"Real" vs "Fake" emotion and expression

[lmfao]

I don't know what to consider "fake" or "real" when it comes to emotion. Because I have seen the crocodile tears that I shed, the false hurt that I have imagined, I don't automatically trust other people's emotions and reactions. From one perspective the hurt I and others have is artificial programming, thus you should be resolute in breaking through it and not giving in. 

Looking at what I just wrote above and relating it to what's in my mind, it masks false perception I have. Because "on the other hand", emotion is emotion, feelings are feelings. If someone is hurt and suffering, well they are hurt and suffering. Even if it's being made up a lot at times, whatever exists exists. 

What was written in the first paragraph can justify an attitude of self-denial or denial of expression in others, and it did for me. An insight which was co-opted to some positionality. I'm not wrong that the programming is to be overcome though. 

[Lyubov]

I wouldn't say it's so black and white like true/false when it comes to emotions. There are many way to approach emotions.

Emotions are more like a language of sorts and just like how language how all sorts of vocabulary from simple to complex words, emotions are similar to this. 

Some feel better than others and understood easier than others. 

It is the mind that contextualizes them and then from there healthy choices can be made or unhealthy ones

the body/mind work in tandem. 

All emotions are true in a sense that if you are experiencing it in the present moment it exists, the content of them ,or how you contextualize it or the beliefs behind them or how you understand why it is arising is more open for interpretation usually and is fluid.  

For example: you may see someone at the mall and it looks like they laugh at you. you feel self conscious and embarrassed because you believe they may be laughing at you. it's true that you are experiencing an emotion but the belief behind it may be skewed in some way that doesn't serve you. 

Edited December 22, 2020 by Lyubov

[lmfao]

In ordinary speech we don't distinguish between sensations/feelings and thoughts/reactions in regards to "emotion". When we act in the world, we can respond to "how it actually is" or we can respond to thinking about how it is. Investigating what is already there in experience in contrast to "what was invented" is very interesting, since you/I start off not knowing and can't tell. 

Edited December 23, 2020 by lmfao