Getting over someone, really need help please

[Globalcollective]

20 hours ago, MrBON said:

Hey everyone, i would really need help with a question. So i met a girl last November and at beginning we started as friends. She already had a boyfriend so i though, yes we ll be friends and that is it. However in time i started to get feelings for her. It was the first time i fell in love with someone. This happened through a few months. Then in March her relationship ended and when i tried to make a move i got rejected. This person really liked me as a person but she did not have feelings for me and therefore didnt a relationship. This made me depressed for a few months until i got over it in June. However, ever since i dont have feelings for her but my ego is very wounded. I feel like i was not good enough and all of that kind of shit. What makes things worse is that she also started liking someone else(nothing happened) who it seemed to be a higher value person than me. This really hurt me. I have interacted and met girls ever since, some very cool actually. However none of those make me feel the way that person did. It would be like eating pizza and after that eating some average rice or something. It is decent but nothing compared to the other thing. I feel like i wont feel like that about someone again. I also feel like girls like that are 1 in 1 million so i will not meet someone that cool again. I ve met over 100 girls in the last few years and none of them i felt such a connection with. Please what advice do you have for me? I am quite young,  so please do not be very harsh

I need to clarify that those 100 something girls i met i didnt do anything physical or romantic. I got to know them as people and connect and stuff but i didnt feel anything more than sexual lust

Thank you everyone!

@MrBON This is really just a common thing young guys go through as they grow into there masculinity and manhood. Firstly forgive yourself and understand this is a very normal phase for a guy to go through when younger. Getting caught up with the idea of being with the "perfect girl' only to have the reality of it shattered. I have been through many of these types of situations when younger and eventually grew out of them. I actually eventually learned that the key to mastering relationships is very simple in theory, just focus on the reality of the person not the fantasy the mind projects and it will take you the direction your both meant to go. I grantee you the reality of this girl will now way be close to the image you projected onto her, relationships are tricky and hardworking and no matter how amazing the person is they will eventually get to you in some way and cause pain. And thats just a fact of relationships and people forget this or don't have the experience to know. But that is what you would of been signing up for if you did actually get her and go out with her. 

 

[F A B]

@MrBON Bro, you are young, you will find someone else. I guarantee.

Side note: chose a girl who chose you. Soulmates exist only when it's mutual.

[MrBON]

@F A B I think it is good advice. I am just very picky with personality

[F A B]

1 hour ago, MrBON said:

@F A B I think it is good advice. I am just very picky with personality

If by being picky you mean being selective and having some standards, then that's totally reasonable