Cold Approach and Social Circle are superior to Online Dating?

[MuriloPais]

Before quarantine start i was on presencial college, some fridays i was chillin on Club with friends and some girls would come, talk to us and magically i got number,  a date, Kiss hahaha. 

Seems like Tinder and bumble is a little bit harder, some girls can just talk and get off(i understand this because some guys can be dirty af). 

This happen to u all? 

[Thestarguitarist14]

Social circle is definitely your best bet if you desire high quality women and a better shot with women.  But it takes time to build one.

Cold approaching is a numbers game.  The more you approach, the better you get and you’ll eventually find women who will date and sleep with you.  Night game is the best if you are looking to only get laid.  Day game is better if you are looking to date/get a girlfriend.

 

But I suggest actually working on your life, building yourself up so that you can create some social status and parlay that into a social circle.

[ertopolice]

51 minutes ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

Social circle is definitely your best bet if you desire high quality women and a better shot with women.  But it takes time to build one.

Cold approaching is a numbers game.  The more you approach, the better you get and you’ll eventually find women who will date and sleep with you.  Night game is the best if you are looking to only get laid.  Day game is better if you are looking to date/get a girlfriend.

 

But I suggest actually working on your life, building yourself up so that you can create some social status and parlay that into a social circle.

Totally but..

 

HOW TO BUILD A SOCIAL CIRCLE?

In my case i feel i am way too late in life

[Roy]

It has to do with how many other guys you're competing with.

On Tinder a decent looking girl might have anywhere between 25-100 guys messaging her within a month, that she will probably be exhausted looking through so she'll be very selective.

While within that month maybe only 5-10 guys (not even), will approach her in real life with intent. So she can't be nearly as choosy.

It all depends on what you want to invest in. Tinder and all that is cheap, convenient, and takes little energy because you're just doing it from your phone. That's the benefit of it, but it comes at the cost of dates being harder to secure.

[Thestarguitarist14]

39 minutes ago, ertopolice said:

Totally but..

 

HOW TO BUILD A SOCIAL CIRCLE?

In my case i feel i am way too late in life

Well, during a pandemic is a different story...

 

But it starts with doing things that you enjoy and meeting people doing that.  Be it men or women.  If you like rock climbing for example and go to a meetup for rock climbing and meet a girl there who is with two other girls, instead of gaming them, make friends with them.  You will then be into their social circle and they will more than likely know other women and if you are into those women then it becomes a lot easier to date them.

 

Right now, you can do virtual meetups.  It will be harder, but not impossible.  

[ertopolice]

2 hours ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

1 hour ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

Well, during a pandemic is a different story...

 

But it starts with doing things that you enjoy and meeting people doing that.  Be it men or women.  If you like rock climbing for example and go to a meetup for rock climbing and meet a girl there who is with two other girls, instead of gaming them, make friends with them.  You will then be into their social circle and they will more than likely know other women and if you are into those women then it becomes a lot easier to date them.

 

Right now, you can do virtual meetups.  It will be harder, but not impossible.  

I am a female

In these pandemic times I've only kept my gym routine and it's the only place i can get ppl to interact with. 

Any other activities u could think of?

1 hour ago, Roy said:

It has to do with how many other guys you're competing with.

On Tinder a decent looking girl might have anywhere between 25-100 guys messaging her within a month, that she will probably be exhausted looking through so she'll be very selective.

While within that month maybe only 5-10 guys (not even), will approach her in real life with intent. So she can't be nearly as choosy.

It all depends on what you want to invest in. Tinder and all that is cheap, convenient, and takes little energy because you're just doing it from your phone. That's the benefit of it, but it comes at the cost of dates being harder to secure.

HOW TO BUILD A SOCIAL CIRCLE?

In my case i feel i am way too late in life

[Thestarguitarist14]

@ertopolice Gyms are opened where you are?  Lucky...

Yoga studios, meditation centers, meetups could be a good place to start.  Really, anything that you are into is good.

[aurum]

2 hours ago, ertopolice said:

HOW TO BUILD A SOCIAL CIRCLE?

In my case i feel i am way too late in life

It starts with you. What kind of people do you want in your life?

Once you know, just go where they go. Every social circle of people meet somewhere. So go there and go there regularly.

Once you're there, make friends with everyone. Give. And do it genuinely.

Alternatively, create some kind of event that attracts the kind of people you want to meet.

I met a ton of amazing people where I live just by interviewing them on my podcast. Get creative.

It's definitely never too late to do something like this.

[ertopolice]

13 hours ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

@ertopolice Gyms are opened where you are?  Lucky...

Yoga studios, meditation centers, meetups could be a good place to start.  Really, anything that you are into is good.

@Thestarguitarist14 Spain

@aurum thank you!

[Recursoinominado]

Yes, online dating should be a bonus, not your primary or secondary strategy. 

[MuriloPais]

 

21 hours ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

Social circle is definitely your best bet if you desire high quality women and a better shot with women.  But it takes time to build one.

Cold approaching is a numbers game.  The more you approach, the better you get and you’ll eventually find women who will date and sleep with you.  Night game is the best if you are looking to only get laid.  Day game is better if you are looking to date/get a girlfriend.

 

But I suggest actually working on your life, building yourself up so that you can create some social status and parlay that into a social circle.

Thanks Thestarguitarist! I'm really going to focus more on myself, i have some things to build first, like a good job, communication, a good time to "level up" hahaha.

When things back, i'll start more cold approach, see what will happen. Any good YT channel recomendation to watch?