Let's Get Practical #3: Raising Self-Esteem

[Raphael]

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[Raphael]

07/04/2021 (Week 11)

Self-responsibility to me means...

• having some time for my cravings
• healing my traumas
• giving myself love
• giving myself care
• doing what is necessary
• create and maintain a powerful life system
• working with high intensity
• being consistent
• being disciplined

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my life and well-being...

• I'll work with more focus
• I'll take care of how I treat others
• I'll evolve much faster
• I'll enjoy the process
• I'll deal better with the challenges of life
• I'll have a better awareness
• I'll progressively get my shit together
• I'll do things smoothly

If I avoid responsibility for my life and well-being...

• I feel out of control
• I become more and more a victim
• I have terrible relationships
• I cannot make progress
• I don't feel natural and masculine
• I avoid my life
• I lose my potential

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the attainment of my goals...

• I'll work with intense focus
• I'll have a better organization
• I'll work smoothly
• I'll tap more into my intuition
• I'll let my full potential show up
• I'll attain my goals faster
• I'll create a better quality life

If I avoid responsibility for the attainment of my goals...

• I stay stuck
• I feel miserable
• I lose my self-esteem
• I don't feel great
• I cannot self-actualize
• I cannot work properly
• I waste my life

[Raphael]

08/04/2021 (Week 11)

Self-responsibility to me means...

• avoiding distractions
• letting go of compulsive thoughts
• being disciplined
• doing what needs to be done
• being honest with myself
• working to improve myself
• working with intense focus
• accept my flaws

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my life and well-being...

• I'll let go of my biases
• I'll work better
• I'll deal better with life
• I'll open myself to progress
• I'll bring more acceptance to my life
• I'll be more efficient in life

If I avoid responsibility for my life and well-being...

• I don't feel happy
• I feel stuck
• I cannot attain my goals
• I lose control of my life
• I feel depressed
• I avoid my life
• I cannot move forward

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the attainment of my goals...

• I'll have more focus when working
• I'll let my mind being empty from distractions when not working
• I'll try a find a small isolated office after the confinement
• I'll focus on my goals more
• I'll bring joy to working towards my goals
• I'll keep my goals in mind
• I'll be patient and kind because my goals will take time to attain
• I'll enjoy the process

If I avoid responsibility for the attainment of my goals...

• I'm impatient
• I cannot attain my goals
• I don't focus properly
• I lose my motivation
• I distract myself all the time with the internet
• I cannot create a quality life
• I will become toxic

[Raphael]

09/04/2021 (Week 11)

Self-responsibility to me means...

• consuming high quality content related to what I need to attain my goals
• taking actions
• feeling my emotions
• disciplining myself
• staying focused
• caring about my health
• having time to relax
• being flexible and adaptable
• pushing through difficulties

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my life and well-being...

• I'll sleep better
• I'll work better
• I'll have better focus
• I'll be more proactive
• I'll fix my traumas
• I'll move with ease in life

If I avoid responsibility for my life and well-being...

• I stay stuck
• I stay afraid
• I don't feel authentic
• I cannot make progress in life
• I'll let go of intrusive thoughts
• I cannot attain my goals
• I cannot self-actualize

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the attainment of my goals...

• I'll be more consistent
• I'll push through difficulties
• I'll work with intense focus
• I'll make small progress everyday
• I'll use my mind better
• I'll enjoy the process

If I avoid responsibility for the attainment of my goals...

• I demotivate myself
• I let go of my goals
• I feel depressed
• I cannot more forward in life
• I avoid dealing with myself
• I avoid life

[Raphael]

10/04/2021 (Week 11)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• take 100% responsibility for my life
• take responsibility to work with intense focus
• take responsibility to create and maintain a healthy systemic living system
• take responsibility for my sleep
• take responsibility to be more consistent with my work
• take responsibility to discipline myself
• take responsibility to attain my goals
• take responsibility to use my mind at its maximum
• take responsibility to fix my traumas
• take responsibility to have empty time to relax
• take responsibility to have some time for my cravings

[Raphael]

11/04/2021 (Week 11)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• take responsibility to breathe properly
• take responsibility to declutter my mind through journaling
• push through difficulties
• discipline myself
• work with intense focus
• use my mind to better slice problems
• allow time for my cravings
• allow empty time to rest
• keep my mind as free as possible by avoiding distractions
• take responsibility to do one thing at the time
• take full responsibility to create results in my life
• take full responsibility to take full responsibility

[Raphael]

12/04/2021 (Week 11)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the success of my relationships...

• I'll bring more honesty to my relationships
• I'll be more vulnerable in my relationships
• I'll bring more understanding in my relationships
• I'll be more proactive in my relationships
• I'll be open in my relationships
• I'll try to find funny things to do with the people that I care about

Sometimes I keep myself passive when I...

• let myself distracted
• wait for things to happen to me
• don't take responsibility
• refuse to dig into my traumas
• refuse to understand myself
• refuse to take actions
• refuse to push through difficulties
• don't discipline myself
• don't walk the talk

Sometimes I make myself helpless when I...

• let myself being dragged down by negative thoughts
• close myself from myself
• avoid responsibility
• let my monkey mind take the control of the situation
• don't experience my emotions
• don't take actions

I am becoming aware...

• that it's time to change
• that I can change by taking 100% responsibility
• that self-discipline and regularly are the keys to personal growth
• that creating a healthy life system will boost my chances of success
• that I can evolve
• that I often make excuses
• that I'm often fearful of success
• that I have an enormous potential
• that I have all the capacities to do what I want to do
• that I only need to take actions every day
• that I can change myself and change the world

[Raphael]

13/04/2021 (Week 11)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the success of my relationships...

• I won't avoid difficult moments
• I'll bring more love to my relationships
• my relationships would improve
• I'll be more connected with people
• I'll be more authentic in my relationships
• I'll be more open in my relationships
• I'll try to understand things from the other's perspective

Sometimes I keep myself passive when I...

• don't take responsibility
• let life flow too much
• let myself succumb to addictions
• don't take actions
• let others take control of my life
• don't admit mistakes
• don't act out of integrity

Sometimes I make myself helpless when I...

• don't trust my abilities
• listen too much to other people negativity
• don't allow me to relax
• am not responsible
• don't fulfill my needs
• try to push things too much without even having a break

I am becoming aware...

• that I need to take 100% responsibility
• that I need to take responsibility to relax and let go
• that I can do what I want to do
• that I have an enormous potential
• that I am an exceptional human being who just lack some self-esteem
• that I'm highly capable
• that I just need a bit of courage to take actions that will have an enormous impact on my life

[Raphael]

14/04/2021 (Week 11)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the success of my relationships...

• I'll take my relationships more seriously
• I'll bring more authenticity to my relationships
• I'll bring more joy to my relationships
• I'll try to understand other's needs
• I'll try to put myself in the shoes of others
• I'll improve the quality of my relationships
• I'll bring more love to my relationships

Sometimes I keep myself passive when I...

• don't talk
• keep too many things for myself
• let people walk on me
• don't take actions
• entertain negative thoughts
• don't take responsibility
• avoid myself

Sometimes I make myself helpless when I...

• fall into victim mentality
• doubt myself
• don't take initiative
• wait for life to come for me of taking actions
• entertain too much stress
• spiral down in depression

I am becoming aware...

• that I can do great things
• that my life can be deep and fulfilling
• that I am highly competent
• that I am highly intelligent
• that I just need to take more responsibility
• that I need a bit more courage
• that I'm an exceptional human being
• that I'm making progress
• that I'm doing much better than most people of my age
• that I'm great
• that I can achieve what I want to achieve

[Raphael]

15/04/2021 (Week 12)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the success of my relationships...

• I'll bring more awareness to my relationships
• I'll try to understand the dynamics behind relationships
• I'll be more focused when communicating with people
• I'll have more understanding of people's needs
• I'll bring more fun to my relationships
• I'll be more honest with people

Sometimes I keep myself passive when I...

• wait for things to happen
• don't take enough actions
• wait for people to come to me
• do nothing
• doubt myself
• don't take responsibility

Sometimes I make myself helpless when I...

• fall for victim mentality
• let myself be distracted by the internet
• don't take responsibility
• let my mind drag me down
• become too much anxious
• don't take actions
• let myself fall into distractions

I am becoming aware...

• that my self-esteem is improving
• that I'm doing much better than a few months ago
• that I have flaws, but that I need to stay aware of them
• that I am highly capable
• that I only need to do some efforts
• that I just need to take more responsibility
• that I just need to bring more focus to what I do
• that I need to be more hopeful
• that I'm doing better than I think
• that I can achieve what I want

[Raphael]

16/04/2021 (Week 12)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the success of my relationships...

• I'll bring more awareness to my relationships
• I'll let away my bitterness when I feel it coming
• I'll stay lightheaded
• I'll improve the quality of my relationships
• I'll dismiss less relationships
• I'll generate more happiness from my relationships

Sometimes I keep myself passive when I...

• wait for things to happen magically
• except life to work out magically for me
• don't take actions
• dismiss my qualities
• do nothing
• fake actions and convince myself that I'm doing something

Sometimes I make myself helpless when I...

• fall into victim mentality
• let difficult thoughts drag me down
• entertain fear
• don't take responsibility
• avoid everything
• avoid all relationships including the ones that have the most potential to help me growth
• refuse to fix my traumas

I am becoming aware...

• that I'm not perfect
• that I have issues to work on
• that I'm actually improving
• that I'm on the right path
• that I have all the capacities to sort things out
• that I'm still young and that I have an entire life of self-actualization
• that I'm an highly conscious individual
• that I will be able to succeed in life

[Raphael]

17/04/2021 (Week 12)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• invest more in my relationships
• bring more awareness in my relationships
• take more responsibility
• push through difficulties
• discipline myself a bit more
• recognize that I have a very high potential
• actualize my potential

[Raphael]

18/04/2021 (Week 12)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• keep high awareness during my social interactions
• stay honest in my relationships
• have integrity in my relationships
• have a positive attitude towards life
• have a proactive attitude towards life
• take more actions
• take more responsibility
• am grateful that I'm actually improving and doing better in life
• continue doing great
• encourage myself more
• love myself more

[Raphael]

19/04/2021 (Week 13)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my standard of living...

• I'll respect more the rules that I put for myself
• I'll try to work with fewer noises
• I'll try to find a small office
• I'll achieve more in life
• I'll drop toxic habits
• I'll only use the actualized.org forum a bit at night

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my choice of companions...

• I'll cut toxic people
• I'll be more open to people
• I'll try to share a bit more with people
• I'll try to find people that have high standards
• I'll find better people
• I could start to experience with relationships

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my personal happiness...

• I'll let go of what I can't control
• I'll focus more on what makes me happy
• I'll introduce healthier habits
• I'll listen more to my needs
• I'll try to understand better my emotions
• I'll be a bit happier every day

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the level of my self-esteem...

• I'll be more consistent in my work
• I'll work with more intensity
• I'll increase my self-esteem
• I'll bring more radical honesty to what I'm doing in life
• I'll do this sentence completion exercise with more focus
• I'll accept myself more

[Raphael]

20/04/2021 (Week 13)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my standard of living...

• I'll respect more my timetable
• I'll improve my organization
• I'll cut useless things
• I'll won't settle for less
• I'll have minimum standards
• I'll work without noises

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my choice of companions...

• I'll cut difficult people
• I'll open myself to people
• I'll try to find high-quality people to spend time with
• I'll spend time online listening to better quality people
• I'll spend time with authentic people
• I'll improve my happiness
• I'll finally feel understood

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my personal happiness...

• I'll entertain a positive and proactive attitude
• I'll open myself to new experiences
• I'll do things that make me happy
• I'll let go of unnecessary thoughts
• I'll let go of things that I don't need
• I'll create happiness within myself

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the level of my self-esteem...

• I'll do things that improve my self-esteem
• I'll value my work
• I'll be more focused
• I'll accept myself unconditionally
• I'll try to find a better environment as soon as possible
• my self-esteem would improve

[Raphael]

21/04/2021 (Week 13)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my standard of living...

• my life would feel better
• I'll try to change my environment
• I'll let go of social medias
• I won't settle for less
• I'll develop better
• self-actualization would be easier

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my choice of companions...

• I'll choose more healthy companions
• I'll cut toxic people
• I'll discover what it's like to have healthy relationships
• I'll enjoy relationships about
• I'll be more open to share about myself
• I'll feel understood
• I'll understand that relationships can be great and fulfilling

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my personal happiness...

• I'll let go of unnecessary thoughts
• I'll continue working on my traumas
• I'll continue making peace with people who hurt me
• my happiness would increase a bit every day
• I'll be happier to live life
• I'll do better in life
• I'll be more content

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the level of my self-esteem...

• I'll accept myself unconditionally
• I'll work a bit better
• I'll have more focus
• I'll increase my self-esteem
• I'll do better in life
• my social anxiety would decrease
• it would create a snowball effect where my self-esteem would increase which then would allow me to take more responsibility for my self-esteem, and improve more and more my self-esteem

[Raphael]

22/04/2021 (Week 13)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my standard of living...

• I'll try to find a separate office
• I'll sleep more
• I'll work without noises
• I'll do better in life
• I won't accept mediocrity
• I'll raise my standards

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my choice of companions...

• I'll spend time with more open-minded people
• I'll be more able to express myself
• I'll be able to be more authentic around people
• I'll finally have great relationships
• I'll enjoy people a bit more
• I'll get more satisfaction from my relationships

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my personal happiness...

• my happiness would increase
• I would be more motivated to do what I want to do
• I'll be more enthusiastic
• I'll do things that make me happy
• I'll let go of unnecessary thoughts
• I'll let go of distractions and would be more in the now

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the level of my self-esteem...

• I'll accept my level of self-esteem
• I'll be OK with where I am on the self-esteem scale
• I'll increase my self-esteem a bit more every day
• I'll work with intense focus
• I'll say what I want to say
• I'll focus more on myself
• I'll do better in life

[Raphael]

23/04/2021 (Week 13)

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my standard of living...

• I'll take more care of my body
• I'll try to change my environment
• I'll try to make more money through freelancing
• I'll respect my needs more
• I'll improve my happiness
• I'll do better in life
• I'll let go of social medias

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my choice of companions...

• I'll search for healthy friends
• I'll feel better about relationships
• I'll enjoy more the company of people
• I'll get more support in life
• I could be more authentic with people
• I'll let go of difficult people

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for my personal happiness...

• I'll do things that makes me happy
• I'll cover my needs
• I'll let go of socials medias
• I'll let go of unnecessary thoughts
• I'll do a better in life every day
• I'll see my work as a pleasure
• I'll work better

If I take 5 percent more responsibility for the level of my self-esteem...

• I'll accept my current self-esteem
• I'll work with intense focus
• I'll say what I want to say
• I'll do what I want to do
• I'll do things out of love
• my living conditions would improve
• my psychological condition would improve
• my body condition would improve

[Raphael]

24/04/2021 (Week 13)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• search for a small office isolated from noises
• cut toxic people
• cut my dad from my life
• search for authentic open-minded friends
• entertain a healthy, proactive, positive attitude towards life
• cover my needs
• accept my current self-esteem
• take responsibility to improve my self-esteem

[Raphael]

25/04/2021 (Week 13)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• find a small isolated office to work
• respect the rules that I set for my life
• work without noises
• cut toxic people
• cut my dad
• maintain a proactive positive attitude in life
• have a problem-solving mindset
• decide to enjoy the now
• work with intense focus
• take full responsibility to improve my self-esteem
• accept my current self-esteem
• push through difficulties