Choosing between loving someone and loving everyone?

[Seemore]

Ultimately we are running away from loneliness. If you stand tall and alone long enough surely the truth of how alone we are will reveil itself if one dares to endure the evaporation through isolation. 

[No Self]

At the human level, escaping loneliness is a motivation. From early childhood, the greatest fear is abandonment which means death. Some of the insane beliefs that many adults hold onto seem ultimately a means of being a part of an in-group. It's human nature and one of the things that makes us so irrational, and so easily manipulated.

To one who is enlightened, 'loving everyone' would be a result of not viewing others as separate. It seems to come naturally. Even the duality of alone/connected would be redundant.