Happiness

[Gabriel David Gomez]

Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness.

-Zhuangzi

 

Happiness comes when you end the search for it. Suffering is a distraction where you are tempted to think you should search for happiness. Be indifferent towards your own suffering. Suffering does not increase the value of action and tactic, it is how things slow down and die. The cause of most suffering is actually desire. This desire I speak of is the same desire which motivates people to search for happiness. They consider happiness in a specific size and shape and form, but no joy is identical. Be content with your joy regardless of how you rate it. Anyone have feedback?

[Frogfucius]

@Gabriel David Gomez I've been thinking about this. The hedonistic growth of societies have caused us to suffer. Our mind doesn't know how to limit desire and say enough is enough, nor does it know how to not compare us to other people and perceive them as better off because they may have one materialistic thing that we don't have. It seems like a fundamental flaw of the human psyche, drilled in by societal conditioning.

Depression and suicide rates have been on the rise for a while now. In 2010, for the first time in human's history, more people lived in cities than not. Urbanization is damaging to the psyche - stimulants are abound, families are broken up, there's nothing but competition in a never-ending hamster wheel, we're overcrowded and yet everyone feels like a stranger to us. We evolved from close-knit tribes, in forests and in nature. The underdeveloped societies are measured to be the most happy and fulfilled in life, counter-intuitively. Suicides and depression are swept under the rug, never reported on in the mainstream. Human psychology is never given a thought in mainstream society, because it doesn't serve the hedonistic nature of itself.

These are just my theories, of course. I find it to be true in my own life.

[Gabriel David Gomez]

Bruce Lee actually talked about how habits and traditions, after too much practice, become poisonous after they are repeatedly practiced as though dogma. Bruce Lee said that a person begins to become the embodiment of their tradition, no longer practicing it merely for its use. The secret is that people are so quick to try and find the one fix that will fix everything that they do not any longer know how to assess things as they happen and are coming at them. The truth is that free will is being reduced to how many techniques you know. People no longer get up and get the job done. People go to seminars and the like for motivational speeches which hype them up on deceptive but strong emotions. They think the strength of their emotions and level of deception their opinions grant are enough to call them effective. But when the cheap skate who gets down from the stage after the "motivational speech" has finally stepped down and they no longer feel the emotional high they wasted by listening to the man is gone, they can't find out why they are still losers. People are so stupid, they think they have to have an emotional reaction to accomplish something; they choose emotion, which almost always exaggerates about the subject experienced, to be their motivation. But I say that people should not wait until they desire to do something before they do it. They should recognize the so-called "chaos" in their life for what it is. Chaos is like pointillism which forms a picture from a magazine. When you are close to it, it doesn't make sense. But when you are at a distance with insufficient vision, order appears. Order is often mistaken for chaos. So when someone does come their way to tell them whats up, they refuse to change their perspectives and their opinions keep them looking at in undesirably. They mistake chaos for chaos. They say, thoughts race out of control because they were never meant to control. They say, people act out of line, but we should tell them free will doesn't exist in the first place. The truth is this, 

Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness. The cause of most suffering is actually desire. Why else would someone stay still as they stab themselves moping about the past, wasting desire to the avail they could be actually making a change. To be indifferent to your excuses for being sad, angry, and depressed no matter how important it says itself is as it thrusts itself at you, as though its assault were only right. Anger, sadness, and depression doesn't get the job done. Worry decreases progress in valuable change. When you attempt to stop searching for happiness, mixed emotions will come your way but that is only suffering. Suffering is a distraction where you are tempted to think you should search for happiness. But be indifferent towards it and other fake motivations as if it were that fake guru who talks a big game but doesn't make a positive difference.

So the real search (or action rather) is actually to be unconditionally content but to stop searching for happiness and to be indifferent towards stupid emotions regardless of the excuse.

 

[Capethaz]

@Gabriel David Gomez Get enlightened and taste what you are saying otherwise it's just mental masturbation.

[Gabriel David Gomez]

To be wronged is nothing unless you remember it and exaggerate. Forgetting is a method of forgiveness. I understand that you have no clue what you are talking about because you seem to think you know me based on simply visual text. Neither will I interrupt your illusion in which you think I care about whether you acknowledge my level of skill and knack for the human condition. But, if you wish to post another comment, remember that a wise man learns more from a fool's actions then a fool learns from a wise man. It would be like you blindfolded and deprived of all your senses whereas I wallow in information that will benefit my life. Whether or not you acknowledge that I have my wits about me doesn't change the fact that my life is pleasant enough that I don't need to behave unseemingly to get an irrelevant point across. When I comment, I make sure I contribute to a cause that will benefit people not just now, but in the long run. But your words will be forgotten because a lugh is only for a moment. From the manner you wrote, I can tell just a little about what sort of mind would consider something so irrelevant to be worthy. As a matter of fact, to increase my wisdom in my studies of evil, maybe I can click on your name and figure you out. Usually the bad eggs are simpletons. After all, in the survival of the fittest, it is more beneficial to make friends than enemies. If you make enemies you will have to be on your toes more often. You aren't thinking smart or in a manner which will benefit you when you are old and defenseless. 

[Gabriel David Gomez]

I'm not sure if you wrote that thinking people would understand what sort of tone of voice you intended. But that's only text. You need to think smarter and act wiser. If you are going to comment any more, make it appropriate. not that I mind you saying "masturbation" but so that anyone who does and has a weak conscious will not see your comment and look away. That's selfish.

[Kacper Wielunski]

I agree. Happiest humans on the earth are the ones that are free from desires and understand that most of stuff that most strive for are just worthless.

[Gabriel David Gomez]

I tried to find a way to end the search for happiness and to prevent myself from being tempted to search for it. What I found is that it is not good to seek pleasure but it is okay to avoid pain. But the problem people often have is being content with just enough and not seeking an abundance. So I found that it is not wise to wait until you feel an emotional charge to do something. Emotions are often at extremes so that people either get the pain they are addicted to or the pleasure they desire. So I found myself doing the same thing I do with my body (avoiding pain/not seeking pleasure) with my mind. I do not seek happiness but I avoid stress.