Should I Break Up ?

[Flo]

I was wondering lately, if I should drop my girlfriend. I'm considering this option because I don't want anything to hold me back from the greatness inside ! (which will all have !)

 

There is two "reasons":

• I know I could find a girlfriend much sexier than her, with the same personality
• It would help me to get enlightenment faster, since it will free up a day per week.

 

Now In order to put that decision into context, I will explain where I am, and where I was when starting dating her.

 

When I started to  talk to her, it was on a geek dating website, I was very needy back then (3 months from now), I really thought that having a girlfriend will change my life. I realized soon after that, it doesn't change shit, I was still very neurotic, in a lot of ways, I was still awkward with women, I cared too much of how people perceived me (mostly physically) and I still didn't have any clue on how my life were supposed to go.

 

She's also my first real girlfriend.

 

Now, I don't really care about what people think, and even when I do, I know it's silly and I rapidly move on in my mind. I prefer to be mindful of nature and reality rather than thinking about what people think of me, I see that as a waste of time.

Concerning women, I don't care at all because I know that finding a woman as open-minded/caring and passionnate as her (in her work, and in life in general) will be very difficult.

About my life purpose I started to watch one video of the course every day, I can't go all in though, because I have to finish a job (I would get a fine of 8000€ if I don't finish it), so I tempered my work on that to not feel too much frustration by the fact that I can't go all in for now. I'm very open about it, I was thinking about trying everything as soon as I can (drawing, music, pets, psychology, biology etc ...), I mean, If didn't found my life purpose yet, it's obviously something I never tried before.

I was already doing 1 hour of walk every day before dating her, but now I do at least 30 minutes of swimming per week. I'm starting to feel proud of my body, which is weird because it didn't change at all.

 

Maybe it's the meditation process, or maybe it's the mass of data I gained with books and Leos videos (probably both), but I feel like a completely different person now, and I know and will be a way better person than what I am now.

 

I'm happy with her, not flashy happiness where I have huge burst of feelings through my body and my mind when I think of her, but she makes me feel proud of myself,  I like to be with her, even when we do nothing. I think I love her, but not in the needy sense of the term, I mean that I want her to be happy, and I think about her several times a day, I feel calm and rest when she's near me, but I don't have to see her to feel complete.

 

Now returning to the main questions: 

 

I know I could find a girlfriend much sexier than her, with the same personality:

I could totally do that, but the thing is, I don't need a girlfriend right now, It just happens that I have one. I also think that I would always want a better looking girl anyway, just a basic primal instinct, so I logically think it would be useless and stupid to do that, but I would like some opinions about it.

It's not like I see her as an ugly girl, I saw her as an average (perhaps a bit under) girl before dating her, now I see her as a cute girl and even sometimes very beautiful (when I look into her eyes after a hug/kiss) woman.

 

It would help me to get enlightenment faster, since it will free up a day per week:

It would help, for sure, but enlightenment is supposed to take time to achieve, A LOT of time. Does it really matter if I achieve it 14.29% faster ? (yeah I did the math and all :3). It's a question I'm still asking to myself, I'm not sure about what to think about that right now, but I would also like some opinions about it, it could clear my mind about it

 

 

 

[flhugoboss]

Do it. Yes.

You need to leave her for a better LIFE purpose, since you don't have to see her to feel complete like you said. However, I advise you the method of breaking up. Do not do it via email. You need to see her and tell her in-person and tell her "It's not easy for me" that I have made this decision. Tell her that you are in pursuit of your life purpose and not wanting to have a girlfriend, right now... You will see her cry that is ok... You need to just be there and then leave...

Don't say I am sorry. There is nothing to be sorry about this. If you feel so sorry then Don't Do it. You don't care cus you have a greater purpose and life awaits you. That you could and can release your inner force.

You are FIRM on your decision and she will respect your decision...She actually will come back to you. If you are the one doing the first break, you will have a higher power and control of your emotion and being.

I actually, believe it or not, broke up with my girl friend (we both love having amazing sex together) just for the sake of me dumping her because I always got dumped, first. I JUST WANT TO BE THE FIRST ONE TO do the DUMPING (leaving) and say Good Bye...to see what it felt like. Of course, it was not a good feeling. However, i proved to myself that i am not a slave or bondage to "an amazing sex". I did the breakup, initiated first, only ONCE.

and moreover... 

You feel you have a life purpose thus your journey is NOT complete. When you reach your plateau (in financial terms), you can find the woman which is "Sexier than her with the same personality". When you are at the TOP not just a plateau, SHE will come to FIND you. Bare in mind that if you want sexier girl then you need to upgrade your finance to be able to afford her. Your current girlfriend is what you can afford right now, yes?

Let's not get into "She is a gold digger debate".

Every girl IS a gold digger. It just depends on the amount. No girl in this world will say, "I am a gold digger".

Sincerely,

Felix the Hugoboss 

 

 

Edited September 2, 2016 by flhugoboss

[Flo]

The fact that you broke up with your ex for the sole purpose of knowing how it feel to be the one to do it, makes me very doubtful of your knowledge in the matter. Come on, hurting someone just for knowing how it feels to do something ? Only neurotics people do that kind of things. 

You also say that all women are gold digger, and you use way too much CAPSLOCK, how I am supposed to take your comment seriously if it looks like a teenager wrote it ?

You must realized how much childish you appear (at least in this post), you're very far from being as conscious as you think you are.

[Lynnel]

On 30/08/2016 at 2:11 PM, Flo said:

It would help me to get enlightenment faster, since it will free up a day per week:

 

It would help, for sure, but enlightenment is supposed to take time to achieve, A LOT of time. Does it really matter if I achieve it 14.29% faster ? (yeah I did the math and all :3). It's a question I'm still asking to myself, I'm not sure about what to think about that right now, but I would also like some opinions about it, it could clear my mind about it

 

Not really - if everything is on point the most important thing is to do self-inquiry daily. Daily. Not more - not several hours.

Honestly, it's like taking the train :

You need to precisly know how, when, where you wanna go, how much do you have to pay, etc.

The time you have to board and the train moves only let's say 15 kilometers a day - and is at rest all the remaining time. There is point to sit in the unmoving train, is it ? It's not gonna get you to your destination faster