Porn made me BI, reality made me hetero

[Hansu]

4 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Dude, if you ain't mad for pussy, you ain't hetero.

Haha, I guess you are right in a sense. I wouldn't mind sucking a big pristine glistering dick, so I must be bi

3 hours ago, kag101 said:

How many experiences you've had with men? 

Maybe like... 15? 11 of them with the guy I dated for 2 months

3 hours ago, soos_mite_ah said:

Sexuality exists on a spectrum. I have bi friends who describe their attraction to women and men as 90% to 10%, meaning they feel like they mainly lean towards women as far as intensity of attraction goes but they have extremely specific tastes for men or they rarely find themselves attracted to men if that makes sense. A lot of bi people are 50-50, 70-30 and everything else in between. 

Or there is this other thing called aesthetic attraction where you can acknowledge a good looking person and appreciate their beauty without wanting to have sex with them 

Yeah Im still bisexual, but like you said I have really specific taste. Im hetero-romantic, but if every star is aligned and some really cute boy wants to have sex with me whats the harm? However, I feel like that such a boy only exists in porn, in fantasy. It's not likely enough that I would actively seek it or have my hopes up.

I totally agree with the idea of aesthetic attraction. I definitely love a well groomed male body. Ottermode is the best!

Edited January 24, 2021 by Hansu

[Hansu]

2 hours ago, Espaim said:

You undecided folks would benefit from learning about different types of attraction. Romantic, sexual, aesthetic...

This is a good tip! I never really thought about this. I mean I did know what is homo and hetero romantic before but I really didn't pay attention to the fact that there can be many different types of things that attract you such as aesthetical attraction. I just thought it as "well, you can be attracted to boys or girls or trans etc".  But I now see how shallow that kind of thinking is.

Thanks for the tip, I'm definitely going to look up types of attraction

Edited January 24, 2021 by Hansu

[LordFall]

On 23/01/2021 at 4:55 PM, ColeMC01 said:

@Leo Gura I am also not turned on by seeing a vagina but i am if i see tits ass cute face nice toned body etc

I do not think most guys get hard if they see a picture of a vagina in itself. Roast me if i am wrong

You might have some part of your sexual expression suppressed or not be fully straitht. I find vaginas incredibly arousing and frequently masturbate to pictures of just pussies.

In fact if I meditate before sex with a girl I really like, I could cry because her pussy is so beautiful.

[tsuki]

I'm bisexual and I can relate to your struggles @Hansu

I think that the whole notion of polar sexuality on a singular scale is so underdeveloped that it does more harm than good.

First of all, we have masculine or feminine body with accompanying organs. Then, these bodies create both feminine and masculine energies in varying proportions. Then, we express either of them when it feels appropriate to do so. Some people can express them to same biological sex, some can only express these energies to the opposite sex. Some don't have such filters.

WHY WOULD IT BE SUCH A BIG DEAL FOR SOCIETY WHO I FUCK WITH?! 

[tsuki]

2 hours ago, LordFall said:

In fact if I meditate before sex with a girl I really like, I could cry because her pussy is so beautiful.

That's some real kinky shit right there  Love it

[Zigzag Idiot]

It seems to me most Religions divide people against themselves to a great degree by putting a lot of shame around sexuality.

[tsuki]

10 minutes ago, Zigzag Idiot said:

It seems to me most Religions divide people against themselves to a great degree by putting a lot of shame around sexuality.

I agree. If people realized how much wisdom the body conveys, they would quickly abandon all religions for the sake of their innate teachers. So the body must be demonized and smeared with all kinds of shit. It is of utmost importance to religions that people are disconnected from their bodies.

Edited January 26, 2021 by tsuki

[PenguinPablo]

@Leo Gura maybe

On 1/23/2021 at 1:37 PM, Leo Gura said:

Lying

This is extremely common.

In reality many people are not 100% straight but they suppress it so deeply that they don't even know it because our culture so stigmatizes bi-sexuality. People are sheep and rarely want to go against cultural norms. The norms are so deeply internalized they are not felt as norms but as physical reality.

You're doing the same. Freud says everyone is bisexual

 

One more thing... Do you think Devil's threesome is gay or nah? 2 guys bang 1 girl

Edited January 26, 2021 by PenguinPablo

[tsuki]

4 minutes ago, PenguinPablo said:

@Leo Gura maybe

You're doing the same. Freud says everyone is bisexual

@PenguinPablo "Freud did cocaine" rebuttal coming in 3... 2... 1...

[LordFall]

10 hours ago, PenguinPablo said:

 

One more thing... Do you think Devil's threesome is gay or nah? 2 guys bang 1 girl

As long as the souls don't touch  

[Hansu]

11 hours ago, tsuki said:

I'm bisexual and I can relate to your struggles @Hansu

I think that the whole notion of polar sexuality on a singular scale is so underdeveloped that it does more harm than good.

First of all, we have masculine or feminine body with accompanying organs. Then, these bodies create both feminine and masculine energies in varying proportions. Then, we express either of them when it feels appropriate to do so. Some people can express them to same biological sex, some can only express these energies to the opposite sex. Some don't have such filters.

WHY WOULD IT BE SUCH A BIG DEAL FOR SOCIETY WHO I FUCK WITH?! 

The most confusing thing to me is the internal struggles of LGBTQ+ community. Like people, we are supposed to understand each other so why are you questioning each others personalities or sexual preferences???

This is the entire reason why I included "Biphobes dont bother" in the opening post. I was actually afraid that there would be people questioning bisexuality in this thread, luckily there hasn't been any.

Edited January 26, 2021 by Hansu

[Evil Raccoon]

On 23/01/2021 at 10:25 PM, Preety_India said:

I'm attracted to only good men

Lol.     

[Yog]

On 1/26/2021 at 9:25 AM, PenguinPablo said:

@Leo Gura maybe

You're doing the same. Freud says everyone is bisexual

Including ur mom.

[PenguinPablo]

@Yog so what...

 

[asABOVEsoBelow]

Hi , created an account just because I saw your post . And im living a very similar experience lol . 

So , at first I watched gay porn out of curiosity when I was in High school ... And I got stuck with it for a while ( unfortunately ) . 

So yeah , gay porn isn't what reality looks like unless you find someone Hot and who will take cleaning his ass seriously . 

I dated guys and sometimes girls ( without telling them im bi of course to not end up in the Faggzone lol , no homophobia here its just a fact girls will do that if you are honest about your sexuality ) . I realized that what I wanted was not a boy friend to live my life with but a true friend with whom I could have a close relationship and just be my authentic self with , I think you can call that a bromance . I found that guy , we are friends since high school and are in college together now . One night during a sleepover we got drunk and started ... jerking each other off . We didn't talk about it for like 3 months until he brought the subject up and said that he was straight and preferred girls , same for me . 

But , I can't see living my life 24/7 next to a dude . Thinking about the long term , being in a relationship with a guy isn't something I want . Girls can age well , I find that men age terribly bad . And there is also the desire of building a family and the joy of being a father/grandpa . 

I may not be heterosexual but I plan to build a monogamous relationship with a girl . 

 

On 23/01/2021 at 9:34 PM, Leo Gura said:

Dude, if you ain't mad for pussy, you ain't hetero.

Its quite disrespectful to invalidate someone's experience honestly . Let people use labels they find fit for themselves . 

Edited January 28, 2021 by asABOVEsoBelow
i was wrong

[asABOVEsoBelow]

@Preety_India  Nothing is wired forever . Look at trans people . 

 

[asABOVEsoBelow]

@goldpower123 What is a " real man "  ?

 

 

Edited January 28, 2021 by asABOVEsoBelow

[asABOVEsoBelow]

On 23/01/2021 at 11:49 PM, Espaim said:

You undecided folks would benefit from learning about different types of attraction. Romantic, sexual, aesthetic...

And maybe uncommon sexualities.If you have the need to fit yourself into a label then at least learn about all the ones that exist: pansexuality, bisexuality, asexuality (aego)... No need to fit into the mainstream hetero/gay paradigm

There's also Sex-favorableness and sex positivity but i don't know much about it

Yes people should look into that . 

Also look into polyamory , teal swan made a good video about it .