The Challenges of Women (Not every woman okay!)

[Preety_India]

@tsuki you never answered my question. 

 

[Character kill]

But isn’t it common that men and woman search for someone te settle with in their thirties? 

[tsuki]

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:28 AM, Preety_India said:

Tell me if you really believe what I just quoted, that being hurt over and over can be massive challenge?

Yes, being hurt over and over is a big challenge. I believe that I said so multiple times.

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:28 AM, Preety_India said:

Do you at least understand and accept it?

This comes off as condescending.

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:33 AM, Preety_India said:

@tsuki you never answered my question. 

The premise of the question is false. 

[Preety_India]

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:36 AM, tsuki said:

Yes, being hurt over and over is a big challenge. I believe that I said so multiple times.

This comes off as condescending.

The premise of the question is false. 

I'm not trying to be condescending. Just asking you a simple question. 

It seems like you're avoiding the exact question I'm asking.

[Preety_India]

@tsuki and if your answer is yes and you do understand that it's brutal, then that's all I wanted to know. 

[tsuki]

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:39 AM, Preety_India said:

@tsuki and if your answer is yes and you do understand that it's brutal, then that's all I wanted to know. 

Yes, my answer is yes. Dating is absolutely brutal. No regards for personal feelings. You will be hurt over and over until you learn how to spot fuckboys. Then, the relationship will put to the test whether you actually love the person you married. You will be hurt over and over until you learn to do that.

[Preety_India]

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:42 AM, tsuki said:

Yes, my answer is yes

End of the discussion! 

 

[tsuki]

Hahahaha

[Preety_India]

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:44 AM, tsuki said:

Hahahaha

Well that's what I wanted to know from you, whether you understood my perspective or not. You said yes and so I'm relaxed that you finally get it. 

 

[tsuki]

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:46 AM, Preety_India said:

You said yes and so I'm relaxed that you finally get it. 

It's these seemingly small words like "finally get it" that keep triggering your partners into fighting you .

I encourage you to go back through our conversation and read it with this relaxed mindset and see whether I said that dating is easy.

[Preety_India]

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:52 AM, tsuki said:

It's these seemingly small words like "finally get it" that keep triggering your partners into fighting you .

I encourage you to go back through our conversation and read it with this relaxed mindset and see whether I said that dating is easy.

Hahahaha  

This seems like a husband and wife arguing. You remind me of that. 

It's straight out of something my ex would have told me... "I encourage you to go"...... "and see whether I said"... 

This is cracking me up. 

[tsuki]

Plot twist: I'm your ex.

Edited January 26, 2021 by tsuki

[Preety_India]

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:57 AM, tsuki said:

Plot twist: I'm your ex.

It almost feels like. 

[Preety_India]

@tsuki you're very much like me in many ways.. Fyi, this is going to be my last thread in this sub-forum, I'm happy that I have exhausted all my curiosities here, in terms of this sub forum, I don't think there is much left to explore anymore on this subsection, I had lots of curios questions and thoughts and I discussed all of them, now I don't have any fresh ideas or questions left. 

So yea it feels good actually. I can move on to other sections. Got all the burning questions answered. So far the participation in all of my threads was mind blowing and amazing. 

You know such discussions bring so much clarity and depth and they clear out so many previous beliefs, help you explore and learn new things you didn't know, bringing fresh perspectives, it's always good to discuss with others, no matter how heated the debate, it always brings out the other person's perspective and even if there are disagreements, there is something to learn. 

So I'm glad I kinda exhausted my curiosities on this and other threads.. 

I also liked the participation. 

 

[Preety_India]

  On 1/26/2021 at 10:23 AM, Chew211 said:

But it is educational to watch all this banter. It sure made me self reflect on my biases. Good to know that it's not just one gender struggling. 

You're right about it. 

That's why I like such discussions. 

Now it's time for me to quit and focus on other things 

Hope my thread helped open new dimensions and perspectives on dating. 

 

[Applegarden]

  On 1/24/2021 at 8:28 PM, Preety_India said:

I'm not looking for a solution. I don't want any. 

If you don't want a solution, where are you heading? In 10 years time what will happen with you if you don't want to seek betterment in your life. Absolutely nothing that lasts will come into your life if you are not even wishing for betterment in your life. Who is going to build, enjoy and play your life other than you?

There may be some harsh conditions in this age, but there has always been some in any age.

I would ask myself, do I want to be happy?

[Preety_India]

@Applegarden everything doesn't have a perfect solution. 

It's sometimes understanding and acceptance of a situation that is the only solution. 

Embrace life. Yes vent it out when you want. 

But understand the cruelties of life and those cruelties won't have a solution. 

 

[tsuki]

  On 1/26/2021 at 11:16 AM, Preety_India said:

So yea it feels good actually.

Equating me with your ex was a dirty move. I feel terrible.

  On 1/26/2021 at 11:27 AM, Preety_India said:

But understand the cruelties of life and those cruelties won't have a solution. 

They only appear "cruel" and "brutal" from the point of view of the person that hasn't yet learned the lessons that are offered.
It will feel different when you learn the lessons and look back at your current self.
My lessons taught me that I'm only protecting my ignorance.

[Javfly33]

  On 1/26/2021 at 9:46 AM, Preety_India said:

Also let's talk about general culture today. 

I want a feminine man, in a sense who understands a woman, who is not completely oblivious of what a female is. 

But if you look around, a lot of men act like boys. No offense please 

 

There seems to be horrible level of emasculation that has happened which makes men less responsibility oriented and encourages the whole "fuck boy" culture. 

 

 

It's very difficult to navigate around such men because you know they will always act like boys and never shoulder any responsibility. 

I don't want to sound harsh and say that men should always only be about responsibility, but when it comes to marriage, family etc, some degree of responsibility is expected out of him. 

A lot of my college guys were very girlish or feminine, I don't demonize how they are, and of course I expect some feminine sensitive behaviors in a man but I don't want him to act like my female buddy in male form. 

Such men bring drama and bitchy behavior into a relationship because of their lack of maturity but it seems more and more men are being encouraged to be this way and it's cheered on by other men. 

It definitely hurts your survivability as a woman when every man around you is acting like a man child. Your job is not to be their mommy. 

 

I thought a fuckboy was the typical alpha only wanting sex never relationship.

The picture shows more of an efeminate hipster

[Applegarden]

  On 1/26/2021 at 11:27 AM, Preety_India said:

@Applegarden everything doesn't have a perfect solution. 

It's sometimes understanding and acceptance of a situation that is the only solution. 

Embrace life. Yes vent it out when you want. 

But understand the cruelties of life and those cruelties won't have a solution. 

 

So you ARE looking for solution!? Which is it.

What do you mean, embracing life and not looking for solution, it doesn't add up.

Nothing wrong with venting out when you are looking for how to create a situation, especially internally, to not need to vent even.

Why do you think you are helpless?

If you are not looking for a solution, how do you know there is not a solution?

If you don't seek solutions, the only and only thing that will happen is depression, desperation, hatred towards everything and suicide. You are really worth more than that.