Authenticity And Sexuality

[Ross]

Hey guys, 

I am a heterosexual male who likes women right now. I recently watched the video How to be a man part 2 and it triggered a worry inside me. That's is if I am enlightened, will I become gay? Like I am obviously attracted to women's bodies but I am worried that I might turn gay if I go for enlightenment.

Just need some opinions thanks. 

[philosogi]

@Ross Why is this a worry?

Edit: maybe better to ask yourself this question and make it a subject of deep inquiry.

Edited August 28, 2016 by philosogi

[Emerald]

11 minutes ago, Ross said:

Hey guys, 

I am a heterosexual male who likes women right now. I recently watched the video How to be a man part 2 and it triggered a worry inside me. That's is if I am enlightened, will I become gay? Like I am obviously attracted to women's bodies but I am worried that I might turn gay if I go for enlightenment.

Just need some opinions thanks. 

When I had my enlightenment experiences, among many other revelations, I realized that I'm bi-sexual and that I had been lying to myself by telling myself things like "I just think women are pretty." or "I'm just used to relating the female image to sexuality" or other things like that. I realized that I had always been attracted to women for my entire life, and that I had been denying it because I didn't want to have to tell people and risk being rejected or judged. So, enlightenment won't effect your sexual preferences. But it will reveal to you what's real and authentic to you because there's no "self" to protect from judgment or unwanted identifications. So, if you're attracted to a woman then you'll be okay with that. Or if you're attracted to a man, you'll be okay with that. You'll just recognize your attractions as sensations in the body and nothing more. You won't make them mean anything about a particular self or fear divergence with any cherished self-images.

[Pallero]

7 hours ago, Ross said:

Hey guys, 

I am a heterosexual male who likes women right now. I recently watched the video How to be a man part 2 and it triggered a worry inside me. That's is if I am enlightened, will I become gay? Like I am obviously attracted to women's bodies but I am worried that I might turn gay if I go for enlightenment.

Just need some opinions thanks. 

Interesting question. I think that many people are struggling with "fear of enlightenment". For example, I worry that if I become enlightened, I'm going to leave my partner who I really love (but authentically? I don't know).

I think that it's important to examine the worry. Why are you afraid of becoming gay? Would something bad happed if you did?

[Ross]

It's just that I have never found a SINGLE man attractive in my life. Always women.   But I was looking in the comment section on Leo's video about how to be a man part 2 and I saw that Leo commented that the way to test your masculinity is to go have sex with a man, which I think if you are heterosexual it's wrong on so many levels. 

[Beam]

I guess with practice you could turn gay or bi , who would want to do that and why ?

I suggest you ignore any and all advice that leads you into a mans pants , whats wrong with it ? a dose of Aids comes to mind

[The Obedient Listner]

On 28/08/2016 at 10:00 PM, Ross said:

I am worried that I might turn gay if I go for enlightenment.

Just need some opinions thanks. 

 ROFLMAO! .. You want opinions?  Trust me, this anxiety proves nothing but your constrained sexuality. 

My friend, you are gay.  Deal with it and leave women to us.

[Beam]

 

I watched that video by Leo , he did not suggest one should suck a dick instead he suggested how would you know UNLESS you sucked a dick ..
  Obedient listener seems to be in the know ? lol kidding. To me it also sounds like your predisposed to the notion where as others are repelled. 

Don't think to much about the idea .. Curiosity killed the cat and Aids kills the Ass grinders

 

Edited September 2, 2016 by Beam

[Flicker_boy]

it has become clear to me that we activelly shut down awareness of genitals etc when interacting socially (clothes might be another expression of this) and that everytime i fully open up to a experience- any experience, even meditating- sexual energies are also involved.

but to jump from there and make assumptions about sexual preferences is unskillful (to put it mildly). the energy is yours, it's your doing, its an integral part of your being, and probably not as much related to circumstances as you might think. just use them for whatever you think its best

[Richard Alpert]

Test it out, one time doesnt make you gay, especially if youre young and need money