Partner Compatibility Guidelines (Female)

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So I realise my previous entry on the subject was just waaaay too out there and only like maybe no one on planet earth could fulfill so I'm re-creating this from a much more practical perspective. Trial and error right? I'll refine this overtime to be as elegant and simple as I can.

Edited January 14, 2021 by Origins

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On a 1 to 10 scale... 

All of these would follow with actions of course that reflect that desire.

1. Desire for truth 

2. Desire for no needless conflict (though there's always an open invitation to constructive challenges)

3. Desire for self awareness

4. Desire for connection that isnt corrupted by that need 

- so understanding one another, lots of communication

- practicals can include but are not limited to dream analysis, psychological growth work for the both of us, understanding how our histories have affected us, the same too with our present perspectives on the world and how those can be shaped to our betterment

5. Desire to be insightful 

- I need insight on things as well that's a part of connection of course

6. Desire to be creative 

 

Edited January 14, 2021 by Origins

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——- still following above scale ——— 

7. Desire to be curious

8. Extra sensory perception / high sensitivity 

9. Desire to be truly yourself 

10. Desire to explore 

11. Desire for humour / playfulness / light heartedness

12. Desire to see orca whales in the wild

13. Desire to travel to other planets (this is becoming possible slowly)

14. Desire to grow

15. Desire to be free where freedom is the ability to express oneself fully and how one intended

Edited January 15, 2021 by Origins

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On compatibilities: 1-10 scale as used above:

1. An autobiographical connection

• So we don't necessarily have to have grown up together of course, I mean, that seems irrelevant and merely a bonus, just in terms of how we've been shaped by our environment and the memories we can recall in association. One example among many others of a lack of autobiographical connection would be like you had the perfect childhood for example, that would create distance for me that would need to be worked through if other compatibilities were pretty good. I mean, it reduces conversational potential by quite a lot the more lack of alignments need to be worked through here. This doesn't mean that differences can't complement each other here, of course they can, its more or less about what differences do not, why and how does that arise so that those reasons can be understood in context with the overall dynamic.

2. Not too wide of a gap in terms of growth momentum

• I'm a passionate person towards my own growth and development, if the gap is too wide here, it'll create the same kind of distance experienced as having a completely unrelatable/foreign autobiographical background. Foreign as its used here by the way falls outside the scope of language barriers, although they can be an aspect, after-all english is preferred and a tongue towards learning other languages if they aren't already known.

Edited January 17, 2021 by Origins

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Non-negotiables (periodic update):
(unless you're truly the jackpot in other areas (doubtful - so it would just be about striving for the average of the sum)):

1. You must have committed at least one crime, preferably resulted in hand-cuffing at some point but no prison term as that just shows too much carelessness all things being equal. The hand-cuffs are not absolutely mandatory though, just a bonus.

2. You must be high in sentimentality (aka this is a hard no to psychopaths even if I find you sexy sometimes), otherwise my whole project here just wouldn't work, I'm biologically wired to be high here and I've learned that this is the best way to live out existence if I were to repeat it again and again providing I intelligently shift towards the right conditions. Lack of sentimentality is the same as you being asexual, pass. Sentimentality is highly linked though not synonymous to pair-bonding ability. Exceptions here are if there are preoccupations with past experiences that can be worked through which have otherwise stifled said underlying high sentimentality. Take the HEXACO online to find out as well as research the meaning and implications of this term from this site here https://hexaco.org/hexaco-online . And not all tests are perfect obviously, it's just important to use intelligence to differentiate relevance.

3. You must be okay with me maintaining pre-existing female relationships I have, and that's to whatever capacity, until our relationship dynamic has done all the negotiation that needs to be done for greater exclusivity, there are some relationships however as a consequence of the commitment I've made to those females where only sexual exclusivity will be provided unless negotiated otherwise in the future, and this will be only as a consequence of my negotiation with the other woman/women, not as something that I follow as a direct request from you simply because I have to take into consideration the thoughts and feelings of those/that other women/woman. Exclusivity depends on how high up the scale our relationship is (see noted previous scales), generally speaking, and then it's weighed against all of my other female relationships which are weighed against the same scales.

4. Openness to experience is a must have, I score in the top 1% and I need someone to score at least in the top 10%, I won't settle for anything less. For now here's a short description of the scale until I get the time to describe more originally.

The Aesthetic Appreciation scale assesses one's enjoyment of beauty in art and in nature. Low scorers tend not to become absorbed in works of art or in natural wonders, whereas high scorers have a strong appreciation of various art forms and of natural wonders.

The Inquisitiveness scale assesses a tendency to seek information about, and experience with, the natural and human world. Low scorers have little curiosity about the natural or social sciences, whereas high scorers read widely and are interested in travel.

The Creativity scale assesses one's preference for innovation and experiment. Low scorers have little inclination for original thought, whereas high scorers actively seek new solutions to problems and express themselves in art.

The Unconventionality scale assesses a tendency to accept the unusual. Low scorers avoid eccentric or nonconforming persons, whereas high scorers are receptive to ideas that might seem strange or radical.

https://hexaco.org/scaledescriptions

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On our relationship to Sex - Guidelines and Needs

A lead into the following journal I've just commenced: https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/59996-sex-from-truth-an-exposé-on-true-sex/#comment-814142

Sexual Open Mindedness (though this goes without saying - and ideas, possibilities, expressions here are negotiated not mandatory of course)

Sexual Stamina (I like to go for at least an hour - just because I find that more intimate - doesn’t have to be like this every day, at least every few weeks or more I’d like to go for 2 hours plus)

Sexual Frequency (at least once per day is preferred though of course there’s incidents of chaotic misfortune that may disrupt that - and the experience has to be negotiated, because the whole idea is ensuring the best possible experience)

Sexual Imagination (they have to be good at creating and holding scenarios in their mind for creating purposes sometimes for the sexual experience — sometimes the purpose will be around creating a certain frequency between one another)

Sexual Intimacy (this goes with sentimentality, though nuances of intimacy can sometimes be sacrificed for the sake of fulfilling the negotiated outcomes of sexual open mindedness; again, negotiated, not mandatory sanctions of course)

Sexual Enjoyability (this should be obvious, but I want to highlight the importance both with respect to my own experience and the experience the other person is having, its of the utmost importance to me that the latter is fulfilled as much as I wish to enjoy it)

Sexual Experience (not just in terms of frequency or partners, more instead along the lines of how much and well they’ve thought about it, what insights they’ve had there, creative explorations they’ve generated which are underpinned by say life principles or simply something analogous to this sentiment. It’s taken that sexuality is not just an act of pleasure but an experience of symbiotic reflection, expression of something deeper than the body, creative catharsis as well as art of being, release and extensionality. Examples relate to questions for all of the above which test ones level of experience. Say regarding enjoyability, how is it going to be enjoyed? Why is it enjoyed? What is resolved? What is created? Etc. So many people just see sex as an act and release without any contention for forethought regarding its intentionality. Intentionality as it must be understood, is the soul of sex, don’t trifle with it)

Sexual Honesty (this relates to intentionality, you must have your intention right, which can be learned. What are you trying to express in the moment? How are you tethered to this other being in this act of spiritual art? If you’re not reaching from the soul where are you reaching from and who are you reaching to? How you have sex says a lot about how you do life, allow the intentionality you’ve developed in sex paint the self honesty you will approach all of life with. Finally, the level of sexual honesty within any relationship describes a lot about the dynamics of the relationship itself. What is felt? What can you hear between the breaths where no words are spoken? If you cannot commit in any act of sex, what in life can you truly commit to? True sex is the bedrock of having to experience ones complete energetic body in the moment, what is your commitment to true feeling here then? Alignment with sexual honesty is the cornerstone of aligning with sex from truth and the beginning of true sex)

No Sexual Escapism (if sex is used in such a way to escape ones energetic body via the pleasure principle, then one is not truly experiencing their full energetic body during sex, and thus one of the sole premises to sex as an act from and as the universe, is not fully magnified in intensity and breadth, soul expression, devotion, extension and connection. In fact, to covet sexual escapism is the anti-thesis of living life, moreover, given the relationship between intentionality within sex and future life navigation, if you use sex as an escape you’re only reinforcing the attitude of medicating oneself to handle the pressures of life. This is why intentionality in the context of ones energetic body to manifest the honesty is so vital for authentic enjoyment and experience. Any sexual escapism and any issues around sex in general will be treated delicately and mindfully moving forward.)

Edited January 18, 2021 by Origins

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ENERGETIC COMPATIBILITY

Quick copy and paste here for now until I get more time to write about it:

 

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I'll spend more time on this description later as well, but I was reminded today by how I like women who test me a little, challenge my perceptions, get me to extend them further.

Who the fuck can do that? It doesn't need to be in an aggressive way, but that's not something I wouldn't not want, it just needs to be in such a manner that forces me to extent myself closer to truth. This is mother fucking life, what the fuck is its essence? What can we take away with us in 1 weeks time babe? How about 1 month? What the fuck have we learned in 1 whole year beautiful? I want to look back and be like fuck, we learned more together as two people than any one average person by themselves or together with one or more other persons would in ten years, even their entire damn lives.

They gotta meet me in this middle, yes we're fucking doing this thing called life, yes we're going to creatively stretch this as far as we can together. I'm energetically very flexible along with experiencing very high energy states as noted above, so I can handle and appreciate both intense women in this challenging sense right down to the other side of the spectrum with women who like to extent their perceptions from a more agreeable and empathic sense.

On the HEXACO, this conversational relationship in the context of challenging perceptions, in part, relates to the agreeableness scale, those women who tend to be less agreeable are more in your face and pressuring, those women higher in agreeableness tend to need to be encouraged more to open up about how they think about issues as they're not used to openly disagreeing there while at the same time doing so maintaining their conflict averse attitude so they're still in the frame of their personality. This eagerness towards expansion is a combination of two other scales on the HEXACO being Openness to Experience and Conscientiousness. For those women that fit really well here we still have the other indicators to look at of course but in particular here as it relates to the Neuroticism scale, women higher here must be made to either feel much more comfortable to slowly adopt this comfort zone thus actually reducing their neuroticism overtime or you've got women here that are less on neuroticism that have less of a difficulty adapting to this level. For the right woman, nothing is black and white here, it would be something that we could discuss and talk about overtime about how, if they're interested, may be able to slowly adapt to this change.

They wouldn't need to be as progressive as me, again its not black and white, however like all other compatibility measures they'd just need to not be too far away from me here so as to ensure we're not too imbalanced. Because think about it, if I'm like this and my partner is over there on the other side of the spectrum, where do you think we're going to be in 5 years time even if we're good in all other areas? Intellectually and in terms of life experience I'm going to feel extremely lonely here if there isn't enough compatibility, all of a sudden all those other areas of good compatibility mean nothing as I'm too progressive. So its an important note I'm making here, again, I'm still fine tuning the way in which I'll move forward here with this in the context of a relationship but I've nonetheless brought it to the forefront of my awareness here in a positive and forthright sense enough for me to reflect on and improve at a later time.

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You must have had at least one psychotic/manic/like episode, so analogous as well if none of the others apply.

This is a no neurotypicals welcome policy.