3 SD stages in one house

[UNZARI]

Just a funny thing I realized. My dad is a stage blue baby boomer, my mom is a classic money hustler stage orange, and I’m the stage green psychonaut.

My dad always has hated everything about technology and only uses it sparingly for looking at news or trump stuff. My mom uses technology to write her books and make money, she’s always listening to podcasts to grow and expand her business. And me, I use technology to make digital art, go on here, make music, learn about psychedelics and read trip reports.

That’s just using how we approach modern technology as an example of course there are many other ways the model is very accurate. 
 

The distance from me and my dad is insane but that also includes personal issues of his which is why we’re not close. We don’t see the world the same at all.

anyways do any of you guys see this in your family? 

[Carl-Richard]

My dad is green as a bean. My mom is much more orange. They're divorced

[soos_mite_ah]

My dad is blue with a lot of orange and a dash of green. He is pro women's rights and rights of POC (and HATES Trump) but most of his energy goes towards how to make money, be efficient, be practical and being strategic in life. He embodies a lot of the healthy qualities of orange but is not in touch with his emotions at all and gets freaked out by the notion of it. He does have blue in him because of his "blood is thicker than water" attitude towards family and his Islamophobia. He isn't very religious and writes most of it off as superstition.  

My mom is mainly blue with a little bit of orange. She is religious and holds family really dear. She also had very patriarchal notions regarding how to raise girls and what is sexuality. She also exhibits a lot of healthy blue including being disciplined, dutiful, honest, and controlled. Her orange side comes out whenever something bad happens. Like if I had a death in the family, she would just tell me something along the lines of be strong, be rational, don't feel. While she doesn't like Trump, she is a huge Modi supporter and loves the nationalism he brings. 

I feel like I am green moving into yellow with a little bit of orange I'm still working through.  As a kid I was orange leaning towards green because of my environment outside of the house. I started moving towards more green and eventually yellow through education, self development, integration of the previous stages, and last but certainly not least, Leo's videos. 

My parents don't like each other and have frequent disagreements when it came to how to raise me and in terms of values. My mom is like a traditional brown mom and my dad is more rationalistic so as a result he often feels like she has regressive views on the world. 

I clash with both of them because I grew up in a different country than them (my mom grew up in India, dad in Bangladesh, me in the U.S.) and often times they aren't the most emotionally mature people because of how dogmatic they can be and how closed off to emotions they are. It was definitely chaotic growing up because we are all on such different places on the spiral especially since I felt that I out grew my parents at such a young age (and as a result had to guide myself through growing as a person). 

But when I started moving towards yellow, it became easier to deal with them because I know what was going on and what to push on when making my points to help them understand where I'm coming from. The relationship I have with both of my parents is complicated and difficult at times, especially when it comes to reaching out for emotional support, but for the most part I can get along with them. I still love them and I know they care about me and as a result I can still manage to connect with them and have a relationship even if they don't developmentally resonate with me. 

[Raphael]

On 12/30/2020 at 7:03 AM, UNZARI said:

anyways do any of you guys see this in your family? 

Yes.

My dad is red/orange, I never had a proper discussion with him in my entire life. Even if we live in the same house, he is dead for me since at least 10 years.

My mom is orange/green and also have some of blue in her because of her religion.

My sister is mostly green, but also have some of blue because of her religion.

My grandma is beige/blue. Beige because she is very old now and cannot take care of herself. Blue because she believes is god, is attached to her country, have some ethnocentric values, and see man and women as having fixed roles in life.

I'm mostly orange/green, and I maybe have 10% of yellow in me.