I Just Got Rejected

[Preety_India]

@Roy all our discussions are helping him. Notice how you project. 

I'm just telling you my perspective. You could take it or leave it instead of putting a negative spin on it 

 

Edited December 8, 2020 by Preety_India

[Ananta]

@The Don Aww❤, well, live and learn, right? 

Don't be too hard on yourself. Since she is a work colleague its a good thing you weren't pushy.

I read somewhere that its okay to ask out a colleague without crossing the line, but as soon as they say "no" any further pursuing could be considered a type of harassment. 

Best to look for relationships outside of work, imo. This way you don't have to feel awkward at your job.

Good luck.

[Recursoinominado]

16 minutes ago, ColeMC01 said:

A girl is interested in you and once you get to know her well and she is comfortable and has rapport with you, then she rejects you once you her ask her out.

Comfort isn't equal attraction. Friends are comfortable with each other but not necessarily attracted to each other.

4 hours ago, ColeMC01 said:

Wouldn't it be better if the girl starts dating you AFTER you have spent some time together so she knows well she will not be molested or treated like shit by some stranger SINCE SHE KNOWS YOU WELL.

You are assuming human beings are logical creatures, which are not. 

4 hours ago, ColeMC01 said:

If she finds you attractive and cool enough (she was interested and flirted) then why reject.

This could be for a few reasons:

1. You misinterpreted the signals (i am betting on this one).

2. She likes to flirt and used you to practice without any intention to go further.

3. She changed her mind. Even if the girl is genuinely attracted to you, you can always fuck up and she can turn cold in a second.

4 hours ago, ColeMC01 said:

This thing that if you talk for a girl long enough and then she will not date you after is so weird to me.

That's your problem, you are talking to her with an agenda in mind pretending to be her friend to later make a move, women don't respect this strategy at all. They prefer if you are direct and honest instead of hiding your intentions (people feel that shit from miles away).

 

4 hours ago, ColeMC01 said:

Ofc i am assuming you acted normal not like a needy wimp during that time, so in case you acted normal but didn't make moves.

Most of the time, just acting "normal" isn't enough. You are just too boring. She needs to know you are a real man and a real man would shamelessly go for what he wants, not try to play it safe to avoid rejection (which, ironically, makes them reject you).

 

4 hours ago, ColeMC01 said:

Now i know you will probably say that it is not important to know this and just make your moves and talk with a lot of girls but i am asking this more out of pure curiosity. 

You lack a basic understanding of women, seduction, and relationships, that's a problem. You are assuming a lot of things and none of them are true. You can learn the hard way, by approaching massively and failing a lot (a valid approach) or you can study game and apply at the same time, repeating until profit. Google "RSD old deleted videos" and you will find a free goldmine of knowledge about seduction.