Stop chasing women and start attracting them into your life

Thestarguitarist14
By Thestarguitarist14 in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family,
I see this thing that most men (particularly men who are getting into pick up) do which is they are chasing women.   They go out to bars and clubs (can’t really do that right now), they day game, they go out after work, they do online dating, dating apps, etc.     How about creating a lifestyle that attracts women?   I have been contemplating lately and what I have realized is this: I am an artist who is not a millionaire (yet) who also lives in Los Angeles.  Most women date me on potential at best, but do not see a ton of value in me outside of that and my looks (I’m no Chad, but I do have some endorsement deals from clothing lines).  I have gotten into this situation where the woman discarded me or even ghosted me, I show some cool shit that I am doing on Instagram, they regret it and stalk me on there a bit, but it is far too late as I don’t play those games.   What I have realized is instead of chasing women, if I focus on myself, my lifestyle will bring them in. 
  You have to get yourself out if this runner chaser dynamic.  A lot of women these days (especially in major cities) want to be chased because all they want is attention.  
  How about you get her and other to chase you?   How do you go about this?  Take a few months off from pursuing women.  It is not the end world my desperados.  Women will always be there.  But you can use this time to start a business, get into shape, heal, read,  become more spiritual and overall love yourself, raise your self esteem and feel better about yourself.  You have to understand that no woman is going to make you feel better about yourself.  That is an inside job.  And self live is far from attractive than this self loathing that a lot of guys get into. Fast forward a few months later, you will have new clothes, you will be detached from women and actually feel free.  When you do go out you will only approach women who give you choosing signals and not this cold approach nonsense (which is necessary for noobies, but is ultimately not effective).  You will tolerate less b.s and meet more women who are willing to put in some work.
At the end of the day, most of you guys make minimum wage, have shit jobs and are depressed.  Then you wonder why women give you these shit tests.  Imagine if you had a business, we’re making $4,000 a month, got yourself a nice apartment, a new car and new clothes.  The things do not matter.  They are simply outer manifestations of you changing yourself.  Then of course women would treat you differently. How does that sound?
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