, so... 

You kept nervously poke poke poke poke and everywhere it was a wall.. 

Next time develop strong arousal and poke intuitively. 

 

[Leo Gura]

4 minutes ago, longusername12345 said:

Ima fucking remeber these next time

a) what's the proper location?

Anywhere private and secure.

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c) why was she sad?

Who the fuck knows. She probably wanted you to fuck her by that point. You half-assed it by failing to account for logistics.

Logistics is what costs you 90% of your lay count. If you want to get laid become a master of handling logistics.

[aurum]

9 minutes ago, longusername12345 said:

So what happened? What did I do wrong? What did I do right? And what is the right thing to do next? And what can I learn from this?

What happened was you’re 15 and don’t have proper sexual education / experience. 

Also, you were drunk. Which never leads to good sex in my experience, despite what people say.

The good news is your experience is common. I’ve have my own version of what you’re talking about plenty of times.

Things like this will disappear as you get more experience.

17 minutes ago, longusername12345 said:

What should my next course of action be?

Talk to her about it. If she’s really not interested in hearing from you again then move on.

[Leo Gura]

@longusername12345 Oh, BTW, are you fucking crazy, trying to penetrate this girl without a condom?!!!

NEVER AGAIN! You fool

You dodged a bullet.

[longusername12345]

4 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Who the fuck knows. She probably wanted you to fuck her by that point. You half-assed it by failing to account for logistics.

Logistics is what costs you 90% of your lay count. If you want to get laid become a master of handling logistics.

How do I master logistics?

 

1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

@longusername12345 Oh, BTW, are you fucking crazy, trying to penetrate this girl without a condom?!!!

NEVER AGAIN! You fool

ahahahahahaha yes never again

 

3 minutes ago, aurum said:

What happened was you’re 15 and don’t have proper sexual education / experience. 

Also, you were drunk. Which never leads to good sex in my experience, despite what people say.

The good news is your experience is common. I’ve have my own version of what you’re talking about plenty of times.

Things like this will disappear as you get more experience.

Talk to her about it. If she’s really not interested in hearing from you again then move on.

How do I develop proper education and experience? 

And do I text her or talk to her in person?

And what happened with you?

[Leo Gura]

15 minutes ago, longusername12345 said:

How do I master logistics?

Intention, trial and error, lots of experience picking up girls. You cannot learn it theoretically. It requires lots of trail and error. Mostly error.

See, this experience taught you valuable logistics obstacles to avoid next time. For example, if you were clever, you could have asked to escort her home, under guise of making sure she was okay. Then, once inside, you say that you need to tell her something really important upstairs. Then isolate her to bathroom. Fuck her in the bathroom with the sink running.

You learn stuff like that if you do lots of pickup. You become adaptable like a fox.

[longusername12345]

8 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

You weren't sufficiently aroused, so... 

You kept nervously poke poke poke poke and everywhere it was a wall.. 

Next time develop strong arousal and poke intuitively. 

 

ahahaha love how you worded that. how do I maintain this strong arousal? What do you mean 'poke intuitively'?

[longusername12345]

3 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Intention, trial and error, lots of experience picking up girls. You cannot learn it theoretically. It requires lots of trail and error. Mostly error.

See, this experience taught you valuable logistics obstacles to avoid next time.

ahhhhh how do I cope with the error though? Lots of meditation?

Is there anyway to see her again or should I forget about it?

[Preety_India]

Just now, longusername12345 said:

ahahaha love how you worded that. how do I maintain this strong arousal? What do you mean 'poke intuitively'?

I sense a lot of nervousness in the way you went with it. 

Try to be extremely calm and have a strong mind, your focus needs to be strong. 

If you are all over the place and nervous, it's not going to be a fulfilling experience and such mistakes will become common. 

Try to be less nervous, be chill and take it slow. 

Mainly do it in a place where you're completely at ease and comfortable 

You're probably went into a rush and didn't remain calm or some nervousness took over. 

I think the drinking kinda covered your nervousness and didn't allow you any sense of calm or control. 

Your mind needs to be clear and chill before sex. 

 

[Leo Gura]

Fun story for ya:

One time in Vegas I met a local girl at the club who was DTF. She was real excited, so we drove to her house. We started making out on her couch but I had to take a shit real bad. So I went to take a shit. By the time I got out, 5 mins later, the mood was spoiled, it was getting late, she lost interest and kicked me out. Never called me back.

Moral of the story: Take a shit before you go out to the club.

The devil is in the details.

[longusername12345]

Is there anything I can text her to make her likely to come with my cousin and I next time we sneak out?

15 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Fun story for ya:

One time in Vegas I met a local girl at the club who was DTF. She was real excited, so we drove to her house. We started making out on her couch but I had to take a shit real bad. So I went to take a shit. By the time I got out, 5 mins later, the mood was spoiled, it was getting late, she lost interest and kicked me out. Never called me back.

Moral of the story: Take a shit before you go out to the club.

The devil is in the details.

goddammit hahaha that night couldve been so much worse tho

[Leo Gura]

5 minutes ago, longusername12345 said:

Is there anything I can text her to make her likely to come with my cousin and I next time we sneak out?

Don't push her too much. Be nonchalant.

Send her a pic of a funny cat or meme. Let her respond. Slowly warm her back up.

[longusername12345]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

Don't push her too much. Be nonchalant.

Send her a pic of a funny cat or meme. Let her respond.

This morning I sent her "hey, are you ok?" then a  friend came over and sent her what he thought I should send but I deleted that. So she has 2 unopened messages from me, a "hey are you ok?" and a deleted message. Nonchalant is kindof out of the window. Is ignoring her for a couple days the move then? How do I recover from the previous texts I sent?

[WonderSeeker]

@Leo Gura You just made my day. 

[aurum]

20 minutes ago, longusername12345 said:

How do I develop proper education and experience? 

Read books, watch youtube videos and then just go out. Interact with girls. You'll figure it out.

21 minutes ago, longusername12345 said:

And do I text her or talk to her in person?

In person if you can. Sounds like that might not be an option though, so start with text.

22 minutes ago, longusername12345 said:

And what happened with you?

 

13 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

One time in Vegas I met a local girl at the club who was DTF. She was real excited, so we drove to her house. We started making out on her couch but I had to take a shit real bad. So I went to take a shit. By the time I got out, 5 mins later, the mood was spoiled, it was getting late, she lost interest and kicked me out. Never called me back.

That's some real life pickup.

I'll share a story too. Met a girl at a party, everything was clicking. Her friends love me and she is more than willing to go back to my place.

But it's about a 15 minute walk back to my apartment (pre-uber era). And it is FREEZING outside. Like the coldest night of the entire year, plus massive windchill.

Absolutely miserable walk.

By the time we get back, she was just like...nah.

I'm still mad about that one .

[Frenk]

Man i wish i was 15 again...