How To Stop Judging Things, Especially People?

[milosmajlo]

This characteristic of non-judgement is fascinating to me. Doing a little of retrospection I've noticed that in my previous years I've judged a lot, and doing both consciously and unconsciously judges, from a few words to a long judgmental conversations. The bottom line is that this is a very bad thing. In my last months I've improved a lot but there are some times where I haven't said anything about someone bad therefore making a picture that I am this open-minded guy but in my head I've dropped some mean comments. Is it possible to eliminate this characteristic of judging everything once and for all?

[Ayla]

Yes. The moment you realize that what you are saying in your head, peaks about YOURSELF, not about them  

You need not only understand this mentally, but organically, spiritually, experientially 

 

[milosmajlo]

@Ayla Give me an example. Let's say I say something about someone along the line "Look at him, he's lazy, he is only watching TV series all day, eating junk food, playing video games throughout the whole evening until the sunrise, what a miserable life he lives"
So with this comment what have I done? Do I want to say that I'm better than him, or that I would never live a life like that therefore putting a boundaries between me and him? Can you explain it to me what judgments do to my life? How do they reflect my personality?

[Avi]

15 minutes ago, milosmajlo said:

The bottom line is that this is a very bad thing.

Try and not to place judgments on your judgments. Just recognize them when they arise and let them go. It takes a lot of awareness and practice to get to absolutely no judgement on others. The first step is recognize and become aware of it.  

[Ayla]

11 minutes ago, milosmajlo said:

@Ayla Give me an example. Let's say I say something about someone along the line "Look at him, he's lazy, he is only watching TV series all day, eating junk food, playing video games throughout the whole evening until the sunrise, what a miserable life he lives"
So with this comment what have I done? Do I want to say that I'm better than him, or that I would never live a life like that therefore putting a boundaries between me and him? Can you explain it to me what judgments do to my life? How do they reflect my personality?

With this judgement, inquire where do you see YOURSELF as you see them (as lazy, having a life like... doing all kinds of limiting things, etc.). Might be in a totally different area, but the energy behind it, is the exact same one. 

You might wanna look at Byron Katie's process on youtube  

[Amilcar]

29 minutes ago, milosmajlo said:

@Ayla Give me an example. Let's say I say something about someone along the line "Look at him, he's lazy, he is only watching TV series all day, eating junk food, playing video games throughout the whole evening until the sunrise, what a miserable life he lives"
So with this comment what have I done? Do I want to say that I'm better than him, or that I would never live a life like that therefore putting a boundaries between me and him? Can you explain it to me what judgments do to my life? How do they reflect my personality?

Every judgment that we make is related to a movement of energy inside us. We need to spend energy with a judgment to release it, so it means that we make a judgment because we don't let the "thing" be as it is, we have to put a layer or a judgment that it has to fix it into our ego. To me, I realized that to stop making a judgment is not feeling any energy inside, is like, you feel exactly the same before or after seeing, hearing, touching, tasting and smelling, it could be some movements of energy  inside, but that energy expands all over your body, not needing to do a judgment to release it. It Depends on the action or situation, the problem with judging is that we are trying to control everything so we are expending enormous amounts of energy that it doesn't release in the moment, it increases the amount of energy as the time passes and it is more difficult to release that energy as the time goes. 

[Truth]

Leo has a video on this, "How To Exploit People To Grow Yourself" in the beginning this helped me a lot.