life, self actualization and toxic people

[Conscious life]

how do you handle toxic people in your life, especially family and coworkers that are holding you back?

[meow_meow]

Well, IMO the first thing to do is to is to look at how are they toxic? Are they insulting you, being disrespectful towards you, being passive-aggressive?
Why does this happen? Do you have clear boundaries that you have set and are able to maintain?
 

On 2020.12.19. at 7:05 PM, Conscious life said:

coworkers that are holding you back?

Holding you back from what?

[PepperBlossoms]

@Conscious life Ah it is really hard.  Especially if you have to see them everyday.  I'm sorry you are having this issue! 

One thing to take note of - Are they holding you back or are you telling yourself that they are?

A - could leave the situation and increase distance

B - could talk with them and try to be their friend and make it less toxic

C - could try to see it from their perspective

D - could focus on yourself, your work, your thoughts and try to keep that focus on you

E - could talk with them about these issues about how it feels off and is bothering you..

Eventually the toxicity will probably pass.. even if it takes months or years - either you may reframe the situation, you may leave, or get it worked out - IDK toxicity is a strain (for me!) because it takes up so much thought space that I could have spent elsewhere.. but it is also something to note - why is it catching my (your) attention and why am I (you) bothered by it?  Maybe it is you wanting to focus more on it because there is something there to learn/observe and once you don't, it won't be as bad?  You just have to figure it out and work through it??

Good luck!  

[xxxx]

On 12/19/2020 at 10:35 PM, Conscious life said:

1) family

2) co-workers

1) Move out

2) Requires a re-assessment of your boundaries.