How can you feel less like a creep approaching or making a "move" on a woman?

[PurpleTree]

19 hours ago, Arcangelo said:

How can you feel less like a creep approaching or making a "move" on a woman?

By doing it over and over and over again.

have you done that and it helped making you feel like less of a creep doing it?

18 hours ago, Gesundheit said:

Deep, deep inside; do you really want to be with a woman and have a relationship?

parts of me yes other parts no. but generally i think yes. coming from a somewhat broken-ish home i'd like to make it better.

i'm also really afraid of commitment though and fear getting into the "wrong" or a bad relationship and then being stuck.

the parts of me that don't want it and are afraid, are sabotaging me i feel

13 hours ago, ColeMC01 said:

This is going to depend GREATLY on the country/culture etc where you are. In some cultures you can fuck within 1 hour, in others you need to marry before. So yeah. The general guidelines are already given here. Just 1 thing

DO NOT WAIT MORE THAN 2 DATES TO KISS SOMEONE, MUCH PREFERABLY 1

EVER

The end

what if you already know the person for a longer time, then it's a whole different thing.

[Byun Sean]

7 hours ago, ertopolice said:

@Byun Sean

Regarding the struggle of the cold approach i guess same applies to women

I feel akcward approaching. Even if i try to be as a "sister"(e.g gym) and be open and friendly with everyone and make it as as natural state and not something forced...it's weird when u start an interaction with someone new. I feel judged by the very same criteria guys might got around girls who approach.

@PurpleTree

At the end of the day your just gonna have to go out and do it if you want to know more.

 

It isn't rocket science. You have to just put your emotional balls on the chopping block and approach.

Otherwise you'll never approach and just be sitting here mentally masturbating forever.

[PurpleTree]

4 minutes ago, Byun Sean said:

@PurpleTree

At the end of the day your just gonna have to go out and do it if you want to know more.

 

It isn't rocket science. You have to just put your emotional balls on the chopping block and approach.

Otherwise you'll never approach and just be sitting here mentally masturbating forever.

You know i have approached before and have gotten some good feeedback etc. but in those times usually i was drunk, in the right mood, and most things aligned. Now with the pandemic there are no parties and doing it in a store, on the street etc. feels so leechy and awkward i'm not sure i can do it. Would be great though.

[Byun Sean]

1 minute ago, PurpleTree said:

You know i have approached before and have gotten some good feeedback etc. but in those times usually i was drunk, in the right mood, and most things aligned. Now with the pandemic there are no parties and doing it in a store, on the street etc. feels so leechy and awkward i'm not sure i can do it. Would be great though.

Good. Now try doing it when your sober during the day.

Always a new challenge waiting for you.

 

This feeling 'leechy' business is a limiting belief in your head your going to have to let go of or deal with some how.

 

Approach. Reflect and read resources. Repeat.

Thats the cycle. 

Overtime it will just become natural to you and like a hot knife through butter. You won't even give it a second thought. You see a hot girl and bam your

already talking to her 5 seconds later effortlessly.

That takes a lot of work though emotionally so don't expect to get that kind of strength for free.

[PurpleTree]

4 minutes ago, Byun Sean said:

Good. Now try doing it when your sober during the day.

Always a new challenge waiting for you.

 

This feeling 'leechy' business is a limiting belief in your head your going to have to let go of or deal with some how.

 

Approach. Reflect and read resources. Repeat.

Thats the cycle. 

Overtime it will just become natural to you and like a hot knife through butter. You won't even give it a second thought. You see a hot girl and bam your

already talking to her 5 seconds later effortlessly.

That takes a lot of work though emotionally so don't expect to get that kind of strength for free.

it's decent advice but yea even thinking about it is giving me some kind of constricted breathing.

 think i'll try it in a different city, i'm also easily embarrassed and ashamed etc.

[ertopolice]

@Byun Sean

2 hours ago, Byun Sean said:

Good. Now try doing it when your sober during the day.

Always a new challenge waiting for you.

 

This feeling 'leechy' business is a limiting belief in your head your going to have to let go of or deal with some how.

 

Approach. Reflect and read resources. Repeat.

Thats the cycle. 

Overtime it will just become natural to you and like a hot knife through butter. You won't even give it a second thought. You see a hot girl and bam your

already talking to her 5 seconds later effortlessly.

That takes a lot of work though emotionally so don't expect to get that kind of strength for free.

What would you advice to a female?

It's not for for free...for sure

I think 10000x times before approaching a nice/attactive guy 

My thought are: 1.- I feel needy. 2. i feel easy.3. i feel old for this playtime 4. he probably taken 

So yes! it's mentally tiring

Wish to reprogram this thing into the subconscious so i get more effortless and automatic