Effects Of Porn : Why You Should Get Rid Of It!

[LifeLife]

Yo diggidy dawgs.  I'm going to make a slight guess that 99% of males watch porn and with high-speed internet and the increased variety and access to kids of all ages people are having more and more access to porn. AND it feel cool but what are the effects it has on the brain?

If you can't be bothered to read; check this video out: Its SOOO insightful and interesting and a fun watch. BUT beware it will reveal a lot about porn use and its effects. Don't watch if you don't want to be shocked. But if your a fearless mother-$% then go for it.

The Great porn experiment Tedx

For those of you who DO want to read ill cut it short.

Why the hell would you want to give up porn?

Well this is just my summary of the matter and I wish Leo would do a video of this he could probably destroy this subject. But quitting porn is a must if you want to self-actualise to your fullest potential somewhere down the line. For some its a first priority.

Porn is one of the fastest growing industries in the world. Did you know that besides UFOs, porn is the most googled topic on the internet? But why such the fascination. Well since the introduction of high-speed internet there has been a huge increase in the number of porn use. Men are starting to look at porn at much younger age and for some it has become a serious addiction. Plus now that virtual reality porn is an up and coming market y'all better fucking prepare yo dicks because we are entering a new age.

So where I am I heading with this? How is porn a problem?

Have you ever tried no fap febuary? I know when I was in high school not too long ago me and the boys use to joke around all the time about trying to quit fapping for a whole month. It was notoriously known as a challenge and a half and going to an all boys high school I had a lot of experience watching people crash and burn. I never met one guy who actually completed the challenge. And most guys would defend their porn use, deny its a problem and okay... its not life and death but fuck it is melting your brain away and you don't even notice. If you had to make it relatable, porn use has been defined as the new age tobacco.

Why is porn use so bad?

Porn is addictive. Straight, front and centre period. The way porn works is that your primitive brain at a certain age begins to develop urges to root/fuck/bang/makelove/makesomecoco whatever your want to call it, but to cut it short you start to get horny. Your brain starts to look for solutions and then you fall onto porn. You start looking at porn and before you know it your sitting at home 2 hours a day running home from school to chuck one out. Graphic I know but hold on.

You start looking at porn and your brain is so excited. You hit the jackpot. Your brain doesn't know its looking at a screen it thinks its jumped on the fun bus. And here is where the problem lies. Over time you become accustomed to it, it looses that excitement and you start looking for stronger and more dirtier versions of porn. You might be able to relate if you've ever felt weird or guilty after busting a load. Not to mention the constant novelty. Since every time you look at porn you are destroying dopamine receptors (the receptors responsible for reward chemicals, feelings of accomplishment) in the brain from the overstimulus of porn you constantly need stronger and newer versions to stimulate your brain again. So that kid who google searched boobies is now looking at lesbian, milf and other categories to satisfy his cravings. And it can get worse then that.

It all seems like fun. However behind the scenes this is slowly desensitising your brain to women, your constantly looking at women been objectified for the purpose of pleasure and your brain begins to associate that image with pleasure. Tell me, guy or girl, fantasize a kinky scenario. Tell me if it minds you of porn. Or do you picture the emotional build up, the conversations you had. Essentially these temptations and pleasures are unrealistic and give you a terrible perception. You start looking for stronger and stronger versions of porn and because your dopamine receptors responsible for the reward system are constantly being overstimulated you find it harder and harder to be motivated through out life. You become accustomed to instant gratification and unrealistic representations of attraction. On top of that porn causes anxiety, depression, brain fog and puts you at a great disadvantage to sticking to long-term goals.

LUCKILY. If you quit porn use you can reverse these processes thank god. However its an addiction so from there I will refer you to the video I linked plus a couple of websites and support groups that will be able to help.

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ 

 > includes a load of studies if that's what your looking for

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/

> the underground community revealing the mysterious benefits of quitting porn

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php

> no fap website

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Sick Boy]

This year I failed several times to quit porn, always found excuses to relapse.

I started again 7 days ago, and this time I'm finding it pretty easy. I just put awareness into my body (as Leo said in one video) and the urges dissolves.

Well I don't want to be too optimistic because if I let my guard down there can be always a relapse.

Edited August 23, 2016 by Sick Boy

[LifeLife]

@Sick Boy Yeah dude I feel ya..  ESPECIALLY in the first week its so tough. Keep trying, you can only improve. Even if you relapse, keep learning how you found a way to relapse each time and then from there you can catch the temptations in the early stages. The addiction IS REAL. I myself have been trying to quit since the start of this year as well and I'm back on my first week so we are literally in the same boat haha!

Each to their own however and I might make a no fap thread in a different forum section, but what I've noticed the fap addiction cycle usually follows this scheme.

1. Complication
            - (boredom, exhaustion, depression, anxiety > escapism )

2. Temptation 
            - Cravings (Wishful cravings [playing with fire fantasising for the juicing effect it gives], desire cravings [reminiscing about things/scenarios          you  wish you could have] and habitual cravings [those random urges/spontaneous feelings of horniness]

3. Negotiation
             - Impaired rationalisations ( creating rationalisations, thinking you can watch porn in 'controlled' way, unconsciously giving in to your urges in small bite sized chunks
             - Bargaining with your addiction

4. Escalation

            - Unconsciously complying more and more to your urges.
            - The snow ball effect that usually leads to relapse

5. Ejaculation

            - Fully blown relapse

So that's the scheme I've come up with after a year of no fap lol the aim is to come up with preventative and immediate measures that suit you to cut off or prevent any of those 4 pillars leading up to the relapse. Those you create from experience, what works. Generally when you fix the first one you'll probably grow a lot in your day to day lifestyle, productivity and happiness if your strategically make the right preventative measures. And from what I sounds like you've got a way to deal with the 2nd pillar I think you might need to reflect on the third one though from what it sounds. But anyway learn from your mistakes and keep making an effort to uphold that model and you will eventually have a boss strategy to tackle your porn addiction, anyway this is just what I've learnt so far  keep commenting if you want we can message each other to anonymously support each other on the journey always happy to help.  

 
        
            
 

[Sick Boy]

The negotiation skills you develop with yourself to justify the relapse put to shame Donald Trump's best deals. It's amazing.

[Flo]

Shit ...

"You start looking for stronger and stronger versions of porn and because your dopamine receptors responsible for the reward system are constantly being overstimulated you find it harder and harder to be motivated through out life. You become accustomed to instant gratification and unrealistic representations of attraction. On top of that porn causes anxiety, depression, brain fog and puts you at a great disadvantage to sticking to long-term goals."

That sums up my past life in a nutshell. To be easier to leave the addiction I recommand to work on yourself in order to get a nice girlfriend, it helps a lot (although it will be weird at first, since you're accustomed to see really hot and hardcore positions). I even thought I was gay or asexual at first ...

Edited August 24, 2016 by Flo

[IndependantKouhai]

If you are masturbating a lot or have been addicted to it for a long time, I recommend you start slow. Instead of instantly quitting it, try to limit it. If you're watching four times a day, try only watching 1-2 times, make a masturbation spreadsheet, replace porn with playboy or whatever. Then when you're ready and committed quit entirely.

It's okay if you fail, most of the people who try it do.

The problem is that there's a lot of misunderstanding when masturbation is involved. Most don't consider this as an addiction or as a bad thing; the majority think they have the willpower to refrain from porn easily. It's interesting to experiment by stopping masturbating, you learn about just how much of a dependence you have and how little willpower you hold. You completely change your thinking about other life situations if you're mindful enough.

Every addiction is that in itself but this... I remember a year ago, I refused to go anywhere with my parents just so I could masturbate in peace. Just horrible.

 

[LifeLife]

@Sick Boy ahahahahahaha yes ikr ! That's a good way to put it

[LifeLife]

@IndependantKouhai Wow.

Deep.

Amen.

[LifeLife]

@Flo Hey I been there too, there's no shame in the neurological effects on behavioural addictions. It's only when we are aware of this addiction can we begin to understand the situation and claim responsibility but even then its a growing process. Don't beat yourself up though, I've read online people have done some crazy shit during their search for novelty, in pornuse and reality. Seriously, I've read some fucked up stories hahaha

[LifeLife]

@Wormon Blatburm  I see where your coming from and ofcourse nothing is a magic pill in this life. Meditating is not a magic pill, taking cold showers, yoga, exercise... nofap.. all these areas influence the body and brain chemistry of the individual for the better but focusing on one alone is not going radically alter your life in ALL areas of life. However, in my opinion, and I think we're on the same page, is that self actualisation is about increasing the quality of our lives in ALL areas of life and not just one.

THAT BEING SAID.

This is a fact. That when you solve one area, what you gain from that area usually spills over to others. Likewise with pornography and its effects on sexual performance, quitting the addiction (meaning reducing the exposure to overstimulating material) definitely has an impact on motivation levels, general sense of well being, to some like someone commented on this thread it might mean they regain certainty over their sexuality again and confidence from the increase levels of testosterone. There are so many more neurological benefits from quitting addictions not just pornography and what it has on the brain that definitely it would be silly to say here that it doesn't have an affect on the individuals sense of well being and their ability to tackle other areas of life.

 

But yeah I don't think we need to argue here. I agree with your point. Attracting a woman is much more complex then quitting porn, all those qualities you listed should be taken into an account. But my point is that excess use of pornography is  just an uneccesary impediment that causes a spillage of a lot of negative side effects with don't need to be included in ones life. Hopefully we can agree I'm not the type to want to militantly convince others I just wrote this topic to enlighten others and myself as well as talk about our experiences.

 

 

 

 

 

Edited August 24, 2016 by LifeLife

[IndependantKouhai]

2 minutes ago, Wormon Blatburm said:

I've been obsessed with this nofap thing before and tbh I think it's bullshit, here's why:

I can't deny that it gives you that almost magic ability where girls suddenly notice you and you find them suddenly starting at you in public, I'm sure if you've ever tried it you know what I mean, I don't know how it works, but we can all agree that it's something more than placebo

BUT, I find guys are using this as a way to patch up their insecurities about talking to girls, they say that the only reason they can't talk to girls is because they masturbate, which makes nofap a magic pill to bypass all of their other reasons like a lack of confidence, lazyness, etc.

Plus, everyone acts like this sex thing is such a big deal and other things like authenticity, personality, or even having a life purpose that play a much bigger role in attraction, sex comes AFTER those things. You're trying to use this nofap thing in the same way that ads on TV advertise a special cologne that will attract every girl to you magically, there is no such thing in reality, what a news flash! There are no magic pills!

 

I agree to a certain extent.  If you can manage your craving to the amount that it doesn't affect your decisions to do something it shouldn't be a problem, your life isn't going to become a fairytale magically.

However, there are different kinds of levels of addictions that impact your life.

There are also lots of spiritual beliefs when masturbation is included, like wasting energy force or whatever.

The proven benefits of losing social anxiety, more interest in other stuff and more sexual drive seem entirely believable and reasonable to me and I recommend trying it out; it might not change a lot for you, but at least it will teach you something about yourself.

 

[DoubleYou]

@Wormon Blatburm That's just one small aspect of it though. Can't just write it off as bullshit because of some guys doing it for the "wrong" reasons. In the end, you're getting rid of an addiction. Which is never a bad thing. The benefits are just an extra. 

Anyway, I'm starting today. Kind of excited actually. It's just another addiction I never put much thought into because "everyone is doing it." But I feel like it's been long overdue. 

[LifeLife]

@DoubleYou

Good for you man.

[LifeLife]

@Wormon Blatburm

14 minutes ago, Wormon Blatburm said:

@IndependantKouhai Don't say that, nofap is NOT proven to remove social anxiety (assuming you're talking about the anxiety disorder) if it's proven,  post a scientific study, which you won't because it doesn't exist!

Please stop spreading this nonsense that it cures an anxiety disorder because many people including myself suffer from this and you're giveing them a false sense of hope.

Maybe it makes you less depressed, maybe that can be proven scientifically , but until it is don't go around preaching that it can cure a serious mental health problem, because it will stop people from getting the proper help

http://yourbrainonporn.com/brain-scan-studies-porn-users 

And there are tonnes of videos on YouTube where people say they experience a significantly decreased amount of general anxiety and social anxiety. Are you going to neglect subjective feedback and evidence like hundreds of videos and forum threads across the internet where guys have reported decreased anxiety? I myself can tell you I notice a significant increase in anxiety after I masturbate 'to porn' . I've experimented on many occasions to see whether it was placebo or not, having gone no fap for months to quit to see what effects it had. AND they're real alright haha. But you probably need a study to believe me.

[LifeLife]

@Wormon Blatburm First off let me just start off by saying that up until recently after YEARS of self development and investigation into my belief systems i went through all that. All my life i had one friend literally, no dad, spent years upon years isolated un-nutured and developed that crippling social anxiety where I couldn't look at my parents in the eye let alone talk to them without a nervous freakout. I was afraid to leave the house literally, had agoraphobia look it up. Depression aswell.. I've been there. I know what you mean, not many people would i can understand that.

But you can get out of that and no fap can aid that process. I NEVER said it's a magic pill that cures social anxiety. Let's get that straight. No one is saying that. But to a commoner it has tremendous benefits. For you like myself i had to tackle a multitude of complex beleifs systems that were so tricky and complicated to be able to interact and socialise with someone. But if i was still addicted to pornography I would have never been having this conversation let alone experiencing the quality of life I am experiencing aswell.

However, other things that played a MORE important role included; experience, meditation, books on psychology, going out of my comfort zone repeatedly spending days on end trying to learn how to socialise. Social anxiety disorder is really complex I don't think ANYONE completely understands it neurologically at this moment because of all the factors that affect it.

Edited August 24, 2016 by LifeLife

[Sick Boy]

1 hour ago, Wormon Blatburm said:

I've been obsessed with this nofap thing before and tbh I think it's bullshit, here's why:

How was your experience with nofap? How long was your biggest streak? Did you notice a reduce in social anxiety?

I also suffer some social anxiey due to bulliying in my childhood, and I notice that when I'm more anxious in general, my social anxiety also grows up.

Edited August 24, 2016 by Sick Boy

[LifeLife]

@Wormon Blatburm I don't know who is spreading those ideas but no one on this topic has said that so yeah there's not much to say there but anyway I cleared that up   And you simply cannot judge no fap from one 20 day streak a year ago haha its like going to the gym for a few months and then giving up saying that gym doesn't instantly give you muscles. It takes time for gains to come through, as well as persistence. Likewise I would give nofap 90 days atleast without porn or masturbation before you make an assessment and try and convince others to conform to your own opinions when you clearly dont have sufficient experience to back up your reasons. How do you have more authority to speak over this matte then someone who has gone for a year without porn. You don't. You have no idea nor can you comprehend their experience.

Even then you would only be able to speak on behalf of the 90 day challenge from YOUR experience. But atleast then you can make an assessment. If my longest streak was 20 days I would tell everyone to not waste their time. Within 20 days change abit but the long term benefits dont start to creep in for another month.But because I've experienced it longer I can speak of the benefits based off my experience.

 

Edited August 24, 2016 by LifeLife

[LifeLife]

@Wormon Blatburm I completely empathise with your situation. And sincerely if you need someone to talk to, hit me up. But you came on this thread with a unique circumstance. Your on medication, you have a number of problems and tried to change other peoples ideas and experience, claiming the effects of no fap when your experience with the matter is insufficient and unique.

 

Someone could have benefited from this thread but the ungrounded skepticisim you brought with your narrow scope of vision into this topic might have swayed them away. Just be more considerate, there are other people with crippling anxieties coming on these forums to improve their life.

 

 

 

[LifeLife]

@Wormon Blatburm Even then I think when you get off your medications you should give it another crack, and go for 90 days see what happens. Worst comes to worst nothing happens, your lifes the same.

[LifeLife]

@Wormon Blatburm Yup  Well if your trying to get your dopamine baseline levels back to normal and sexual function than quitting porn is a must. we can question social anxiety but that is a certain.