Need Help Finding a Spiritual Partner

[James Pyle]

Hello there everyone!  I am looking for a serious spiritual relationship and I need advice on how to find a partner.  I am a male and right now I am currently 20 years old and soon to be 21 in February.  I am caucasian, long beard, buzz cut, skinny but also slightly toned.  Let me give a very brief life-story for the past five or so years.

Brief Life Story: I started watching Actualized.org when I was 15 in high-school in California, this was back in 2015.  Even though I was watching Actualized back then and now I really pissed away my high-school years getting terrible grades.  When I was a Junior in High school I was sent to a boarding school in Texas because of my bad grades and weed smoking habits.  There I got my GED and decided I did not want to go to college, but instead the idea of possibly becoming a monk of some sort came to me.  After I got out of the boarding school in 2018 I started getting into different religions and I really liked Eastern Orthodox Christianity because of it's mysticism and asceticism.  This was the summer of 2018; during this time I was working at a nursery and I very much enjoyed my life.  Then in the fall I went to spend some time working and living at a Monastery in Northern California that was doing very poor financially and really needed support.  I had a really great time there helping out the monastery with work and parting in their spiritual life, so, I decided that since I was not doing anything with my life maybe I should become a monk.  On January 1, 2019 I was baptized into the Orthodox faith and then started a sort of adventure checking out all of the different Orthodox monasteries in America (almost one in every state!)  I spent a while at the biggest of monasteries in America in Arizona called St. Anthony's Greek Orthodox monastery.  There I found the highest degree of spirituality I had ever seen; they had an elderly saint who recently died called Elder Ephraim.  He would put his hand on your head like certain yoga masters do and you would feel bliss and peace wash over you.  The monks themselves were also extremely holy, a lot of the older one's auras would glow with this white immaterial light similar to what you see in pictures of ancient yogis.  But I also went all around the United States like I said, and it was funny I met legitimate Orthodox Christians during my journey who told me their benefit from using psychedelics and receiving healing in Native American Ceremonies.  About 2019 to 2020 was when I started having problems with depression, and by this time I had already experienced the religious life of the monks for over a year.  I did find a lot of spirituality at the monasteries but also a lot of problems, I found that there were actually plenty of monks who were actually quite miserable and so was I because of my depression.  Then thoughts started coming to me like "wait what about all those videos you watched years ago from actualized.org about 5-MeO-DMT and all those documentaries about using psychedelics for depression, what about all those other spiritual teachings that also teach the same things Christianity teaches."  Unfortunately, even though some of the monks I met were very spiritual they didn't seem to believe that there could be any other genuine spirituality except Orthodox Christianity or drug that could actually benefit personal spiritual development.  So about three weeks ago (I was at a monastery in NC at this time) I decided to leave monasticism altogether because I realized I just couldn't be a monk with my depression problems and my personal beliefs.  Right now I am taking ultra good care of my health and fitness, I am also looking into microdosing psilocybin, which are all seriously helping my depression to the point where I can now consider myself a very happy individual.  Lately I have been getting back into Actualized.org, my favorite videos so far are 'What is Actualized.org' 'Developing Introspection' 'The Trap of the Toxic Life Purpose' and a really old one called 'The Happiness Spectrum.'  If anyone has watched 'The Happiness Spectrum' I am personally working towards a totally eudaimonic Lifestyle.  Now let me tell what my plan is for the future.

 

Future Plans: Since my mother died a year ago (I am not sad about this and very emotionally stable not to brag, forgive me.) she left me 45k and my dad whom I live with now is planning on buying a huge piece of property for me, himself, and my brother.  I have always believed very strongly the philosophy of organic simple living and now that I am out of the monastic life I can finally actualize this dream I have always had in the back of my mind.  I plan to live off of the land as much as possible eating only organic whole food, think of something like an amish life except more stage turquoise.  My dad has decided to move in with his new wife and he is going to eventually sell the house that we are in now.  With the money he could simply purchase a 300k property in the mountains no problem and has agreed to do that for all of us.  With the 45k I could easily afford a tiny house, solar, well, and everything else I need, plus I myself will find whatever outdoors job I can (I love farm work and working outdoors.)  But the thought came to my mind "How can I do something for the benefit of humanity and the greater good?"  And I realized that I could adopt orphans from impoverished countries and give them a good life.  But I thought about this and I realized I would need a wife to help raise orphans, and it would also be really good to have a spiritual partner for myself as well.  Me and my spiritual partner would live as spiritually and healthily as possible while also taking care of 1-3 orphans or even more, if possible.  This is just a rough outline of what the future will hold for me, things could certainly change but right now this seems like the best possible thing I could do.  Now I will get into what type of girl I am looking for.

 

I am looking for: (Sorry my criteria is very picky but that is just the way it has to be)

1. Someone who would be willing to go on this spiritual journey with me, to live a difficult but spiritually eudaimonic lifestyle.

2. Someone experienced with spiritual practices in general, is accepting of all religions, and accepts the use of psychedelics

3. Someone who believes in the power of sexual abstinence (this wouldn't totally exclude us from having sex in marriage but it would be limited in order for us both to focus on the eudaimonic spiritual life.)

4. Someone who is very strongly devoted to health and fitness

5. Someone who is 19-25 years old, average height, preferably caucasian (like me), very physically fit, and very serious about life in general.

Not looking for:

1. Anyone who has tobacco smoking, drinking, partying habits or habitually gets high on marijuana or trips on psychedelics excessively.

2. Anyone who enjoys watching TV, using social media, watches pornography, playing video games, wasting time with friends, or doing anything generally unproductive.

3. Anyone who wants to have kids rather than adopt them, I really feel like adopting children is one of the best philanthropies, sorry.

4. Anyone who rejects Orthodox Christianity, I still wish to follow most of it's practices until I die.  But I also wish to engage in new practices.

5. Anyone who is unstable in life, I am looking for a relationship where I can benefit and be benefited by my partner.  I want to learn new spiritual practices and patterns of healthy eating.  I can't really have someone who is super depressed and has financial problems and such, it most likely won't work.

 

Question: So, thank you to those who read everything I wrote.  I live in Morgan Hill, California, near Santa Cruz and San Francisco (hippie central).  I am wondering what is the best possible ways to find someone who will match my criteria?  I don't think online dating will work as I have heard very bad things about it.  My brother suggested to meet girls at our local health food stores but honestly I don't know how well that is going to work considering my strict criteria.  I am open to any ideas, please share your answers if you have them, thank you!

[AdamDiC]

Hey man, I'm a dude. I read your story and I related to it a lot. I'm also 20 and I got into Leo when you did too. Did some travelling and stayed in some monasteries lol.

It seems that you are going in the right direction, the tiny house seems cool and fun and you watch a lot of Leo, but the one thing that I didn't understand was the adopting orphans. If you really want to positively affect the world, adopting 3 orphans isn't gonna make any difference. What you really want to do is focus on creating a powerful life purpose and a vision for the world. Like Leo or Gandhi you can inspire millions of people. Creating a life purpose around raising orphans seems a bit short sighted but don't let me tell you otherwise. I just think you have a lot more potential and the orphans could weigh you down.

Cheers.

P.S. Check out Leo's Life Purpose Course its phenomenal 

Edited November 26, 2020 by AdamDiC

[Preety_India]

Join some spiritual group and you'll come across similarly minded people. 

Don't try this forum. (it's a crab bucket here) 

 

[James Pyle]

@AdamDiC Thank you man! I will for sure check out his Life Purpose Course.  Honestly I don't know about making a huge difference in the world, I just want a simple life, but we will see how things go.

[James Pyle]

1 hour ago, Preety_India said:

Join some spiritual group and you'll come across similarly minded people. 

Don't try this forum. (it's a crab bucket here) 

 

 

Thank you for the advice @Preety_India

[Jeff21]

Join SpiritualSingles.com, it is a great place to find more spiritual girls, although not all of them are, but I think it is one of the best online dating sites focused on that. 

Edited December 29, 2020 by Jeff21

[PepperBlossoms]

@Preety_India Just wondering - What do you mean by crab bucket?

@James Pyle Hmm.. If you want a partner that participates in Orthodox Christianity, I would look for her at those establishments.  

Because you're only 20, when you are 30, you may be completely different and your list may be completely different too.  I am sorry about your mom's death - that must be tough.  Interesting note at how the monks rejected looking at other stuff - kinda a natural human response so can't blame them - but at the same time, they were (maybe) denying being more open-minded.  Sometimes unproductive stuff can be super productive in a weird creative way but it depends.  That is nice of you to want to adopt some kids.  No one is perfect but yeah I can see that some people will be more stable than others - crazy how that happens.   I hope you find your girl!

@Jeff21 haha wow - spiritual singles - I didn't know there was a site for that!

[hamedsf]

On 11/26/2020 at 4:36 AM, Preety_India said:

Join some spiritual group and you'll come across similarly minded people. 

Don't try this forum. (it's a crab bucket here) 

 

@Preety_India I should say I got to know three persons here, one was a man and the two were girls and all of them were nice. stop usin' that negative term. 

[Preety_India]

@hamedsf stop telling people what opinion they are supposed to have. Don't impose your opinions on others. 

Everyone has a different opinion and respect that. 

Edited January 4, 2021 by Preety_India