Indoctrinated By " Romanticism ".

[Donald]

I was listening to a talk by Alain de Botton on romanticism and I realized how deep this goes . We think that the romantic way is the only healthy way to love ,  yet we never question it . We have been deeply influenced by media ( songs , movies , novels ) and society . I'm not saying that it is wrong / evil  I just started to question the idea . Romanticism has several key features like : " Somewhere out there , we will find our true love " , " True love means understanding w/o the need to use words , and if you don't understand me you don't love me " , " When we will meet our true love , we will not be alone anymore ". Such fatalistic ideas lol .                     This guy is brilliant .  

[Birdcage]

As much as I would like to agree with that, I don't think this applies to reality. 

You might come across someone who understands you but still be a dysfunctional match, someone who is so different and help you to an open mind or someone who claims to love you, but is so stuck in his/her comfort zone that you are bound to leave or simply be a great match to a polar opposite that you will be constantly challenged. 

I personally don't think 'love' is what is portrayed in main society    Or a bubbly feeling of 'being one' with the other. Understanding one another is a very important key but that doesn't mean you will be happy or be able to grow together. 

Just some thoughts