Premature ejaculation..

[Heaven]

Hey all?

 A lil bit background about myself..I don’t watch porn(watched when I was a child) and I don’t masturbate very often(once a week even less). Usually I cum with someone.

I get the feeling of cumming pretty fast and I’m not sure why is that..

Lately I’ve been experimenting with some kegel exercises, no fap for 3 weeks(thought I had to reset my brain from ejaculating), edging and breathing exercises.

There was a time(not too long ago)where I could completely control it and from what I remember it was because it wasn’t that pleasurable/the sensation of cumming wasn’t that intense.

I would appreciate your help..any suggestion will be welcomed❤️

[integral]

Already skipped to the premature ejaculation part. 

[JosephKnecht]

Read this book: The Enlightened Sex Manual, David Deida

The book contains practical advice on how to channel your sexual energy through your body which includes controlling your orgasms.

 

[Eren Eeager]

@Heaven increasing your level of body awareness works great in case of premature ejaculation, also I have noticed when you are more conscious while doing masturbation you tend to last way longer and the pleasure you get is much much greater 

[Nahm]

@Heaven

Make a fist as strongly as you possibly can, and then uncontract the hand and shake it out. Then make a fist as softly as possible. Do it again, way way way softer. Notice there are degrees of contracting, or contraction, muscle wise. 

Breathe into your stomach, and as you do feel the breath go from the the stomach through out the rest of the body, in the inside of the body. Take a really big breathe into the stomach, as much air as you can. When you think you’ve taken in as much air as you can, continue and double it. Stretch the entire stomach & waistline, feel the air filling downward, front ward, backward, and up ward filling the entire stomach with as much air as possible. Then notice the tension. It’s likely there is a tensing when you do this, felt in the lifting of the shoulders, the back of the neck, the hips, the abs, and the bottom of the feet. When you let out the breathe, do so in a natural slow manor, feeling each of those ares, the entirety of the body, relax, like dropping and sinking into the general pull of gravity. 

Strong fist body doesn’t last long. Dropped gravity relaxed body can go all day and night. Feeling & thus knowing the difference is the key. Letting go is feeling, not a thought. Relaxation is feeling, not a thought. 

[aurum]

18 hours ago, Heaven said:

I get the feeling of cumming pretty fast and I’m not sure why is that..

I can almost guarantee you're tensing your muscles up and not breathing.

Relax, relax, relax. Breathe deep and slow. And slow down your body movements too. You don't even have to move at all.

[Heaven]

You guys are amazing!

I’ll practice to release tension in my body everyday now..I knew it but always forget?

I’ll keep a note on my board( @Nahm)

Thanks again?
 

[Nahm]

Heaven is amazing. 

[RendHeaven]

I'd like to add that there is a component of mindset as well.

If you have sex with the mindset that "oh no what if I cum too fast I have to prevent that!" you're gonna cum in 3 seconds flat lol.

If you have sex with the mindset that "I will cum on my own terms and she will feel my fire" you're gonna last forever.

I used to sprint competitively in high school and that really taught me a lot about mindset:

If, before the race even started, I had the mindset that "I know my competitors are fast, I'm gonna try not to lose," I would always lose lol.

If, before the race even started, I had the mindset that "I will give this everything damned the costs. I will win," I would actually shock myself and pull out some wins!

The performance of your body is HIGHLY dependent on your frame of mind. 

P.S. as you and others have mentioned, Kegels + Body Awareness are critical.

[Someone here]

@Heaven ofcourse you will finish fast when it's the first time (ya know what I mean lol). Just rub one out before sex. This way you can last a bit longer.

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[Bojan V]

There is no such thing as a premature ejaculation. A cum is always welcome, no matter when...

Edited November 30, 2020 by Bojan V
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