I have been pondering over my relationship issues and traumas over the past few days and I realized that there is a pattern in the type of men I'm attracting and they are usually narcissists. I'm quite frankly fed up with attracting all sorts of wrong people who end up taking advantage of me and I get too gullible and somehow I want to put an end to this pattern.    So I thought over it and I began scribbling this diagram in my head. I began to see people on a spectrum from the least selfish or very selfless to the very selfish and the moderates flanking the center with the most balanced people in the center. (balanced means they know how to balance selflessness and selfishness). On the right side of the spectrum I placed myself in the extreme of people who are caring. And the conclusion that I drew is that the narcissists attack and predate on emotional and caring people. They are like energy vampires.    The solution for such people (to not get victimized by narcissists) is to gradually become survival oriented and move towards the center where they can see the benefits of being selfish and train themselves to be a little more selfish.    What do you think of this insight? Also you could add your own perspectives on why people tend to attract narcissists and bad people.