Abusive Sister, Tips?

[Lamp]

During my upbringing my sister and her boyfriend abused me in subtle ways. Nowadays she tries to catch up with me and she is super nice. I don't want to have anything to do with her, but I alwaus feel like im the one doing it wrong. Her abuse is one of the things that has lead me in to depression and depersonalization. I don't have depression anymore and the dp is much, much better than it once was. 

Anyone here that has some knowledge/experience that maybe can help me?:) thanks

@Leo Gura

 

[Havana]

@Lamp

If it years old wounds open to have contact with her, decide for what is better for you!

I was in an abusive relationship for a longer time. And the first thing you are being told is, no contact is the best way to get over it. Your feelings of doing things wrong are the key to everything in this case. And believe me, I totally know how you feel! You might want to educate on co-dependency. Don't know your full background and I am guessing here, but find the solution to these feelings. Find the roots. And you will have the chance to work on this and close the gaps.

all the best