How To Un-judge Someone

[philosogi]

Have you ever intentionally un-judged an individual that you had previously judged? How did you do it? Did it happen all of a sudden, or did you have to work on it over time?

[Key Elements]

It happened over time. I just think of it as a lesson. Just think of them as birds. Birds are there for a reason. If a seagull snatched the hotdog you were eating out of your hand, would you judge that?

The point is to continue doing your life purpose. Sooner or later, you're going to become a role model having some positive ripple effect. (Just look at Martin Luther King.) But, you'll be detached from all that.

 

[key]

@philosogi

I realised you're actually judging yourself, and that it's a reflection on you. 

[Saarah]

@philosogi to embody a state of non-judgement more consistently will probably take time with mindfulness and meditation, it's just about stilling the mind of analysing and labelling in general  

judgements seem like conditioned reflexes, if someone does something you don't like, you might get an automatic feeling of dislike, it will take mindfulness of that over time to rest yourself and become simply observant when it happens  again instead of reactive 

even though we know intellectually our judgements are biased and opinionated without having to do anything with reality, it takes time to work on the actual response that is judgement 

[Pav]

"What we must say rather is that they [self-actualising people] can take the frailties and sins, weaknesses, and evils of human nature in the same unquestioning spirit with which one accepts the characteristics of nature. One does not complain about water because it is wet, or about rocks because they are hard, or about trees because they are green. As children look out upon the world with wide, uncritical, undemanding, innocent eyes, simply noting and observing what is the case, without either arguing the matter or demanding that it be otherwise, so do self-actualising people tend to look upon human nature in themselves and in others."

- A. H. Maslow

[Guivs]

In a sense, I would say there is no need to get rid of it. Just revognize that those judgements were not yours to begin with. This is the "MY" which seemingly gives weight to everything (thoughts VS MY thoughts, money VS MY money, judgement VS MY judgement). 

It is the "I" thought which gives importance to all other thoughts. 

this illusion will be recognized and then it will not matter