What Do Y'all Do to Develop Your Ego?

[PepperBlossoms]

What do y'all do to improve your ego development?

Edited January 5, 2021 by PepperBlossoms

[BlackMaze]

Working to put the right habits in place.. You can find your weak areas and work on them to improve them. Health habits come first. For example i can't go to sleep early. I try different things and nothing seems to work well enough. This is what i will focus on. I will find something that works eventually. When i find the solution for this i will be able to wake up early, have more energy and concentrate on being very productive, work on life purpose and find a way to escape wage slavery. 

It's a chain and everything starts with your health and energy. When you feel good you will do the activities that you fell drawn towards, develop skills reach goals and feel better about yourself. Then you can grow and develop your ego. 

Edited January 4, 2021 by BlackMaze

[Eldra]

relationships has taught me a lot, or just communicating with people, reflecting on how others are, and looking at others from the perspective of your concept of how you would like to be

online chatrooms, having diversity amongst people you talk to, to not just get bound into one group of people
learning the word conforming was a nice one for me, what that word means and the way ego uses that, both directly and invertly
exploring meditation, just for fun, just to sit for a bit, nothing else
putting yourself on your own line, not under or over anyone not even on anyone else's line, just be your own game
at some point one has to detach from all the theory and concepts and just breathe what is, cause everyone else in your life has a different perspective
getting in tune with just the No-perspective that life has is more key than getting in tune with a perspective, at least after having learned things like ego development and spiral dynamics.
Killing your own horse is a good one, we're all useless, so no high horses, no judging harshly or blindly
being present, look at what is in front of you
Being focused and intentional
Reading as meditation, try reading mindfully
just in general, stop trying, just enjoy, life isn't a frog on a dissecting table, if it is, then get on with it and beyond that.
Trello boards organizing yourself and your thoughts/ideas
the list goes on and on, you do you. it's all gravy, so we should get really good at making gravy. 

[Jacob Morres]

I should really understand that model 

Edited January 5, 2021 by Jacob Morres

[PepperBlossoms]

Thanks for the responses!  I have found that I am best able to get better with my ego when my ego is acting out.

I found myself super angry at having to quarantine after being exposed to covid and was blaming everyone else and realized that I was at fault for putting myself in the situation to get exposed as well as was blaming the others.. I also was fortunate enough to watch a Susanne-Cook Greuter video (that someone had share on the forum) on the ego's response to covid and saw how low my ego was.  I had never realized just how undeveloped and low my ego was - it was the lowest stage!  I found Susanne and her peers super inspirational and then was able to see the beauty for the quarantine and how much it was helping me and went from angrily texting people about how much I hated the quarantine to really seeing that I do not want to kill others if I do have it as well as all this alone time giving me time to work on myself and explore new things.

I have also found that when I send a message that is full of low ego, my body will feel a shock - it will literally feel like a shockwave or punch - or like an electrocution.  I will start to feel this sharp pang of hate.  I will then see that it is the ego being the ego - the ego is now naked and exposed and I will delete the message if I can or apologize.  I can start to see myself getting arrogant or cocky.

I find that the more ways we can get the ego naked and exposed for being the ego, we can more quickly stop letting the ego act out.  The ego may try to come up with more and more ways to stay hidden and act out in the dark without us noticing and it is up to us to be on the lookout.

People with low ego development, like me, may have NO CLUE AT ALL that they have a low ego as it is that low (especially if all of their peers do not understand ego development and so they cannot see it for what it is either).

[PepperBlossoms]

6 hours ago, neutralempty said:

Nothing. I just have desire and with its fulfilment come difficulties and with that suffering and eventually some attachements and ideas surrender or if not the suffering changes your perspective and approach. I don't target the ego specifically, cause I don't even know where to find it other then “me“.

For finding "the ego" I can "see" it when for instance when I can see I am being super angry externally and want to let go of the anger but I cannot get myself to let go, or can see it in others with the lack of or tamed ego when someone is being super nice and caring or with their super low ego for not finding the beauty and appreciation for things or pointing the blame externally and never internally.  It seems like the easiest to see when there is a problem and how the ego reacts to the problem - blame outward, blame inward, look for more info/understanding, look for ways to appreciate the situation.