Be Nice and be with Nice ??

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This is a  journal for self growth and for self love. 

Self love has always been difficult for me. 

 

Edited October 5, 2020 by Preety_India

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My life channel 

I'll call it the BeNice-Self-love  channel. 

Here I'll discuss different issues that I face in my personal life and try to fix those issues everyday. 

 

 

 

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First thing I want to do in my life is learn to embrace evil and understand that evil is necessary for self defense. 

I have always been too loose or lenient about my boundaries in life. I don't want to do that anymore. 

I have understood that being too goody goody is a problem. Thats why I get treated like a doormat all the time. 

I need to stop being so kind. 

I understand that kindness is necessary but too many people have taken advantage of my kindness that I have reached the stage of FUCK YOU. 

Now I don't want to be so kind anymore. Hopefully this will attract people in my life who will give me dignity and some love rather than taking advantage of me 

Maybe I will attract people who will understand my boundaries and at least I won't let them play with me. At least I won't let them harm me.

I won't let parasites into my life. For this I need to be tough. 

Stage Orange Evil, Macho, Narc and Toughness.

 

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1 hour ago, Preety_India said:

 

I don't know how to word this question. 

This thought just popped in my head, that all stages of spiral dynamics are equally important. And something from each stage can be integrated into life. 

I think that at each stage, we can have needs pertaining to that stage. 

I can't think of specific needs. But it would be nice if y'all can add some. 

 

Stage beige needs 

Survival

Skills 

 

Stage purple needs 

Community needs 

Basic needs 

Not sure what to add here. 

 

Stage Red needs 

Ego needs 

Not sure what needs I can include here. 

Stage Blue needs 

Morality 

Foundation

Structure 

Balance 

 

Stage Orange needs 

Achievement 

Reward 

Learning

Skills 

 

Stage green needs 

Morality 

Egalitarian 

Unification 

Activism 

Democratic needs 

Ecosystem needs 

Stage yellow needs 

Understanding 

System based 

Different models 

Integrating different models 

Pragmatic solutions 

 

 

Stage turquoise needs 

Perspective change 

Structure versus content 

 

 

What more needs can you add to the above list? Input appreciated. 

 

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All stages of Spiral Dynamics are important in life. 

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One way to prod the self is to ask the question 

What are you afraid of? 

 

 

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Lessons that I learned from my ex American boyfriend Joseph. 

 

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Either a vicious attack on self esteem or judgement 

 

 

Don't be around such people. 

 

Edited October 5, 2020 by Preety_India

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Just trying to be numb 

 

That's all.