I have been dealing with this issue for a while now. It happened a few weeks ago when I was sitting in my office and a few of my male colleagues invited me to lunch. I went to lunch with them.  When I was sitting and chatting with them, they initially started mocking my hair and then my appearance, really insulting me and calling me ugly and all sorts of names and insulting me.  I was weirded out and I left the table. After that incident  I didn't speak to them. But their harsh words still affect me sometimes.  Because looks are so intricately tied to self esteem, especially being a woman, it feels like a direct attack on my self esteem. Their shaming and insults have gotten to me.  How to deal with situations/people who insult your looks?  What mindset do I need to cultivate to face such situations in the future?