when is ghosting okay?

[iceprincess]

is it okay to ghost when we've only had a text relationship? is it okay to ghost if we've hung out a couple times and/or I've slept with them? or should I just be direct and tell that person I don't wanna talk to them anymore? 

[Michael569]

If it was just a fling, it's probably ok. If there was emotional involvement, they probably deserve to know why you cut yourself off

[Thestarguitarist14]

It’s only okay when the person is abusive be it emotionally, mentally or physically.  Or the person is a hardcore drug addict and won’t change.  Or if there is low emotional attachment like a fling, or you just went on a date or two.

 

Outside of that it is very immature to ghost someone.  Shows that you are not mature enough to be in a relationship with anyone.  Also is very damaging to the person who was ghosted.

[Byun Sean]

Ghost anyone anytime you want. There is no universal morality.

That being said keep in mind the impact your actions have on yourself and the feelings of others.

 

The healthy option in any relationship though is to be upfront and honest with your actions.

[Gesundheit]

The only reason I would ghost anyone would be that they're too fragile to hear the truth about themselves and their actions (people with low self-worth, etc...). Otherwise, I would be upfront and tell them that they're not a good fit for me, without making it personal. Of course assuming I don't want to lie. Usually, I would tell them that it's me and not them and then cut them loose. But I don't ghost anyone without a reasonable excuse, at least for me. I keep being friendly with everyone until they do something stupid or abusive. And that triggers me to abandon them.

[Roy]

Ghosting is absolutely atrocious manners, but sadly it's been normalized by our eroding social culture via technology. Always muster the maturity to say something at the very least.

The only time ghosting is ever acceptable is if the person said or did something terrible (racism, cheating, etc.). Also ghosting is acceptable if that person is stalking/threatening you, or approaching close to those things.

Otherwise, yeah - Just be an adult and say "Thanks for everything, but I don't want to talk anymore because XYZ."

Edited October 8, 2020 by Roy

[Globalcollective]

8 hours ago, Roy said:

Ghosting is absolutely atrocious manners, but sadly it's been normalized by our eroding social culture via technology. Always muster the maturity to say something at the very least.

The only time ghosting is ever acceptable is if the person said or did something terrible (racism, cheating, etc.). Also ghosting is acceptable if that person is stalking/threatening you, or approaching close to those things.

Otherwise, yeah - Just be an adult and say "Thanks for everything, but I don't want to talk anymore because XYZ."

Agreed it really lacks emotional integrity and just people trying to avoid responsibility. Just never do it 

[Recursoinominado]

17 hours ago, iceprincess said:

is it okay to ghost when we've only had a text relationship? is it okay to ghost if we've hung out a couple times and/or I've slept with them? or should I just be direct and tell that person I don't wanna talk to them anymore? 

It depends a lot, most people take the hint when you avoid them a few times or act cold. 

[evgn]

I am a man and its really frustrating when it happens to me, i know i am biased but anyway.

 

 

Edited October 8, 2020 by evgn

[Thestarguitarist14]

1 hour ago, Recursoinominado said:

It depends a lot, most people take the hint when you avoid them a few times or act cold. 

You really have no choice.