Getting sex has always been like an ego trip to me

[Javfly33]

I'm the only one that I use sexuality as a way for my ego to validate itself more than just to enjoy sex/connection?

I have had multiple examples of this, but I'll use the recent one, lately a friend of mine recommended me an online dating app to get laid. He said he could take me a good picture and I would find a nice girl.

But I have 0 interest in doing it. I do want to have sex but if I just get it withouth not doing anything it feels like it completely loses its appeal. 

For example if I would meet this girl in a normal scenario, in a club, or whatever, and I could "seduce" her to take her home, then I would feel like I deserve sex with her

But just swapping right and doing nothing and just expecting having sex with her, it just feels like I am not bringing nothing to the table.

Am I the only one who thinks like this? (I'm not saying is a good way to think. It's.not. but just wondering if I'm alone in this...)

[Thestarguitarist14]

Takes more than one swipe to get laid on those apps unless your a Chad Michael Michael.

[hamedsf]

Yeah, it's better to jump in with both feet in real world in order to improve your pickup skill but online dating can also be the good option if it's ONLY used as a supplementary to your real dating life. 

[universe]

That is pretty common. We don't enjoy fruits we didn't earn or invested in. Like if somebody handed you a trophy for being alive, you wouldn't enjoy it as much as a olympic gold medal that you worked you whole life for.

Sex is not a trophy though. You overthink things too much. Just enjoy the process, there is nothing else to do. If online dating isn't for you, that's ok. Not everyone likes it, I would even say most people don't enjoy it.

Sex, drugs, money. Those are not bad per se. But be mindful of how they work in distracting you.

[Javfly33]

1 hour ago, universe said:

That is pretty common. We don't enjoy fruits we didn't earn or invested in. Like if somebody handed you a trophy for being alive, you wouldn't enjoy it as much as a olympic gold medal that you worked you whole life for.

Sex is not a trophy though. You overthink things too much. Just enjoy the process, there is nothing else to do. If online dating isn't for you, that's ok. Not everyone likes it, I would even say most people don't enjoy it.

Sex, drugs, money. Those are not bad per se. But be mindful of how they work in distracting you.

@universe Thanks for the reply . Very wise.