Expressiveness

[Elton]

No problem of all the criticisms and negative talk I had to face as a child and even now a days from my parents, they don't know any better.

But i still do love them but I'm 25 years old and I am finding it difficult to express my love, 

Why do I feel so much resistance to hug my parents and tell them I love them?  

Do all grown ups feel like that? 

Are there any techniques in personal development To express myself better?

But how come I am so expressive with my girlfriend?  

[Capethaz]

Meditation can help developing compassion and love.

[Elton]

I'm doing that already from more than a year I've developed more compasion and love or to be more precise I've been aware of them as they always were the case.. But I'm talking about expressing it which I feel is quite different @Capethaz

[Capethaz]

@Elton You need to keep practicing, the expressiveness will come with time.

[Salaam]

On 9/5/2016 at 7:51 AM, Elton said:

No problem of all the criticisms and negative talk I had to face as a child and even now a days from my parents, they don't know any better.

But i still do love them but I'm 25 years old and I am finding it difficult to express my love, 

Why do I feel so much resistance to hug my parents and tell them I love them?  

Do all grown ups feel like that? 

Are there any techniques in personal development To express myself better?

But how come I am so expressive with my girlfriend?  

Sounds like you're not using your voice with your parents and having boundaries with them that fosters an environment of mutual respect and warmth. You can tell yourself all day long that the criticism and negative talk from them are not a problem, but your body knows better and is way more honest about it.

See, the emotional history we have with a person is internalized within our bodies and it creates the automated/natural reactions we have with people. People treat you like crap, your body will remember that and will gradually develop a recoil response. If people are warm and respectful, loving and generous, then your body will open and welcome being in their presence. Attraction and repulsion that develops from the flavor of the relationship or how people treat each other.

Of course that's not the only thing determining those reactions though. You also have your own behavior and word view having an influence. But, that influence and the former inter-relate to manifest these responses.

It's kind of ironic don't you think? You asked how to express love better, but in order to do that you'll need to express your hurt better. Clear the air for both yourself and your parents to create some empathy and warmth... and if they're incapable of meeting you halfway, like so many people seem to be now a days, well then you continue to work on your boundaries and foster as much of a respectful relationship as possible if you can't have the warm and close relationship you crave.

Edited September 8, 2016 by Salaam