Let's Get Practical #3: Raising Self-Esteem

[Raphael]

21/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

• suppress my emotions
• don't let him express himself
• suppress my joy
• suppress my creativity
• don't allow myself to be curious
• don't listen to my intuition

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

• don't express my anger
• suppress my ambition
• don't try to understand him
• isolate
• try to do everything my myself
• don't listen to my emotions

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

• security
• reassurance
• acceptance
• understanding
• containment
• love

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

• love
• support
• encouragement
• understanding
• touch
• emotional connection

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• sadness
• anxiety
• repressed emotions
• neediness
• the need for attention
• closing himself

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• wanting revenge
• by being addicted to information
• not wanting to take action
• lack of motivation
• lack of social connection
• fear
• by shutting down

[Raphael]

22/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

• don't express myself
• hide my emotions
• don't myself be crazy
• hide my curiosity
• close myself
• don't take care of my basic needs

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

keep my anger inside

• don't pursue my goals
• don't act on my desire
• don't give myself love
• don't listen to my intuition
• don't care about my needs

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

• attention
• visibility
• containment
• security
• love
• understanding
• acceptance
• freedom

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

• freedom
• support
• understanding
• security
• love
• touch
• nurturing

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• sadness
• laziness
• feeling isolated
• fear
• neediness
• ego-centrism

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• repressed anger
• difficulty to focus
• neediness
• non self-expression
• lack of motivation
• laziness
• fear
• lack of courage

[Raphael]

23/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

• criticizes me too much
• try to be too perfect
• don't express joy
• don't let myself be authentic
• don't listen to my basic needs
• don't speak
• don't allow a bit of craziness in my life

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

• repress my emotions
• don't try to understand myself
• repress my anger
• isolate
• suppress my ambition
• am too perfectionist
• criticize my body

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

• attention
• containment
• love
• proper nurturing
• freedom of speech
• letting go of expectation

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

• love
• understanding
• encouragement
• support
• touch
• communication
• a deep emotional connection

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• neediness
• sadness
• depression
• shyness
• fear
• insecurity

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• anger
• laziness
• lack of motivation
• by hiding his needs
• poor thinking habits
• negative self-talk
• anxiety
• social anxiety

[Raphael]

24/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

• don't express myself
• don't show my craziness
• repress my emotions
• repress my basic needs
• don't cry
• hide my authenticity

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

• don't show my frustration
• don't act on my goals
• don't show my anger
• don't take actions
• don't show myself compassion
• don't show myself love
• close myself from people

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

• attention
• visibility
• nurturing
• empathy
• compassion
• love

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

• motivation
• understanding
• respect
• support
• love
• touch

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• sadness
• depression
• shyness
• thought storms
• neediness
• isolation

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• wanting to go fast and failing because of this
• anxiety
• bitterness
• inability to stand out for myself
• fear
• sleepless nights

[Raphael]

25/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

• don't self-express
• don't express my joy
• don't listen to my basic needs
• hide my authenticity
• don't let me be
• refuse to cry

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

• don't give him support
• repress my emotions
• don't follow my ambition
• don't open up
• hide my sadness
• pretend that everything is OK
• have a negative self-talk

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

• nurturing
• compassion
• love
• joy
• self-expression
• touch

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

• support
• the authorization to express himself
• encouragements
• motivation
• love
• understanding
• touch
• attention
• an honest vulnerable communication

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• sadness
• self-isolation
• social anxiety
• lack of friends
• depression
• fear
• distrust

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

• repressed anger
• laziness
• lack of motivation
• distrust
• lack of focus
• discouragement
• pain
• sadness

[Raphael]

26/06/2021 (Week 22)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• let myself be
• let my child-self express himself
• let my teenage-self express himself
• shout to let go of repressed emotions
• provide security to my younger selves
• provide comfort to my younger selves
• listen to my younger selves
• understand my younger selves
• nurture my younger selves
• give my younger selves the love that they didn't get

[Raphael]

27/06/2021 (Week 22)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• find inner conflicts with my younger selves and other sub-personalities
• fix the inner conflicts with my younger selves and other sub-personalities
• let my child-self express his emotions
• let my teenage self express his emotions
• support my younger selves
• communicate more with my younger selves
• let my younger selves exist within myself
• make peace with my younger selves

[Raphael]

28/06/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

• I feel responsible
• I feel nurturing
• my child self feels that he can trust me
• my child self feels safer
• my child-self feels that he can trust me
• I feel being a good parent of myself
• I feel that I can trust myself
• I feel my confidence increasing
• I feel my self-esteem improving

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

• my teenage-self feels supported
• my teenage-self feels understood
• my teenage-self feels more courageous
• my teenage-self feels more motivated
• I feel that I can integrated this part of myself who wants to exists in the world
• I feel my competences improving
• I feel more loving

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

• I'll hold my child-self in my arms
• we would walk holding each other hands
• I'll say to my child-self that I love him
• my child-self would tell me that he loves me
• we would build a great relationship together
• my child-self would open up to me
• I'll respond to my child-self needs
• we would better speak to each other

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

• my teenage-self would appreciate my company
• I'll talk more to my teenage-self
• my teenage-self would allow himself to be more vulnerable
• I would enjoy my time with my teenage-self
• I would embrace my teenage-self
• my teenage-self would show what he is capable of
• we would appreciate each other
• my teenage-self would be less angry
• we would work together and support each other

[Raphael]

29/06/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

• I feel that I'm helping myself
• I feel that I understand myself better
• my child-self is trusting me more
• my child-self is opening more
• I feel responsible
• I can learn from myself
• I become more authentic

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

• I feel that I can understand my teenage-self anger
• I think I can solve conflicts with my teenage-self
• my teenage-self opens up
• my teenage-self can finally grow
• my teenage-self can finally get his needs covered
• I can resolve repressed anger, frustration, and similar emotions

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

• we would embrace ourselves
• we would hold each other hands
• we would communicate better
• we would trust ourselves
• we would show our vulnerabilities
• we would make peace

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

• we would communicate on our issues
• we would embrace each other
• we would start to understand each other better
• we would resolve our conflicts
• we would make peace
• we would work together
• we would trust ourselves

[Raphael]

30/06/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

• I feel reconnecting with myself
• I feel nurturing
• I feel being an healthy parent
• I feel responsible
• I think I can grow enormously
• I'm showing back my child-self

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

• I feel that I can build a bridge to communicate with my teenage-self
• I feel that I can understand my teenage-self
• I feel that my connection with myself is getting deeper
• I feel that my teenage-self will show himself more
• I think that repressed emotions will show up
• I think I can improve my capacity to love difficult people
• we would grow together

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

• we would communicate more
• we would trust each other more
• I'll open up to my child-self
• my child-self would open up to me
• we would embrace each other
• we would cry in each other arms
• we would share our joy

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

• my teenage-self would express himself
• I would comfort my teenage-self
• I would change my mind on my teenage-self
• my teenage-self would feel more comfortable in expressing himself
• we would work better together
• we would make peace together
• we would cry in each other arms
• we would heal our shared wounds

 

My teenage self is pretty hurt overall.

Edited June 30, 2021 by Raphael

[Raphael]

01/07/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

• my child-self feels understood
• my child-self is trusting me more
• my child-self is appreciating me more
• I feel a deeper connection with my child-self
• I'm opening up about my childhood traumas
• my child-self feels safe
• my child-self feels nurtured

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

• my teenage-self is expressing his pain
• my teenage-self is expressing his anger
• I feel responsible
• my teenage-self can grow
• my teenage-self finally gets the support that he needs
• I can be a great parent of myself

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

• we would communicate with each other
• we would spend more time together
• we would play together
• we would embrace each other
• we would hold each other hands
• we would walk together joyfully

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

• my teenage-self would let himself be vulnerable
• I would talk to my teenage-self
• my teenage-self would talk to me
• I would change my mind about my teenage-self
• I would let my teenage-self be
• my teenage-self would trust me
• I would feel better
• we would embrace each other
• we would try to understand each other
• we would make peace
• we would work together
• we would walk holding each other hands

[Raphael]

02/07/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

• my child-self feels understood
• my child-self would trust me more
• my child-self would open more to be
• I feel like an healthy parent
• I feel growing
• I feel responsible
• I feel having a better communication with myself

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

• I feel that my teenage-self would trust me more
• I feel that my teenage-self is thankful
• I feel that my teenage-self is opening up
• I feel that my teenage-self is expressing himself
• I feel that my teenage-self is healing
• I feel that my teenage-self is feeling understood
• I feel my teenage-self expressing himself

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

• we would embrace each other
• we would share our dirty secrets
• we would speak more to each other
• we would let each other being vulnerable
• we would hold each other hands
• we would appreciate each other company
• we would be crazy together

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

• we would express all of our emotions
• we would communicate together
• we would share our fears and insecurities
• we would be there for each other
• we would appreciate each other
• we would cry in each other arms
• we would express our thoughts
• we would express our emotions
• we would try to understand each other
• we would make peace

[Raphael]

03/07/2021 (Week 23)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• give my child-self the understanding that he needs
• give my child-self the support that he needs
• give my teenage-self the love that he needs
• give my teenage-self the compassion that he needs
• start loving my younger selves
• give everything that my younger selves needs

[Raphael]

04/07/2021 (Week 23)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• take responsibility to cover the needs of my child-self
• take responsibility to cover the needs of my teenage-self
• create a secure environment for my child-self
• nurture my child-self
• let my teenage-self express all his dirty emotions
• give my teenage-self the support that he needs
• give my teenage-self the understanding that he needs
• embrace my child-self
• embrace my teenage-self
• give my younger selves compassion so that they can grow

[Raphael]

05/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll be patient with my child-self
• I'll give time to my child-self
• I won't shame my child-self for not opening up as fast as I would like
• I'll trust my child-self in the process of trusting me more and more
• I won't criticize my child-self for taking its time
• I'll the love that my child-self needs to learn to trust me

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll be patient with my teenage-self
• I'll accept my teenage-self expressing himself in unhealthy ways until he starts to open up to me
• I'll let my teenage-self do what he needs to do in order to trust me
• I'll let go of the expectation to go fast
• I'll give the understand that my teenage-self needs
• I'll give the support that my teenage-self needs
• I'll have more compassion for my teenage-self
• I'll accept that my teenage-self needs time
• I won't criticize my teenage-self for needing time
• I won't shame my teenage-self for needing time

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

• I understand that I have been repressing them
• I understand that I was ashamed of them
• I now need to integrate them healthily
• I open up to them expressing themselves
• I'm starting to understand myself better
• I'm becoming more authentic
• I'm starting to love them
• I'm starting to nurture them

I am becoming aware ...

• that my child-self and teenage-self wants to express themselves
• that my child-self and teenage-self wants to express their pain and to cry
• that I need to make peace with my younger selves
• that I need to love myself
• that I need to let myself be
• that I need to express myself

[Raphael]

06/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll let time for my child-self
• I'll have more compassion for my child-self
• I'll stay open for my child-self
• I'll have patience
• I'll comfort my child-self during the learning process
• I'll let him breath

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll let him be angry
• I'll let him time to evolve on the emotional scale
• I'll be patient with him
• I'll stay open to him
• I won't criticize him for taking time
• I'll give him the love that he needs to grow

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

• I understand that they need to express themselves
• I understand that they need emotional understanding
• I understand that they need to be
• I understand that they need love
• I understand that they need support
• I understand that they need to be integrated

I am becoming aware ...

• that I can heal my younger selves
• that I can have an healthy relationship with my younger selves
• that I'm making progress
• that I need to be kind of myself
• that I need to support myself
• that I need to love myself

[Raphael]

07/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll be patient with my child-self
• I'll give my child-self the compassion that he needs for learning
• I'll accept my child-self hesitations
• I'll let go of expectations to go fast and get immediate results
• I'll accept mistakes of my child-self
• I'll let my child-self being a child
• I'll let him time

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll accept my teenage-self hesitations
• I'll accept my teenage-self doubts
• I won't force my teenage-self to trust me immediately
• I'll give my teenage-self all the time that he needs
• I'll support my teenage-self
• I'll have compassion for my teenage-self
• I'll let my teenage-self experience his trust backslash healthily and give him a hand when needed

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

• I understand that I cannot avoid them
• I understand that I cannot repress them
• I'm letting themselves be
• I understand that they have the right to express themselves
• I understand that they need support
• I understand that they need help
• I understand that they need to be integrated
• I understand that I need to communicate with them
• I understand that I need to deepen my connection with them

I am becoming aware...

• that I'm improving
• that my child-self is expressing himself
• that my child-self is afraid of his dad
• that one way to make my child-self grow is to communicate with his dad
• that my teenage-self needs to express his anger
• that my teenage-self needs understanding
• that my teenage-self needs help
• that I need to communicate more with my younger selves
• that I need to give love to my younger selves

[Raphael]

08/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll let him time to learn to trust me
• I'll reassure him
• I'll let him test me
• I'll give compassion to my child-self
• I'll allow my child-self to experience with me
• I'll let go of expectations of immediate result

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll let time to my teenage-self
• I'll let my teenage-self express his fears
• I'll give support to my teenage-self
• I'll give love to my teenage-self
• I'll have compassion for my teenage-self
• I'll let go of expectations of immediate results

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

• I'm understanding that I need to integrate them
• I understand that I need to communicate with them more
• I'm letting them expressing their emotions
• I'm understanding that they have the right to exists
• I'm understanding that they the right to express themselves
• I understand that they need to be

I am becoming aware...

• that my child-self is showing himself more
• that my teenage-self is showing himself more
• that past traumas are getting released
• that I need to self-express
• that I can grow a lot by self-expressing myself
• that I have the right to self-express
• that grow involves self-express
• that grow involves connecting with my younger-selves
• that grow involves trusting my younger-selves
• that grow involves making peace with my younger-selves

[Raphael]

09/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll give time to my child-self
• I'll have patience with my child-self
• I'll support my child-self through his learning phase
• I'll give compassion to my child-self
• I'll accept the difficulties of my child-self
• I'll let my child-self be

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

• I'll let my teenage-self express his fear of me
• I'll give my teenage-self all the time that he needs
• I'll try to understand the difficulties of my teenage-self
• I'll have compassion for my teenage-self
• I'll let time to my teenage-self
• I'll let go of critics and judgments of my teenage-self

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

• I understand that I need to integrate them
• I understand that they want to express themselves
• I understand that by integrating them I'm becoming more authentic
• I understand that they need to live
• I'm giving them love because they need it
• I'm letting themselves be

I am becoming aware...

• that I don't have to repress emotions
• that I'm deepening my connection with my younger selves
• that I need to be kind and supporting of myself
• that I am becoming more authentic
• that I need to be patient
• that I am healing

[Raphael]

10/07/2021 (Week 24)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• give time to my younger selves to learn to trust me
• trust my younger selves
• give compassion to my younger selves
• integrate my younger selves
• let my younger selves express themselves
• let my younger selves exists
• heal the relationship with my younger selves