Age difference in a relationships

[Mannyb]

So how young could someone go for anyone 25+? 19 seems to be too young, is 21 fine? What age difference would you guys consider top?

[Gesundheit]

Anyone else interested in knowing whether they have met exactly at the moment her age was precisely half of his?

[Forestluv]

13 hours ago, Gili Trawangan said:

Lying about his age was most likely for practical purposes. He must have noticed, as I have, that on dating apps once your age is above 35 your options decrease significantly. Most women under 30 are likely choosing an upper limit of 35 for their matches. I happen to look a lot younger, and in real life I have no trouble attracting young women, therefore I don't feel like I'm scamming anyone, and I always tell the truth about my age (online if I'm asked, and in real life no matter what).So, the way I see it, the only mistake this guy made was not coming clean immediately about his age. But he did eventually, which means that he's probably not a douchebag, he was just afraid of losing the girl, probably because he actually likes her. Honestly I don't know, I don't know these people, but neither do you who are judging here and pretty much demanding that

There are distinctions within scenarios. For example:

A) 37 y.o guy sets his age at 35 and the female age filter to 27,  so he doesn’t get filtered out by women in their late 20s that he would like to date.

B) 37 y.o guy sets his age at 27 and the female age filter to 18, so he doesn’t get filtered out by barely legal teenage girls that he would like to date.

Very different dynamics.

 

[Leo Gura]

10 hours ago, BornToBoil said:

our parents still feaked out

Of course the two are not mutually exclusive. Your parents might be dysfunctional themselves.

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree

[Leo Gura]

There's no problem per se with a 25 year old girl dating a 40 year old, because she's mature enough to be responsible for herself. So it's not the age difference that's the main problem here. The problem is that a girl who's 18-22 is immature as hell and doesn't know what she's doing.

[Lyubov]

At first I thought I was going to read about some sort of sugar daddy / baby situation but it doesn’t even sound like that ? It’s a little weird and a pretty big age gap considering she’s a teen still. 

[eggopm3]

Damn and I get nervous about age gaps even when considering asking out a girl who's only like 6 years younger than me.

I remember as a teenager learning that the minimum age you can date without it being creepy is half your age plus 7. So a 20 year old should date no younger than 17, a 30 year old should date no younger than 22, a 50 year old should date no younger than 32, ect. I have no idea where I learned this from, but it's stuck in my mind as a general rule of thumb ever since I first heard it.

[IAmReallyImportant]

So you are like 26? x D What I also often observe is if an age gap is too high a certain kind of parent-child relationship is evolving inside the actual relationship. This seems unhealthy to me because it looks like a compensation strategy in my pov.

Edited December 10, 2020 by IAmReallyImportant

[Arcangelo]

15 hours ago, Preety_India said:

Stop all this drama. Just go and tell the parents. The parents need to know as soon as possible. 

You shouldn't hide such things from parents when she is only 19. Terrible idea. 

 

No. She is a grown up, let her mind her own business.

[Preety_India]

@Arcangelo she is not. 19 means nothing. Most 19 year Olds are emotionally immature. 

 

[Arcangelo]

^Well that's like your perspective.

Legally she can marry this guy. What seems to be the problem?

 

[Arcangelo]

And a big LOL at asking: What are your intentions.

hahaha you guys are kidding right?

[Preety_India]

Arc, legally and emotionally are two different things. 

Just because someone has written on a piece of paper that they are having mental illness by their doctor, does not mean that the person has mental illness. 

We can pass anything as legal. 

Yes her age is legal. But is she equipped to deal with this situation? 

To be honest, if she was matured, she probably would have never wanted to be with a man almost 20 years her senior 

That itself tells me that she is immature. She would have been with a man slightly older than her, not so much older. 

Age might not be a problem but life experience gap hugely matters. 

 

[hoodrow trillson]

[Preety_India]

So funny that this is being made out to be about consent and age related when clearly it is about guiding someone who could potentially end up broken hearted and traumatized. 

 

[Arcangelo]

All I see is 2 legally grown up adults having a good time. He is happy, she is happy. Let them be happy. Search for your own happiness. Be yellow.

[iceprincess]

@BornToBoil get her out of there fast. she will be exploited to the max. my friend was about the same age as her when she started dating a 36 year old. He took complete advantage of her for sex and manipulated her so much, stole $500 from her and never spoke to her again. Then she moved onto a 32 year old who seemed like a really sweet guy but was also manipulating her, he had sex with her and strung her around making her put up with the most insane shit. he told her he wouldn't full commit to her until she was pregnant with his baby. that English teacher is probably holding a lot back from her 

[lostmedstudent]

When i was a student 16-20 years old, i had more crushes on my male teachers than the boys my age. 
i would totally have dated a 37 years old male teacher. That probably woudlnt be a good idea haha 

[Preety_India]

@Arcangelo

Leo at least got manhood(to admit) . 

 

Edited December 11, 2020 by Preety_India

[Arcangelo]

@Preety_India Hehe! IDK Preety IDK...

We all have agreed on the number. The number is 18, and she is 19. Legally there is nothing wrong with this relationship. All that emotionally immature and power dynamic mumbo jumbo is in your minds.

We don't know them...

Maybe they are twin flames for all we know.

We don't know....