What's up with transgender porn?

[Rolo]

Dicks! I have developed this transgender fetish that I am not happy about.  It feels like it's not healthy for me and not what I want to have as my sexuality, but I still keep going back to the chicks with dicks. I carry this shame about it because I don't want to be homosexual.

I am really trying to have a healthy sexuality but I am really struggling with what to understand to mature my sexuality. It feels like this aspect of my sexuality has deviated my feminine shadow.

 

 

Edited January 19, 2021 by Rolo

[egoeimai]

Just be okay with it Rolo

 Don't put too many labels on it. Let it be. 

P.s. it's sexy 

[Rilles]

1 hour ago, Rolo said:

I carry this shame about it because I don't want to be homosexual.

Theres your problem. 

[Michal__]

You can't really force yourself to be hetero. I'd say you haven't really developed attraction towards that, but uncovered a new part of yourself. 

If you really want to be 100% sure get your hormones checked to see if they aren't out of balance. Otherwise there's not much you can do about it, just roll with it.

Edited January 19, 2021 by Michal__

[Megan Alecia]

Your problem will be over only if you can make up a decision between two opposing sides. Law of the universe right here. 

[Potato People King]

12 hours ago, Rolo said:

Dicks! I have developed this transgender fetish that I am not happy about.  It feels like it's not healthy for me and not what I want to have as my sexuality, but I still keep going back to the chicks with dicks. I carry this shame about it because I don't want to be homosexual.

I am really trying to have a healthy sexuality but I am really struggling with what to understand to mature my sexuality. It feels like this aspect of my sexuality has deviated my feminine shadow.

 

 

A considerable number of people with similar issues have started to do nofap (no porn and masturbation). Check nofap.com forums for success stories and experience. It might help you with making up your mind about what to do, you will get another perspective on this subject. Remember, live consciously.

[Username]

I think that it turns you on because you think it's inappropriate. That's how repression works.

Edited January 19, 2021 by Username

[Lyubov]

lmao dude chill. there are plenty of attractive trans women. let go of all this shame around being attracted to them. 

[Applegarden]

First of all there might be a deep seated fear of what will other people think, because that is wrong or something, so ummediatly you feel like an outcast, inferior, insecure and guilty.

Acceptance goes along way.

Why would you feel that way?

Why is it wrong to be turned on by that? So many people are turned on by different things. 

Do you want to hear something that makes you feel better?

I also have a weird fetish that turns me on. I don't really want to act on it and besides doing some moderate spiritual practice even, the lust sometimes gets really strong.

So let me embarass myself also. First of all, I want you to see that the impression of pornography is:

1) designed to get you hooked, as opposed to daily mechanical labour type suffocating life and our mindset that we need to run after pleasure and meanwhile judge, guilt each other and project abstinence and some kind of wicked morality that you are not supposed to entertain this, even tho it is designed to get you to do exactly that; 

2) just another impression from the sense perception, so with more intrinsic happiness, sense pleasures come down, but more like in waves rather than linearily;

So my fetish is latex bondage. There is a such a thing as those double layered latex sleeping bags where a person basically gets tightly sqeezed by two balloons. And they you can already immagine what you can do with all that. Have had lots of fantasies about that of how it would be like e.c.t. Have masturbated on them. Feels very unpleasant to reveal it and most importantly I feel very vulnerable to reveal such things altho it really doesn't matter and its the bottom of my priorities to seek out and try something like this. But its more like fear of what other people will think of you. I immagine alot of gays and trans use these toys also, but I hope you won't have to run from that away also.

[hoodrow trillson]

In a funny way, I think you enjoying what you like (in this example, trans women) is the most "straight" thing a man can do if that makes any sense--which is basically the entire societal premise of what it means to be a man and what most men fear most is not being a real man.  

 

[Rolo]

13 hours ago, egoeimai said:

Just be okay with it Rolo

 Don't put too many labels on it. Let it be. 

P.s. it's sexy 

That's the thing, It is sexy and I want to be sexy too but this whole idea of me being sexy as a guy is a different representation than a transgender.

 

39 minutes ago, Username said:

I think that it turns you on because you think it's inappropriate. That's how repression works.

I have created a heap of shame and guilt about making it inappropriate, I find it to be a difficult thing to accept as a porn category.

[Osaid]

Sexuality seems to be a very malleable and flexible thing, much more than society tends to give it credit for

I wouldn't overthink it, and I wouldn't be too fast to put myself in boxes like "gay" or "straight". Sexuality can be way more nuanced than that, and it's really not worth panicking over these labels just cause you watch something out of the ordinary once in a while.

I've seen transgender women who are basically indistinguishable from non-transgender women. It's really not that weird.

Also yeah, you can try no-fap if you want, it could help a bit with stabilizing your sexual desires and maybe even becoming more intimate with them. Just make sure to commit to it, and make sure not to watch porn or edge yourself during it, it kind of ruins the progress IME. 

3 hours ago, Username said:

I think that it turns you on because you think it's inappropriate. That's how repression works.

This is also pretty likely. A self-fulfilling prophecy.

 

 

 

[Username]

@Rolo  Are you using porn when you are anxious? You may have deep fear about something and this is the way to release.

Maybe you are scared of being dominated by a female, or you are afraid that your girlfriend will be transgender, or you hold strong indentification with being heterosexual. Maybe you should imagine yourself being gay?

When you hold strong preference you create a tension. Watching uncomfortable videos (confronting with your great) help you to release it.

[LfcCharlie4]

This is common if you're addicted to porn. 

You could of course be naturally attracted this, but it could of developed through excessive porn use. 

Honestly, after reading Your Brain On Porn & reading Anecdotes of people's porn addictions & extreme fetishes this is very minor compared to what some have been through. 

I'd recommend a 90 day 'reset' of No PMO (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm) then go from there & that's a good indicator whether it's a natural attraction or a porn-induced fetish which is FAR more common then you think.

If you are naturally attracted to this, then you know it isn't Porn induced.

However if it developed over years of watching Porn, after what you was watching no longer worked for you, then Its likely porn induced. 

Take a break, and if you can't take a break, then that means you're likely addicted, I know I was. 

 

[Rolo]

3 hours ago, Username said:

@Rolo  Are you using porn when you are anxious? You may have deep fear about something and this is the way to release.

Maybe you are scared of being dominated by a female, or you are afraid that your girlfriend will be transgender, or you hold strong indentification with being heterosexual. Maybe you should imagine yourself being gay?

When you hold strong preference you create a tension. Watching uncomfortable videos (confronting with your great) help you to release it.

Yes that makes sense. I need to go into what I am running away from. The fear for me is it changing my identity, but I guess l gotta do what I want to do.

[Potato People King]

Thumb up for @LfcCharlie4 

[peanutspathtotruth]

@Applegarden Respect for being so open about that! Can be very liberating psychologically  No shame whatsoever!!

@Rolo
Listen to @LfcCharlie4 's advice, would have pointed at the same!

Edited January 21, 2021 by peanutspathtotruth

[Chew211]

Yo, dude. Just quit porn.

Yeah, you might have repressed homosexuality or some irrational fear that you might be gay or something but that can be dealt with separately.

Your fetish has been attained via porn, and stopping porn will reverse it. 

The thing about internet porn nowadays is that we have access to novelty so easily. 

Another thing is that your reinforcing neural pathways the more you watch porn. 

If you're gonna jerk it, try do so without porn or porn-influenced fantasy. 

Preferably find a sex partner and just limit yourself to real sex for a few months-- masturbating can lead you back to porn use, which will lead you back to your problematic fetish (others will say it's not a problem, but it's a problem for you, so it's your responsibility to solve it either by being okay with tranny porn or stop reinforcing the neural pathways that sends you to didily yourself to chicks with dicks). 

[Harikrishnan]

There is no problem in watching girl with dick porn. i watched and fapped to it couple of times. still i am straight. at first there was shame like thinking what bizzare thing am i watching, there is a kind of confusion in mind,i even thought  my sexual orientation is changing, but i let it go and then shame/doubtful thoughts/fear all went. be mindful of how mind creates lot of stories. 

p.s enjoy everything ?

Edited January 22, 2021 by Harikrishnan